Would you dump your girlfriend for a more attractive girl that is more your type?

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Would you dump your girlfriend for a more attractive girl that is more your type?Before you say yes or no to try and please others just go anon and give me a totally honest answer please.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

if you're asking about looks, then no. No one in his sane mind and who has learnt a bit about relationship would dump his her girlfriend/boyfriend for someone more attractive. However I think you meant "attracted to" rather than finding attractive. To me this is another story, I can find tons of guys attractive but I won't be attracted to them and it's the same for guys even if they're more visual than us. Because being attracted to someone implies more than looks. It's the way you talk, the way you act, the way you walk and all those things that just makes you you. I consider it to be the first step to falling in love, since the second builds more over time. Now from your situation, I guess your question is more "would you dump you girlfriend for a girl you're more attracted to? " or in other words for a girl you have a huge crush on.

Now this scenario happens often. And to be honest, most people won't leave their relationship even if they fell in love with someone else. I've been in this situation once, in your situation. And there isn't much thing you can do except let him make him choice, it's always better if he breaks up with his girlfriend for reasons that don't imply you than him breaking up with her because of you. To me this implied not letting him know I was "in love" with him because I didn't want to have to face him and have the "ditch her and chose me" kind of talk. This just taught me than sometimes even all the attraction in the world isn't enough and can't make up for "timing" The timing was wrong and when people are in a relationship they have more than one reason to not leave their gf/bf, security being the most important one. They already have a devoted, loving girlfriend or boyfriend. They are already in a loving relationship so they don't want to take the risk to ditch it and then "try" it out with you.

So yeah, sorry for rambling so much but this experience totally showed me that nowadays people value more their own security within the relationship than , I'm sorry to say, love. They'd rather stay with someone they already have something with than take the risk to thro everything out and build nother relationship with someone else, a relationship that might NOT work. It really gave some feedback to the idea that people were in relationship more out of security, not being alone and such than for their real feelings. It also taught me that it's no use wasting time and hopes on guys who are taken no matter how attracted to you they are because it's always a dead on situation.

This being said I still think that this quote sort of makes a point: "if you're in love with two people, pick the second one. If you really loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen for the second." but people seldom do so

Alanaaa · Accepted Answer

If depends how much he likes his girlfriend. So, usually if you're in a relationship, you don't even notice if someone better is out there. Yeah, you might find someone attractive, but that's not what makes a relationship. What I'm saying is, someone could be blinded by love and not even notice a better option right in front of their face. But with your situtation, I would just wait and see what he does. But if he leaves his girlfriend for you, what's stopping him from leaving you for a "better" option?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Look at it this way, you're never going to be the most attractive girl in the room. There is always going to be someone hotter, someone nicer, someone more outgoing, more caring, more polite, more everything. But you're you. Your guy is with you for you. If he's going to dump you for someone else then all it means is that even if you were the best in everything he would still dump you for someone else because you're not his 100% and vice versa

superdudeman · Accepted Answer

Depends. Most people upgrade from time to time.

People are motivated by trying to avoid pain, and not to pursue pleasure.

In other words, people diet not to be thin, but to avoid being fat.

In other words it depends on the guys situation and what he thinks of the girl he's currently with.

Hes not going to leave her just because the next girl is super hot, I don't care how hot the other girl is.

There are no guarantees that the relationship with the hot girl will work out. He could just break up with the girl he likes for someone hotter and then find out the hotter girl is a bitch and now he's f***ed.

Give guys more credit they think more about that sort of stuff than you give us credit for.

Were not going to just jump into a different relationship for someone hotter even if we physically want to.

malekoniky · Accepted Answer

Depends. In some circumstances yes, would! Is I knew she is better and I will go after better one any time. But if we with my girlfriend known each other for so long, have lived through hard things and she is ugly and we sometimes fight, but can get along, I am never going to leave! With time in relationship I build much. There is point where I won't trade this for some chance with maybe better girl I don't know 1/4 like I know my girlfriend. No way!

So it depends. If I knew, I do much better for all I would do that in a blink of an eye, but I believe that at some point (by which I would probably propose to my girlfriend) I won't leave!

kheserthorpe · Answer

Being a homewrecking whore would be fooling around with him now.

He's not married. If you want to be with him, you can tell him, directly 'if you broke up with her and asked me out, I'd say yes in a heartbeat'. You're allowed to let him know what his options are.

katylaura · Answer

I know that I would need more of a reason to end a relationship than there being another girl who's prettier - call me old-fashioned, but I think there's more important things to look for in a girlfriend than looks. You're not a bad person for wondering, especially with the history, just don't hit on him or try and sabotage their relationship, it will end it's own time. And be careful not to fall into the trap of becoming his rebound if you're looking for something more than casual short-term sex.

