wow...
well let me try to put myself in her shoes. She actually liked you the whole time, maybe she just didn't want to ruin the frienship because she thought you didn't like her that way. I think she always had feelings for you. With the time running down she realized she didn't have much time to be with you but she didn't know how to tell you she wanted you to stay... so instead she chickens out and gets her dad to try and convince you to stay. She obviously cares for you. Instead you didn't so she might be feeling "This friend that was always there for me now isn't here for me. I like him...but he can't stay, he can't think of what we were, he probably doesn't feel the same if he won't stay here for me"
She might be feeling like she means nothing. Which is totally not true! You've called her, wrote to her, emailed her! You need to stop playing the friend because you're confusing her I think. You might act friendly on the phone after you had said no to not going into the navy and then you're friendly again in letters.
No more friendly talk...please. You need a serious face to face talk with her, and tell her how you've fallen for her.
right now all I can say is that she might be confused because of the friendly message you often send her that she is not sure might be more than just best friends, and you didn't stay...so now she's like "well he must not care for me that much. If he cared, if he really liked me and had feelings for me he would've stayed" But then you call and write, and she might just think it's "oh he doesn't like me...we're just best friends." and she reminds herself of that night her dad tried to convince you to stay.
I think you need to take the time to visit her, not call her, not email her, VISIT HER. You saying "I want my friend back" just makes it confusing for me too! You're confusing her. your best friend was right, you NEED to tell her! Get things straight and clear that you want her as more than a friend!
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It's been 5 years and you are still thinking about her. Yes, I'd say you definitely fell for her! Hopefully you will hear from her in response to your email.
But assume she's moved on and is in a relationship with another man. This would be a good reason for her to deny your friend request on FB. If you can track down her phone number, that's a better way to reach out (compared to email or Facebook). Find out upfront, if she's seeing another guy. If she is, be polite and tell her that you wanted to say hi, and wish her well in her relationship.
It sounds like you two were great friends and had romantic potential that was never realized. I'm sure you meant a lot to her, and maybe her cutting you out of her life at that time was her way of dealing with the distance. If she's single and she's willing to talk to you, now might be the right time for you to rekindle that flame.
Hmmm... Tuffie... Srry, but I think maybe someone told her how you felt about her, and she's creeped out or, she forgot about callig you on thanksgivig, and she thought you didn't like her or sumthn, and there was a missunderstanding.
First off, you waited too long to tell her. Secondly, if she was with a guy that she also fought with on a weekly basis she is a head case of the first order. The fact that she won't talk to you know even though you have a history like that confirms this.
You need to forget her, and fast. You are wasting years of your life on someone who sounds like they aren't really worth it.
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Maybe she met someone and didn't have the heart to tell you.
Wow. Five years in the making huh? I would be persistent- keep trying!
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