So my boyfriend basically said (when I was being insecure) that I am "more attractive than most people". At first I thought that was a nice thing to say but then I really thought about it and it kind of hurt my feelings. We got into a fight because I feel like (maybe I'm kidding myself) that if a guy really loves a girl, he will see her as the most beautiful girl in the world. So he basically admitted that yes he thought there were others prettier than me and tried to pull the "well do you think I'm the best looking guy in the world"? Which I kind of think he is so I was even more humiliated. My best friend is engaged and her fiancée has said before that my best friend is the most beautiful girl in the world so I dunno. Or am I just being unreasonable and psychotic? Would other girls be hurt too? Cause I'm more hurt and like wondering "Do I wanna be with a guy who feels this way about me?" :( I know the whole "there's always someone prettier than you" and I definitely don't think I'm that great- I just thought that if you're really in love with someone, you don't even see anyone else. Maybe I've been watching too many romantic comedies...
You're being overly sensitive. Do you think that he's THE most attractive man on the planet? Really? Including every dreamy dude in Hollywood and music? I doubt it. BUT if you say yes are you saying it merely to back your side of the arguement? Because I have a feeling if you do say yes that you're a liar. ;) Of course if you're feeling like crap he probably should have lied because you girls eat that stuff up, and honestly require it. Otherwise a HUGE fight over something petty breaks out (ie what we're talking about here, now). Guys have the tendancy to be honest to a fault because we're logical thinkers. Ease up on him. He was paying you a compliment. Real life ain't the movies and the stories you read in fairy tails. Any douche on here that says, "Yes. A man's woman should be the most beautiful in the world to him" is either gay and hasn't figured it out yet, or blowing smoke up your ass to try and make you feel better the way your boyfriend probably should have when you were feeling insecure... :)
No. You are being over sensitive. Just because he is dating you doesn't mean he has to think your the most beautiful women in the world. What if he broke up with you, started to date some other girl and now she's the most beautiful women in the world just cause their dating? Being in a relationship with someone is having the abilitiy to acknowledge ones flaws and know that you can accept them with the flaws they have. So be happy that he is with you since even though you don't think you are that pretty, he is willing to accept the perhaps you aren't that pretty, but he is willing to accept that. Sorry if that came off harsh but that is what love is.
But to answer your question possible causes of cheating for me would be if we became emotionally or intimately detached. At this point the relationship is over anyways and it's just boiling down to who is going to give in and say I'm done.
Kook so here is the real deal about this... if he can't look at you and tell you that you are the most beautiful and amazing woman ever he's and idiot!! I tell my fiance every chance i get that she is the most beautiful and amazing woman ever! If he can't do a simple thing like that then there is no help for him and its likely that his attention is easily swayed. My princess is told multiple times daily just how amazing and beautiful she is! She denies it and says she isn't and that Im delusional but that doesn't stop me from gazing into her gorgeous eyes and telling her! So ya girl if he thinks you're just prettier than most don't settle for ok you deserve to be the mostest and the bestest in your mans life... if he can't give you that Im sorry he's not worth your time!
no but he should make you feel like you are the most beautiful girl in the world! Even the boyfreind of the acctuall most beautiful girl in the world thinks other women are beautiful! But it is his job to make her feel like they are non existant
Don't listen to him. Every girl is beautiful in their own way. Trust me, I know. My girlfriend felt the same way, We are now madly in love and she doesn't feel insecure anymore. There's a quote I made "Everyone is beautiful, some physically, some personality wise. Either way, In the end, We are all beautiful." If you need a friend I'll give you my kik and Skype. Doiboi21-Kik Doiboidoi21-Skype Just say you're from this site.
maybe your friend is a candidate and you're not? whos better looking? her or you? that will answer your question
It was your expectation, and relationships are full of expectations and disappointments when our partners don't meet them. Your boyfriend was giving you a real compliment though that you did Turn back in him, do to simply not having your expectation met. Your question is "should your boyfriend think you're the most beautiful girl in the world" and the answer isn't really so black and white. Yes he should but he's not wrong or a bad lover/boyfriend if he doesn't. However it's great if he does. I personally love and am infatuated with the girl im with, I honestly can say I see no other girl in the world. When she wears makeup or doesn't, smile or doesn't I love and adore her to death, truly the most beautiful girl I've ever had the pleasure to lay my eyes on. I'm not blind to beauty of course I know there are other girls that are hot and attractive, sure. But when it comes to my girlfriend It's no comparison in my eyes. She truly is like the moon and drives me crazy. I never knew I could know acceptance of this kind, believe me. I couldn't even say true love would make you see the one you're with as the most beautiful girl ever but true love has done that for me, strictly just me for sure. I see the MHG up there say to say my girl is the most beautiful in the world means I'm gay and haven't figured it out yet, well I guess I'm in for a rude awakening someday, apparently a penis might attract me lol. Still I'll end with saying the girl I'm with I see only her, she is to me, without a doubt the most beautiful girl in the world:).
