Scared to tell my parents I'm pregnant... AGAIN?

[Anonymous]

I'm 21 and I have a baby boy that's just 7 months old.. I just found out moments ago that I'm now pregnant again!! Im actually ok about it but I don't know how to tell my parents and sister. When I had my first one they were disappointed at first but got over it.. but I'm afraid this time they're really gonna be mad and disappointed. I don't know what to do

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Lol like I said I'm ok with it.. I don't feel I'm ruining my life. I just take life as it comes meaning if I'm meant to have kids I'm gonna have them. Im not here to hear that I'm ruining my life I'm here for advice on how to tell my parents

[LonelyLion]

Well, kids is a big responsibilty, if you and your partner aren't ready to raise them then you probabably shound't be having them. since being a parent is part of being a grown up you have to go in there and be like "mom dad can I talk to you about something serious" and tell them, tell them you're ready to grow up and have kids, the reason they were probably dissapointed in the first place is because they now have another mouth to feed. They are right, if you were living alone with your boyfrined or husband then it woudn't matter what they think or say, but by reading this I can asume you still live with them... It might make it easier to tell your sister first since siblings tend to understand more, maybe she can give you some advice or be there with you when you tell them. In the end it really isn't that hard to use condom or birth control... you're not ruining your life but your kids life. Be smart about this kind of stuff cause it is serious, make sure your Boyfrined has a job and can sustain you guys, next time just thing about the future "i take life as it comes" is a very stupid thing for a grown up to say, you're a mother your mentality should not be that of a kid. But this is all just my opinion and my advice, take it however the fuck you wanna take it !

[Red_Arrow]

If you have a good paying job and live on your own, and somebody dependable to care for your kids that you pay, then you can say, "I'm having another."

If you do not support your self and your child on your own income and you live at home, then you say, "I fucked up again and I am going to cause you to have to support me more because I use people without taking any responsibility for myself."

[mutedaisy]

Just curious, what's your method of birth control? I'm just curious. You obviously didn't plan to go back to back with child birth. This probably the best age to do it, since your young, but has your body recovered from the first pregnancy? I'm not really sure how I'd tell my parents, but you're an adult and they should respect you as an adult. Just sit down with them in a crowded restaurant, so they can't make a scene when you tell them. They are going to react much like the same way, but probably a bit more disbelief and they may fear what comes next, because a young mom with two babies so close in age might suffer physically and mentally. The only reason they get upset is because they care about you and worry about your future as well as your little one's futures.

[chrisbigman]

That is a cowardly way to do it - bring the parents to a restaurant, so that they won't make a scene.

[mutedaisy]

it's called casualty control.

[chrisbigman]

She wouldn't have to do casualty control if she just kept it in her pants until she was more prepared, both emotionally and financially.

[mutedaisy]

@chrisbigman You're a real cowardly excuse for a "man".

[Paris13]

The way I see it from where I am sitting here, dear, if it was a Family Affair the First time around, then it is going to Bound to Be... Another fun bun in the oven, let's say.
What I am saying is that if your family consented with this with your First blessed event, they will perhaps be upset at First, but then after that like a Good and most Amazing family they seem to be, they will hold out their arms for the Second girl or boy joy.
Good luck and blessings. xxoo

[spuitkaas]

Are your parents still supporting you? Then they have a right to be mad. You should take responsibility for your actions and just bare the disappointment of your parents.

[AryaP]

They say its wise not to make the same mistake twice and learn from them... lol whats happened has happened u can't change it now. As disappointed and mad you're parents might get just let them know the truth. They love you at the end of the day and always want the best for you. Allow them to guide you :D

[26ukdude]

Where is the father in all of this? Are you even in a relationship? And if you can't support them why aren't you using contraception?

To answer your question directly, if you live under your parents roof then clearly they are entitled to their opinion. If you live somewhere else, you are an adult and can do what you want.

[psychomonkey]

This is one of the reasons why everyone says this is the worst generation.

[Asker]

Just because I have 2 kids at my age doesn't make me bad

[psychomonkey]

No having kids before you're finally stable is bad

[Anonymous]

Tell them to buy you condoms for Christmas if they don't want a third grandchild...

It's good that your content with having another child I guess, but I'm assuming that you weren't desiring to become pregnant again? Did you not take precautions?

When you go to tell them if you seem enthusiastic as though you see it as good news maybe they won't be as disappointed - at least if you're happy with doing this then you're not really ruining your life.

[_Abir_]

Children are miracles no matter the circumstance and I think you should just sit your parents down and tell them the truth and whatever the outcome you should just learn from it and don't keep making the same mistakes over and over again and if your baby daddy is still with you maybe you could possibly have him sit with you while you tell your family so you look like a strong unity

[Anonymous]

You are 18. You should know better. If you know your parents will get upset, then stop getting knocked up. It seems like you are intentionally trying to get your parents upset. You're probably right. They will get really mad and disappointed. But you shouldn't blame them. Their adult daughter and sister can't seem to keep it in her pants without worrying what they will think or feel.

[mutedaisy]

The way I see it, you are the one that is the real coward. I love how you post this as being anonymous. 😒 @chrisbigman

[Opinion Owner]

@mutedaisy Excuse me?

[mutedaisy]

You are a yellow belly coward, how about you not talk shit and try to own up for your own words.

[Anita_467]

She clearly said she's 21 you big ass idiot. And please, think for a second about what you're saying. You're saying that she's wants to go through 9 months of being sick, heavy, tired, and then go through the pain of giving birth and then spend her life worrying over one more child to feed and support JUST to upset her parents. Do you realise how fucking stupid you sound?

[Opinion Owner]

@mutedaisy I own up to my own words. I'm not sorry for what I said. If people can't handle talking to their parents about having kids, then maybe they shouldn't be having kids. They still have some growing up to do.

[Opinion Owner]

@Anita_467 Some people do crazy things sometimes. That's why I said she might be trying to make her parents upset. Otherwise, why would she try getting knocked up?

[TripleAce]

Just wait to tell them... you have plenty of time before you start to show

In the mean while talk about another child here and there, slowly creep it in

[BrunetteNYC]

Are you married? Omg, what are you doing to your life, having another kid while you're single? Wow. Be more careful and get on the pill.

[imanf7]

i pity your parents, now they have an other child to take care of

[Mesonfielde]

Clearly you should have more agency over your actions but it's too late to dwell on that now.

[Cali15]

You needed Trojan man be your side. I guess he was absent.

[throwit]

Wouldn't you be disappointed too if you were your parents?

[blondfrog]

There is a hanger in your closet you know what to do with it.

[RandomUsername3464]

That comment hurt my stomach just reading it. wow!

[FakeName123]

@RandomUsername3464

I think he wasn't specific enough. He meant her to use it in her head if she is apparently incapable of using contraception.

[RandomUsername3464]

@FakeName123 Yes, it's times like these that makes me feel glad that I don't get involved with people on this level. I just watch from the sidelines as they ruin their lives.

[FakeName123]

@RandomUsername3464

Self-lobotomy is the only choice for such people.

[Anonymous]

Well, you're going to have to do it sometime, unless you abort it

[apple24]

ouch... that wazz!

[Anonymous]

get abortion