I just called my boyfriend and heard a chick laughing the background, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

ok it is 12.19am ,i just called my boyfriend trying to tell him of some horrible news I had just received and he picks up and hear some chick laughing in the background. She says, " lol is the (insert my name)" and starts busting into hysterical laughter. I demand that he tells me who this girl is, as I get angrier and angrier, he just replies with" I will call you back later, no I will call you later" I am so angry I just hang up in his face ( partly because I am angry and partly because I am in shock. Half of me wants to get in my car, drive to his apartment , and beat his ass and then beat the chicks ass. But I am non violent, well until now .lol what do I do? why is this whore in his apartment this late when he told me he was tired and heading to bed?

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now he calls me this morning and tells me that it was his ex and that nothing happened last night, and that there is nothing going on between them two.but that he needs to talk to me and explain some things to me.what the hell

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he's been blowing up my phone, I am not trying to side with him at all but I do remember him telling me a while back he had to take care of a $700 tab his ex ran up and refused to pay for. could this be why he met her after he got home from work that night?

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i am just trying to think logically about this whole thing, and make a rational decision. But he told me a while back that he put her on his phone plan when they were dating back then and he just recently canceled it because she refused to pay.

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I joked with him and told him to go give her a good slap in the face and make her pay what she owed him. He told me not to worry that he would take care of this situation. Maybe that's why they met up after work, but who know we will see when he explains

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ok this asshole talks all day about how he is going to explain things to me.he comes over after work and jokes around, his explanation was that she just called and showed up and that he was trying to get her to leave, BULLSHIT, I kicked him out

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if I were in his shoes I wouldn't be joking around, I'd be trying to explain quick.he left class for trash and he can stay with the dependent, childish, loud, and obnoxious whore. I am cutting of all contact with him.

[desperado]

Hopefully it's his sister, LOL. I do that sometimes with my brothers, just to get them in trouble.

Or maybe just it's just a friend. If you really want to find out, I would do what you've already suggested.Go down there and kill the bitch! He's probably partying, who knows?

An ex of mines cheated on me. My brothers and me slashed his car tires, I didn't want to at first, but I eventually joined in, and we destroyed it. I bet he hates me, hah hah, I don't care, the asshole cheated on me.

[Asker]

But he didn't want to tell me who it was............he could have easily said " that's my sister, I will call you back later" he kept avoiding the question and trying to get off the phone with me

[desperado]

Well like these guys said, there really isn't a good reason why a girl would be there at midnight.

Maybe you should talk to him and dump him if he doesn't have a good enough excuse. If he's an exceptionally good liar like most guys, don't let yourself be laughed at like that, it's just not right... you're supposed to be the girl there that's laughing. Good luck!

[Tamaria]

he could be cheating but there could be another reason like he has a sister that's in town and needed a place to stay. if anything go over there calmly knock on the door when he answers nicely ask him if you can come in if and when he lets you in sit down and ask who was in his apartment when you called, and if worst comes to worse ask him straight out if he's cheating. if he dump him.

i hope this helped.

[mimi4]

ohh nah he's being nice. I'm glad he called you!

at least he called you and it wasnt you trying to call him.

and he told you straight up. that's a good thing don't worry think positive.

go over to his apartment now! say ok lets talk now cause I can't get to sleep

and just stay at his

let me know what happens etc! x

[good-looking-geek]

If she is a harmless friend and he has nothing to hide then he would have simply explained who that girl was. Since he said "I will call you back later," it means he is hiding something. Dump him.

[Ashewark]

Sounds pretty suspicious to me. Confront him about it, why should he need to hide who that person is? Why was she there at that time of night without you knowing? If he still refuses to tell, ditch him. Secrets like that just pile up over time.

[gravygirl]

I can't think of a good reason she'd be there. And if he had one, he would've given to you when you were angry. I think what's going on is exactly what you think is going on.

[mimi4]

omg! and he's not even defending him self when you said this? what was his reaction?

[Asker]

He just said just that ( above) I asked why he didn't call me back that night, he said because I was mad she showed up. But I am like if she thinks she can just show up like that at your apartment you haven't seriously told her your involved with me and that she has no chance. he told me he STILL talks to her, because they aren't enemies. At that point I knew he was a a-hole. He's a dumbass anyways he actually cosigned for this chicks car and other things, believe me this dependent b**ch will break him

[mimi4]

What the f***, this girl needs to like get a life and a job and her own friends. he needs to get out of her whole phone bill thing, and I can't believe he cosigned for her car! they can't be that good of friends its just weird. I honestly think there's nothing going on, maybe you should give him another chance? cause what you had together was great wasnt it? I know your mad- I would be furious. but I donno. maybe break it off for a little bit just so he can realize how good he had it with u?? x

[mimi4]

so did he actually end up saying that was the reason? I hope it is!

telllll

[Asker]

Continuation of above, he is all depressed weeks before this incident about how during the relationship with his ex he had so much debt because he tried to help her out (phone, car, etc) When she does strip him dry , which I am sure she will. He'll wish he still had me. I am not trying to brag, but I have my own sh*t (house, car, etc) , I am about to get my master's degree, ...who does he think he is kidding. I can do SO MUCH BETTER. (I am really not being arrogant, I am boosting myself lol)

[mimi4]

Oh I didn't see the continuation! haha no girl you ARE WAY BETTER than her! she is a piece of shit. as if you wouldn't want to be with someone who is so much better and well off than her? don't worry babes- absence makes the heart grow fonder. he will miss you sooooo badly and realize what the f***, he's stuck with this dead shit girl! I'm sure theyre not getting 'close' or anything anyways so don't worry!

[ALWAYSclassy]

You pretty much already know what he's doing. Listen to whatever lie he has to tell you, but you already know the deal. Dump him.

[LoveMaeRae]

dump his ass that ain't right. you need a guy who's honest and will put YOU (his GIRLFRIEND) BEFORE HIS EX.

[mimi4]

f*** he's an ass- dump him! jeez boys are such hearbreakers

[SupraTT]

dump his ass you deserve a better guy

[SuperFlanker]

Cut his ******* off.Then dump his ass.

[Useme]

talk to him. then dump his ass

[desperado]

I'm glad for you!