The girl Im in love with is truly the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. And I quite literally mean that. She is so perfect in every way. You could show me any person and I would still think that she is more beautiful. I wish she saw the beauty herself :(
Yes and no. This is hard to explain but the woman I am in love with right now I originally was not attracted to very much. After getting to know her and appreciate her I am now totally attracted to her in every way. I know other men would prefer a woman with bigger this or smaller that but honestly I am totally physically attracted to the woman and like her the way she is. So she is the hottest to me but at the same time I know others may not feel the same. He probably meant that you don't look like an air brushed model but he is attracted to you anyways and likes you the way you are. I wouldn't take offense to it as much as you are.
ive also done what he does. its hard to go around the word beautiful when you don't see her as marriage material just yet. as I see beautiful as marriage material. sexy as hookups/fwbs and hot/pretty.cute as girlfriend words
its too misleading to use it too soon. what happens if you break up? she's now not the most beautiful woman in the world, she's gone to just being a friend or in some cases. a stranger
You know sweetie - I think you're over thinking this. I think this was a big compliment, not just because he's STILL calling you attractive (because that's what was said), but he's being HONEST with you, which shows he's not just paying you lip service so that you'll shut up, lol.
Seriousy, I would rather a guy be honest with me (and I'm a big girl, so trust me, I DO have my own insecurities) than be telling me I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. Because let's face it, the majority of us look NOTHING like Halle Berry or Angelina Jolie...but his honesty is telling you he RESPECTS you enough as a PERSON to not tell you that you look like those women.
And obviously, he's attracted to you because he's with you in the first place :). From experience, I highly suggest that you don't read too much into what he says...people in general get worn out by that really quickly. Good luck sweetie!
I literally thought my ex was the best looking most gorgeous thing in the world.
I would watch movies or look at print ads and be like...he should be in the movies/model ads, he's so much better!
I really couldn't see otherwise lol
He wasn't as 'into' looks as much as me...basically he preferred my looks out of everyone but he likely was just more rational and less crazy and knew that I wasn't the best looking in the world, but I was the only one in the world he wanted...so he wanted me and preferred me including my looks, over everyone else int he world.
Some guys just aren't the 'gaga' crazy romantic type...if he is a logical/rational person, it goes hand in hand...
Hope this helps!
Try to get over your disappointment and don't sabotage what you have.
It's cool that he's so honest, he's a keeper.
I think the real question to ask him to make yourself feel more secure/less frustrated is...
'If you could have that beuatiful girl over there, would you want her over me"
And he'd prob say no...cause looks only take you so far...I know plenty of beautiful girls who get a lot of attention/getting asked out...but eventually the novelty wears off and the guy doesn't necessarily treat them super great just because they're hot
if you're not jessica alba, megan fox, marissa miller, heidi klum, giselle, adrianna lima, or are not continually being airbrushed/professionally made-up, then he's always going to think of them as being the most beautiful girls in the world. love doesn't blind you so much that your whole perception of a person's physical appearance changes. what love will do is cause you to appreciate everything about a person, and you fall in love with their flaws. so he may see you as a 9 on the scale of 1-10 (and let's be honest, is that really a bad thing?), but if he had to pick between you and a perfect 10, he'd pick you. when you love someone, you don't want to be with anyone else. you wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't have the same freckle or dimple or laugh that your partner has. THOSE are the things that make you "the most beautiful girl in the world."
i think you need to stop worrying about being the *most* beautiful. it comes off as a little shallow. otherwise, there will be plenty of girls less attractive than you who are in healthy relationships because they know what's really important, and are comfortable with themselves so that their guys can be too.
Honestly, I think you are being unreasonable. The real world isn't a Hollywood movie. Reverse the question, do you honestly, truly, and deeply think your boyfriend is the most beautiful man in the world? Sorry, but I doubt it. He may not have chosen the most tactful set of words, but I think what he said was honestly meant to be complimentary and it sounds a lot more truthful and honest than someone who would tell you that you were the most beautiful girl in the world. Guys don't always have the most grace with women, but I think you have to look past the content and think of the context. To him, you really are prettier than most people, which is huge. Instead of being insecure and second-guessing yourself and him, appreciate a compliment where you can get one. Not every man will even give you a compliment, nonetheless one that truthful.
