My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months and he is a junior in college and I am a freshman. We go to school 5 hours apart from each other and he is very involved in his fraternity. My roommate (who is single) and I were out with some of the frat guys and our other girlfriends here last night and we had all been drinking and someone took a picture of my roommate and I kissing her closest GUY friend on the cheek, which was of course a joke even though people tend to say I'm a bit "flirty"..I feel kind of like bad about it and don't know what to say to my boyfriend. Does anyone have any thoughts? Like, guys would you care if your girlfriend like super jokingly kissed a guy on the cheek? THANKS!
I wouldn't like it...she shouldn't be showing physical affection like that to no other guy but me and male family members.
You see it as a simple innocent kiss on the cheek, most guys will see it as giving your affection away to someone else he should exclusively have (since he is your boyfriend).
As I say on this site over the years, if you want to do what you want, stay single.
If you can't refrain from kissing male friends on the cheek to satisfy your boyfriend's emotional relationships needs, then you don't deserve a boyfriend at all. That sacrifice isn't asking much at all IMHO.
I think it just sends a bad message in general. You're committed to one guy. That should be it.
I have heard some families kiss each other on the cheek as tradition though so it could depend on the context. As a "joke" though? Some girls can taking joking too far. "We were joking around and just happened to end up naked." Get what I mean? Plus you're drinking, impaired judgment.
I wouldn't mind especially as its messing around and only on the cheek, on the lips would be a different matter! I'd only get annoyed if my girlfriend didn't tell me about it then I found out by seeing the picture somewhere because then it gives the impression of hiding something.
tbh, it would offend me. Cause it just makes me look bad in general. For example, what if I came to your college to visit you and met all the friends you were with that day; people would have that idea in the back of their heads that I'm okay being with a girl who flirtatiously acts with no self control- I generally don't mind my girlfriend flirting at all if she flirts with class and shows her sense of humor or whit. But I cannot tolerate my girlfriend looking like she has no class at all especially when it comes to kissing another guy.
I think it's fine if it's some European custom maybe. But if there's a picture of her at a party on Facebook kissing some guy on the cheek, who knows what else might have happened after the picture was taken. Pretty lame if you ask me...thank god I don't go for those flirty college girls, at least seriously anymore LOL
I don't know if I was with this girl that I really like, I wouldn't care about no pictures or jokes. I wouldn't do anything that might ruin my relationship. I wouldn't even sit next to a girl or make sure I sit next to one that has her boyfriend around. I would think about everything that might get my girlfriend angry.
Just go to him and don't let that go away even if he says nothing about it, because he might throw it in your face later on. He'll remember all these things.
Being flirty is okay up to the point you get into a relationship. From then on IT'S BAD. So stop bringing that as an argument. Because it's not. It's not a disease. You can control it. You can chose to be flirty or not...