Girls do you get offended when ugly guy approaches you, flirts with you?

Question

have you ever felt this way? ok yes, this sounds shallow and unfair. personally i start to think im pretty, when handsome guys stare at me, or approach.
when average or ugly (from my point of view) guys start to be flirt with me i feel weird and think im ugly as them.

tell me if you did and how did you act.
also guys you can write your opinion too, do you feel smth similar with ugly girls?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Getting offended by someone making an effort to approach you is shallow but understandable. You see you are a female which is basically under your primitive instinct on way of looking a potential partner. You tend to segregate the attractive ones to ugly ones, so when someone ugly attempts to flirt with you, your mind automatically focuses on the physical appearance and leave out any other factors. You get offended because this kind of a 'blow' to your self-image.
You have an unrealistic view of 'I feel pretty because a handsome guy stares at me' and 'I feel weird and ugly when some average or ugly stares or flirt''. This is flawed because a physical beauty is admired both by handsome and ugly guys... This leaves me to think that it is about your persona. Notice how it is 'all about you', you somehow have some sort of 'physical beauty superiority' over ugly ones that only in your 'level' or 'league' can flirt with you. So when a handsome guy flirts/stare with you, this boosts your ego and makes you feel good. When an ugly guy does it, you feel offended by something nothing to be offended about because it's a blow to your self-image or your ego.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You have ego issues if you think just because an ugly guy flirts with you then that means you're less attractive.
You should be grateful that any guy is sweet and brave enough to put himself in a vulnerable position just to give you attention. Its not a reflection of anything about you. If you aren't attracted to him then politely decline his advances.

If an ugly girl flirts with me, I am just as if not more flattered that she shows me attention. And I am more inclined to think she is showing more bravery than some pretty girl who feels entitled to a man.

MissBex95 · Accepted Answer

I'm not gonna lie I totally understand what you mean! Yeah I can't help but feel like why won't any guy I find good-looking try and talk to me. It's weird because I notice that the guys that HAVE NO GAME WHATSOEVER have even more of a sense of entitlement to approach you, and think highly of themselves than some attractive guys. I'M BY NO MEANS GENERALIZING THOUGH, it's just something i've personally noticed and it's annoying, but I also kind of feel bad for them at the same time and I feel SUPER AWKWARD because I just want to run away. Again I'm not generalizing because there are some guys who are average looking and are perfectly nice, and don't care to flirt or try and get you into bed... man I feel awkward just talking about this because I'm just thinking of all the times this has happened lol

udolipixie · Accepted Answer

Girls do you get offended when ugly guy approaches you, flirts with you?
No I'm amused. I find it funny how in my experience ugly guys tend to be in my opinion:
- egoistical (thinking they have oh so amazing personalities)

- hypocritical (approaching gals based on looks yet crying/whining when a gal rejects them based on looks)

- delusional (feeling they should receive gratitude and be seen as brave for their uninvited unwanted approach done solely for their own interest)

"tell me if you did and how did you act."
I generally reject them in a humiliating or emasculating way depending on how amusing I find them.

matrix124 · Accepted Answer

If you're pretty, any man will come up to you, you shouldn't be offended. It's not easy to approach a person, so try to be a little more understanding. I personally would feel flattered if any man approached me, it would make my day. But it doesn't happy to me often.

EntourageNaj · Answer

In a way yes, I'd feel I deserved a more attractive girl. However, I wouldn't feel offended. I'd probably feel flattered, embarrassed (in a good way), and would admire her for her courage. Making the first move is usually a expected of a guy. Any guy would attest that it isn't easy. So its10x more sexy when a woman does it. Takes the pressure of us.

I'd like to think I'd give her at least a first date. Maybe something would come of it, maybe not.

_SPLITPERSONALITY_ · Answer

To be honest, I don't. I don't care if the guy is cute or ugly, because a guy flirting with me is like a once in a lifetime thing. I'm not pretty at all, and because of that I tend to look for personality more. I mean if a cute guy flirt with me of course I'll be happy but if it's a ugly guy who cares? I'm still happy anyways. Reason? My cute guys are usually your ugly guys. Fine, it's weird, but I like boys in the school marching bands DON"T JUDGE ME PEOPLEEEEEE!!! lol

kangy · Answer

i wouldn't feel offended, i applaud him for his courage regardless his looks and it is also up to me whether i reciprocate. i not sure how ugly the person can be because i dont see ugly people. u know it takes the guy a lot of courage to make the first move..

slywinkle · Answer

So basically, if a person could conceivably be called unattractive (for whatever reason), they have no right to flirt with/pursue someone else, because they are undoubtedly beneath them and will only anger/alienate them due to their ugliness. This is positively draconian. Hey, how about we round up all the uglies and sterilize them? Or better yet, burn 'em. Amirite?