It's not realistic to say that "you don't even see anyone else" when you're in a relationship. The rest of the world doesn't suddenly become unattractive just because you've found someone. Your boyfriend's compliment actually was very thoughtful. He said that you're *more* attractive than *most* people, which means that he does think your looks are above average. Plus, he sees more in you than just looks. Even if there are other more physically attractive women out there, you're the one he wants to be with, not them. That's a really sweet thing to say!
I think when a guy tells a girl "you're the mot beautiful girl in the world" it doesn't just factor in their looks, but their overall love for the person and all of the factors that makes that person.
Honestly, though.. he probably just doesn't understand it or never got this memo that he is supposed to say it. I didn't know I am supposed to be told this lols I have had guys say it, but I wouldn't be offended because I wasn't told it.
Remember, actions are far better than words. Does he show you how much he cares? Wouldn't you prefer that over a guy just saying it?
I know exactly what you mean and I agree with you. Some girls are ok with not being #1 and wandering eyes, some aren't. I believe if you are TRULY IN LOVE with a person then they will be the most attractive person in the world in your eyes. Was my husband the most attractive man in the world when I met him? Honestly, no.. I saw some attractive features, and some flaws. As I got to know him I slowly began to see his "flaws" as attractive and unique and sexy. Each flaw would disappear until I accepted and loved everything that I saw. I have no temptation with other men, my attraction for others is just gone. We've been together 4 years so it's not just the honeymoon stage; we've had major ups and downs. My husband says I'm the most beautiful woman in the world and I'd like to believe him because I feel that way about him. To the negative responses; It's not a fairytale; clearly you've never been in love.. We are both very monogamous by nature and I feel that's the key; some people can never put that kind of faith and love into one person if they are the type to fall in love with the idea of people rather than reality.
Sweetie, a guy is supposed to think you're the most beautiful and prettiest girl in the world. He's just too much of a dick to notice that. If you need someone to talk to, my Kik is JDisFlameQueen. My boyfriend commented on here too. He gave you his kik and Skype. He makes me feel so much better about myself. Yeah, every now and then I still get insecure because he has a lot of girl friends, one of them I talk to and she's his ex girlfriend. She told me a few days ago that she still has feelings for him and wishes she was still with him. Yes, that broke my heart. I was in pain. I know that she is he's best friend. I dont have the power to say that I dont want them to stay friends. I think she's way prettier than me and a few times, I get surpised he's still with me and not with her. Then he makes me feel better. Makes me feel loved and wanted. I love him for that. He tells me I'm beautiful everyday. I know he loves me so much. I know that for sure. You deserve a man like that. Someday you will find someone like that. I promise you c:
I found it funny because one day my boyfriend said in this order:
"you are the most beautiful girl..."
1- in this room
2- in our class
3- in our school
4- in our city
5- in our state
6- " can I just make this simpler and say that I have ever known?"
I laughed because he kept trying to compliment me, but it kept coming out wrong. I'm sure that is what happened with your boyfriend too. I watch a ton! of romantic comedies and the problem with those are that we tend to idealize the man we want. I wouldn't say you are being psychotic by any means, but I wouldn't take it too badly. Sometimes as women we unintentionally or intentionally lay trap questions. For men its like trying not to say a certain thing, there is just not right answer. I think as women we need to accept that.
My boyfriend did the same thing to me yesterday. He flat out said that a girl at our school is more attractive than me and then tried to pull the, "but you can't think im the most attractive guy at our school" crap too. I live with him so i guess i win over that girl who's prettier in the long run. but he also admitted that he wouldn't date her even if he had the chance, and then under his breathe told his friend that it's because she wouldn't go for him. I feel so ugly and a little more worthless now.
