My girlfriend doesn't know she's hot, so now she gets hit on and doesn't even notice?

[Anonymous]

So I love my girlfriend, I really do but she doesn't know she's hot. When we met she was chubby and short, just the overall average looking girl. But then she lost a lot of weight and now she's super hot. She got to keep her boobs and her but so she's that perfect combo of like thin and curvy, it's great. But she doesn't understand that she gets guys attention. In her mind I think she still thinks of herself as the chubby she girl. She's still shy but now she's a babe. So when she guys are checking her out she doesn't see it. Or when guys walk up to her and pretend like they have a question just to flirt she also doesn't get that. It's hard.

The other day we where at this market place and I went into one of the stores to pee and she was waiting outside. I come back and these 2 guys where obviously trying to pick her up. She didn't flirt back (they where pretending to ask for directions and she just bluntly told them, while barely making eye contact). When I asked her about it later she said they where just asking for directions.
Also now that she's thin and stuff she likes to wear shirts her friends wear, but when she borrows it her boobs look way bigger, and everyone checking her out but she doesn't notice. My friends mention that she's hot now and so I have to stay on alert with them. I just don't know how to explain to her that she's pretty. I tried but she still thinks she's fat or I'm just over reacting. How did you guys bring this up to your girlfriends.

[Izzy2102]

Idk, I would just make it more obvious you're together.
Hold hands in public, when you're clubbing wrap your arm around her. That guy probably was drunk and unable to pick up subtle hints. Or generally I found if you go out in a group that has a few more guys than girls, most guys won't make a move.

Maybe you should also work on you being jealous. I mean it's not like she needs your "protection" as you put it.
If she doesn't pick up on it, those guys will just have to ask directly and then get rejected. Nothing bad is going to happen there

[bang678]

Are you worried that she doesn't think she's beautiful or are you worried about guys hitting on her?
If it's about her selr esteem there's plenty you can do to be there for her.
if it's about guys hitting on her, there's nothing you can do, nor is it her fault.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

what can she really do about it? she can't stop guys from coming up to her

[maroonbro]

Well if a girl is hot guys look no matter what. and some will Eventually make a move on her. but if she isn't showing interest why worry about it, she's all yours. I think you need to look at this issue in a better way. think of this as a new ferrari or lambhorgini you just bought. many would look at this car of yours with an awe on their face, but it don't matter cause you have the keys.

[ChiefWahoo]

Or she just didn't find the guys who were hitting on her, attractive. Remember, girls have to be attracted to.

[vmw2008]

I think you're being insecure for nothing. If she were flirting back or seeking out extra attention on the side? I'd maybe get your point. But she's the most trustworthy, hot girl there is it seems lol She doesn't give you any reason to worry, you're just worried about other guys looking at her. Why? Enjoy the attention she's getting. It should be a compliment to YOU. I love when all the girls think a guy I'm dating is gorgeous. I only get insecure over it when I think he's flirting and seeking extra attention on the side from me. But if the guy is not doing that? It's a huge compliment.

Try to get these insecurities under control. If she feels you're trying to control her or punishing her for what other guys do (that she has no control over), you're going to lose her.

[bellahastings]

Not sure what the problem is here. She doesn't sound like a girl who would cheat, so it seems like you don't have anything to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Dude why are you worried? Isn't this like a good thing? U have a hot gf who u know will never cheat on u or dump u.