My boyfriend wants me to gain weight??

What is this?

I'm 5'4, 110 lbs with a waistline of 23 inches and I have a BMI of 17. I'm a 32C. I'm fairly fit, also. So not only am I thin, I'm athletic. And he wants me to gain weight. I'm confused. I've been with him for five years and in the past year or so he's been making subtle hints at wanting me to gain weight. I'm not a sack of bones, just so you know. I have a little fat below my bellybutton, but other than that, no. Like, I could lose maybe an inch or two in order to have a fully flat torso.

I went on a week long vacation to Europe and gained some weight due to not working out and the enlarged serving sizes. I mentioned to him that I needed to go for a jog or do some crunches when I got home because of it, and he said, "Ah well, it's more of you to love. A little more fat wouldn't be so bad for you, you know. It'd actually be good."

I'm naturally thin. I only work out to keep toned. I want him to be happy with me, but I physically cannot gain weight attractively. If I get above 117 lbs, I feel lethargic and unhappy. I tend to stay between 110 and 115.

Any thoughts as to why he might want me to weigh more? I've asked him and all he says is, "Eh, I don't know. Just do." and so that doesn't help.

I want him to be happy. Help?


Most Helpful Girl

  • If you are comfortable and happy with your weight, stay the way you are. If he doesn't like it, too bad.