Electric_Dreams · Answer

Well my initial thought was "well that's just a win win"... more attractive and more suited to me anyway... but then if I was really enjoying my girlfriend of the time and really loved her or whatever then no I wouldn't because well maybe someone more my type isn't really more my type, or is too much my type (opposites attract).

So I would only dump her if I wasn't that happy with her anyway.

MrEM4N · Answer

As long as he does it in a mature way. That's why people date and get in relationships, to see who you're more compatible with. If he's more attracted to you and you both get along better the obvious choice would be for him to end things with his current relationship and start one with you. Just make sure it isn't just about the looks. Lust is easily and often confused for love.

sonic241928 · Answer

Here's how I see it. I wouldn't be with a girl who's not "my type" in the first place. Might I be tempted by someone even "more" my type? Probably. But I have high standards in the first place and I wouldn't be with a girl who I wasn't already very happy with. Once I'm with the right person, I don't think I would succumb to the "grass is greener" line of thinking.

That's the way I think, anyway...other guys might be different.

Markezzo · Answer

I would advise against getting in between two other people (unless you're invited for a threesome giggety).

Your situation aside, what would I have done in the same position?

I'm leaning towards a no but I wouldn't throw out the possibility if there was darn a good reason for me to stop being with my old girlfriend. But in the end, I highly value companionship and loyalty. Being in a relationship is a team-effort so I just wouldn't feel good about leaving someone for my own selfish reasons.

theydidntnameme · Answer

think of it like this. if he dumps his girlfriend to go out with you, he's going to do the same thing to you when the next best girl comes along. you don't want that do you?

Blankname1 · Answer

The girl needs to be interesting.I first aim for looks,but then they need to be interesting.I use to be all about looks,but two exes later looks just ain't enough,so if a girl is really interesting,but is only like a 6/10 in looks for me I will keep her over a girl who is a 10/10,but is boring as hell...ahh.

Peace!

MrWrong · Answer

I have never seen that work out well for anyone. Don't do it. If your current relationship runs its course naturally, then I say go for it, but don't do anything to sabotage your current relationship.

No, you are not a horrible person. Feelings like this are not uncommon either.

Phoenix1991 · Answer

Not really , I wouldn't do it personally even though I had the opportunity a couple of months ago, but I'm not cold and ruthless like that, I don't take chances or leaps of faith. Go this logic with me,

Girl A, My girlfriend, been together for a long time, happy and attractive.

Girl B Is more of my type in physical attraction but that's all I know about her.

Yeah I'm not going to take a risk like that when you have something that was stable and good.

billy_young · Answer

You're not a horrible person. In fact I would say you have the same problem as me... you care too much about hurting other people's feelings to ever get what you really want. For once just think of yourself, flirt with him and then it's up to him. If he does leave her for you then yes, she'll be upset, but she'll get over him eventually. Just don't make him cheat on her, that wouldn't be pretty for anyone.

Good luck! :)

sikoo31 · Answer

hell no.

if I'm with her its cause she's the one I chose even after looking at all the other girls.

the love of my life wasn't even my type at first, but once we got closer, I thought she was more beautiful than almost every girl out there, so there was no one to ditch her for (if I were the type to do that f***ed up sh*t) anyway.

Shiner4 · Answer

Appearence fades.  The only reason I feel its legit for them to break up is that he's unhappy with the girl he's dating.  I know exactly how you feel though and that guy has been with that girl for six years. There's a guy out there for you and if he is the one then someday hell figure that out, but that doesn't mean you need to wait for him.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

F no. Appearances are always going to fade and if I'm with a girl I love her anyways. And I won't ever break that bond after it's been made :|

KBMC1 · Answer

I wouldn't, I'm to dedicated to the one I love(d) first.. Loyalty first, all the bullsh*t second ;-)

If he would dump that girl for one and an other girl more to his liking, it will be an endless trail of desperation to me... No true love at al.

kereru · Answer

No, That's messed up.

If I leave someone it's because we re not happy together or the relationship isn't working, not because I got a better offer...

People aren't cars, I don't "upgrade" just because I see what looks like a newer shinier model.

WoIIie · Answer

She would have to give me a real reason to dump her.

Anonymous · Answer

i voted B because when you say "more your type" I think personality, not just looks. if you find someone who your personality just fits better with then it would be unfair to your current significant other to stay with them. and unfair to yourself too.

Ugliness · Answer

I wouldn't dump the one I'm with unless it's a problem with him or her. NOT because there's someone SUPPOSEDLY better.

jero_ero · Answer

mm yes... actually if I have a better conection with another person and is even prettier would be like hard to say no ... also would be a bit ... sometimes weird to know that you could be better with someoneelse than to be with your girlfriend

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