PrinceofFoxes · Answer

I've never really felt this.

While there may be many girls that I don't find attractive, I guess I only think a girl is really ugly if I don'l like her personality. Such a girl has never approached me, and if one did I don't think it would affect my self-confidence. I would try to get rid of her quickly but politely.

shacodraco · Answer

Honestly this is gonna sound shallow as fuck but I sometimes get blatantly hit on by overweight girls and the whole time its happening I'm just thinking to myself... does she really think this is gonna work? But I've never gotten offended because a girl was hitting on me and I'm never mean to anyone, its actually flattering if anything.

topknots · Answer

I personally feel flattered. If I captured the attention of someone, it makes me think highly of myself. No, I won't try to pursue anything if he's not compatible with me but honestly people miss out on some really sweet guys solely based on looks. Physical attraction is key, but if there is a way to look over it, it's not a bad idea. If there's not a way to look over it, that's okay too. You want what you want.

Mssomerhalder · Answer

Obviously as a girl I get flattered when any hits on me. I mean if they think I'm attractive enough to approach me then awesome right? The thing is when a hot guy hits on me I flirt back. But when an ugly guy hits on me.. I try to turn them down in a nice way. But It confuses me like that they think they have a chance with me? But I'm never rude Nor do I feel ugly as them I just turn them down as nice as I can.

Anonymous · Answer

I suspect that the way you feel is one of the reasons that unattractive guys are so readily labeled as creepy, regardless of their actions.

I'm the kind of guy who doesn't get hit on at all. Any girl showing interest in me would make me feel pretty good. For that matter, if a really attractive girl hit on me, I would probably assume that I'm being played for a fool.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel insulted because ugly people are generally desperate. It's not just an ugly guy thing, but ugly women as well. I think that an ugly person wouldn't dare approach someone they find hot. They'd be too worried about being shot down. They aren't too stupid. They know who is or isn't in their league. So if an ugly guy approached me it doesn't mean he finds me attractive, but that he is feeling desperate. He is hoping I too am as desperate as him to go for him. So I feel insulted.

rUinSAYAN · Answer

I don't feel so, I sometimes get a bad approach from average or lower girls, I mean a disrespecting approach in public and I ignore it but otherwise if a nice person approaches me I can't get mad. I would also ignore some below average girl that gives a selfish vibe, something like there ghetto girls who say their boyfriends will beat you urghh they can be as hot as they want I hate dem.

Anonymous · Answer

You are one shallow stupid bitch, judging a book by its cover
What if that "ugly" guy is interesting? Ever thought of that?
When someone approaches you and flirts with you it means that he finds you beautiful
But after you humiliate him, after feeling "offended", you lose your pretty mask and look like the ugly cheap bitch you are

ymanuelblize · Answer

so what you are trying to say is, ugly should only hook up with fellow ugly? and cute should only hook up with pretty? thats not fair... also try to consider the persons personality.. its not all about the looks

Anonymous · Answer

No this is not shallow at all. Any kind of relationship starts with physical attraction. If the only kind of people who flirt with you are ugly, then that does speak to how physically appealing you are. Similarly, if really hot people flirt with you all the time, that shows you are in turn physically attractive.

Obviously this is only the starting point of a relationship and doesn't factor in personality, circumstances, etc.

Stuff_and_stuff · Answer

No... why ask this? That sounds mean. There's this friend of mine I hang out with and went to school with and he's not all too attractive but every time he sees me he hits on me and flirts. I don't feel ugly. Honestly it boosts my confidence

jwhit · Answer

If you feel ugly just because an "ugly" guy approaches you, maybe you just don't get hit on enough or at all by "hot" guys which might mean you're not as attractive as you think if this is all true that is. I don't think a beautiful female will be offended by an ugly guy if she gets a fair amount of attention from "hot" guys (which confirms she's attractive) too. Unless she just thinks they're beneath her.

OldDinosaur · Answer

Odd that you said "average" like a normal looking guy. I understand why you might get nervous around someone you feel is unattractive but even an average guy would offend you?

Guykisser5000 · Answer

I don't get offended I like when approaches me because I know they are trying to at least friends or more at least and it make my day and looks don't matter no matter what relationships no matter what type are not about looks or popularity they r if u like the resin and there personalities and how they act so no gir... We'll at least I don't get offended

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't feel guilty. Ugly people should stay single. You're doing them a favor.

Anonymous · Answer

No I don't get offended , I find it flattering. i only get disgusted when someone with bad hygiene or quite niticeably older than I am approaches me. that being said I don't really go for the typical "hot" guys, I find a guy attractive based on his personality and ofcoarse I'm more into the cute ones who have good hygiene. and I prefer a guy who takes care of himself just because I like to.

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