That sounds exactly the same as what happened to me, because I see my boyfriend to be the most gorgeous guy in the world , but when I said it he said what yours said to you and then I started thinking. I don't think your being psychotic, but maybe females see things differently than males? I feel crap now though like he would rather be with a better looking me . I'm sure he does think your great, its just men are obsessed with looks and don't express things the same as us. One thing he says might mean something different to if we said it. But I do think its harsh of them and they should just say 'your the most beautiful' to make you feel special. And I think I watch too many Rom coms too haha
It is a nice thought, that your boyfriend would think you are the most attractive woman he has ever seen, but when it comes down to it, there will always be @ least 1 person who looks better than us. Same with anything else, if you were an incredibly talented singer, there would always be at least one person who is a better singer than you. Your boyfriend thinks you are beautiful, but he is just being honest that there is probably 1 gal out there who is the most beautiful, you know, like Heidi Klum, Paris Hilton, Megan Fox. Don't feel insecure, your boyfriend was just being honest. Would you want him to lie?
No, that's ridiculous. If he says you're the most beautiful girl in the world, he's lying. My boyfriend says my friend is hotter than me. But he's with me for so many other reasons more than how I look that it doesn't matter.
If it did matter, I would leave him for someone better.
If the guy weren't an idiot, he would say, "You are perfect for me and I am so glad you are in my life. You make me feel like the king of the world." Your guy is stupid and time won't make that any better. Walk away slowly and find someone who thinks you are the cat's meow.
I know how that thing gos my man never tells me that I wish he did well our happy home is not so happy now because I always ask him if he thinks I'm good looking are if he lovesa me it sucks been wt a man and he never makes you feel good he gets mad because I ask him well I have to ask if he dose not tell me I'm real sad over it and I know you feel the same it sucks that a nother man is faster to tell you that your sexy are good looking then the man you love
Bulshit he shoulda said it i would dump that bitch!!
I think the only mistake is the way your bf answers to your question. I am married with a son and we are a couple that is far from perfect, but are perfect for each other. Guys are just too logical sometimes and can't differ a lie with compliment. You should know if your guy is the romantic type or just the practical type, they usually don't have that sentimental side. When you're in love with someone, you will feel they are the best for you. Despite out there they know someone else must be smarter, prettier, or better than you in something. What you should know is that if you are irreplaceable despite all those flaws you have. And if you are, it means you are the best, the most beautiful in his heart. The word beautiful does not always mean how you look like, but overall inside out. It might be only the way he answers to your question. Think of it this way, is it better to be ranked number 1 out of 1 million girls, or 1 out of 1. Apparently if he sees no other girls, you are ranked 1 out of 1 which is not really impressive. I dont think guys know how to express this kind of thing, and sometimes the do feel this way but just doesn't know how to say it out.
Man, lots of "players" on this thread. I agree with you on this. My fiancé, to me, is the handsomest, sexiest guy in the world. I notice that there are other attractive men out there, but my love for him has me nonchalant about those other men (yes, even Brad Pitt and Norman Reedus). My fiancé says that I'm the most beautiful woman in his eyes. I hope that he means it just like I mean he's perfect for ME. I know I'm pretty, but I also know I'm not a 10. But I would hate it if my guy kept looking at these other women and thought they were more beautiful than me. Sure, he's going to notice that they're attractive, but I hope he always sees me as his perfect lady. I'm so glad I'm not with any of these other men on this thread. I feel sorry for their girls, too.
I know this post is over a year old but I know exactly how you feel! That's what I thought too, that the person you love is the best looking, the best, greatest thing to you. I was joking around with my boyfriend and I said do you think Jessica Alba is prettier than me? (Which she is, I'll admit) But he said yes! I thought that he would say something cute back. But he said 'Yes, your beautiful but she is something else!' And it hurt! It definitely hurt. I got all angry and upset and he got angry at me for not liking his opinion, so I said that shouldn't be your opinion if you truly loved me. He answered by saying 'Fine, next time I'll lie'. That cut me even deeper because it felt like he meant it was hard for him to lie to me by saying I'm the best he's ever seen. Maybe I've been watching to many romantic comedies to because that is not what would have happened in the movies...
And I agree, I think that my boyfriend is the cutest, most attractive person because I love him. I said I forgive him, but I didn't realize how hard it is to get what he said out of my head.
I don't think your unreasonable or psychotic. Because if you are I am and I think I had a right to get upset. We are girls, we need and like to be treated delicately and affectionately, I guess guys don't get that.
I never tell my guy I think he's the best looking guy in the world because he's not. I don't think he should tell me I'm the most beautiful girl in the world because I know I'm not, but he does it anyway. I don't think it's wrong that he does it but I don't care if he doesn't do it either. As long as he says I'm beautiful once in a while. Not that I even say he's good looking or handsome at all, because he knows he's not that great looking. My brother says my guy looks like Adrian Brody from Predators. Hmmm...