Yea don't tell him that. If you are just now breaking up with him just tell him you will be there if he needs anything but you know you need this. Let there be respect and dignity because saying lets be friends can be confusing and makes the other hold on to some kind of hope. Like with my ex. I broke up with him this week, but he is saying he loves and cares for me and want us to be friends but then says we will never be more again and for me to not hold on to hope. Why would I want to hear he wants to remain friends if he says it's over for good? Sorry, but I'm not falling for that crap. You don't remain friends with an ex unless there really is something left. I have no reason to cross paths with my ex, but he keeps saying we will cross paths. Omg why?! See...now I'm mentally drained because he says one thing then another. Either a clean break or no break at all.
Don't even go there. You're breaking up with him. He doesn't WANT to be your friend, duh. At least not at this point and honestly if you asked, you might as well be slapping him in the face.
WOMEN, LEARN THIS NOW:
(In almost all cases), you CANNOT BE FRIENDS with a guy you break up with, because if he still has feelings for you, he will never, EVER be okay with being "just friends". It makes no difference what YOU want, because unless he agrees, it won't work.
Your assumption must ALWAYS be that you will never be friends again, because 98% of the time, that's how it's going to work out. To make any other assumption is naive, foolish, and frankly it's insulting and unfair to the guy. If he only wanted to be friends, he'd never have dated you (or tried to date you), so, no, he's not going to be okay with just being friends now.
no no nonono.
i recently broke up with my girlfriend and she wanted to stay friends and I said "nope, either I can have you or I cant. we can't just be friends". why did I say that? because I still have feelings for her and she clearly does not. staying friends with her will f*** with my emotions. sure, if we stayed friends I probably could have had sex with her a few times, but that would only f*** with my emotions even more.
i don't believe a relationship can go backwards. that's why I laugh when a girl says she's "catching up with" her ex. lol what do you think they're doing playing checkers and having drinks? no. they're banging.
Opinion
10Opinion
For me its impossible to remain friends after the breakup, I would agree to stay friends, just for the saying it, and really not meaning it. I would never stay friends with an ex. Even though I did chat with an ex some time ago, I wouldn't stay friends, and trust her, maybe communicate but rarely.
I think you definitely have to give it time. Both people have to be completely moved on or else someone is going to get hurt...again.
Also depends on hpw long you were together. A couple of months, totally, be friends. A few years, it might be a little bit weird, as your completely accustomed to more than friends, and you nested a lot in each other.
It's virtually impossible to remain 'friends' immediately after a breakup. Normally a breakup is one person doing something in the relationship and breaking up with the other. The person being dumped's ego is crushed because they usually feel like the relationship is good and take the rejection personally.
If you're to be friends with an ex, it's normally after you've both moved on.
It is not a problem to say that. My personal experience has been far from "staying friends" with any girl I've ever lost. It almost never works out! He'll always want more than "just friends" most likely, and there's complicated feelings and emotions every time he sees you. He might not know how to act anymore. But, you can certainly give it a shot... doesn't hurt to try. Just see how your ex feels about it and let him know your limits. Good luck to you!
When your breaking up and you feel as if you want to remain friends, a good way to suggest this is to mention that the only reason the relationship didn't work is because you value them so much as a friend and would hate to lose that just because of the both of you trying to see if a relationship would work.x
If the breakup was mutually agreed on, maybe it can work.
But a mutually agreed on break up rarely happens.
It's better to avoid that, though, as you can never really forget the attraction, if you were dumped, and if you dumped him, he will be in that position.
When guys do it, it can work, however when females do it... Well mostly it is just plain offensive to men and most men won't put up with it. Very few guys want to be friends with a girl who broke up with them, however if he broke up with you it wouldn't matter too much and could be friends.
When some one hears that it's: I don't to say it to your face but you're not good enough for me. However I will keep you there as a 'friend' just so you don't cause any problems for me later.
If you have to say it tell them in a few months if they still want to be friends then you will be willing.
If they say they want to be friends, then you can agree to go along with that.
But saying "I'm breaking up with you, but we should stay friends" is like saying "Your dog just died, but you can still keep it".
worst line you can say in that situation.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions