How can I speed things up?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy and I'm pretty sure we like each other. We went to a movie the other day together, but things are moving really slowly. Is there a way that I, as a woman, can speed things up a little bit?

My only concern is that I kind of was the one to initiate things, like the movie, so I don't want to go overboard. But is there a subtle way I can speed things up? GUYS please answer, girls too!

(he's not a big texter, so texting is not much of an option)

[Rafael151]

If you don't want to go overboard, it can't hurt to allow him the next move. Assuming the movie went OK, he's not going through the typical debate over whether you would consider going out. So you shouldn't have to wait long. Personally I don't like movies as first dates, because unless you also spend time over dinner or drinks, you don't get to know much about his/her likes and dislikes. Do you have some of that info? He could be big into air shows, museums or whatever. If you know what sparks his interest, you can tip him off to upcoming events. If it's something you like as well, that's a bonus. You plant the seed and let him think it's his idea. Did you see where such and such is coming up? It may be a bit transparent, but certainly not overboard in my book. You're not asking him outright, but leaving it open.

[LoveDoctor]

GREAT ADVICE!

[Rafael151]

Off topic, but I'm new to story writing. If I wrote a story and didn't submit as a feature, can anyone see it besides me?

[Antny]

I know you want more but its always best to take it slow so nobody gets hurt. You have your whole life ahead of you so moving to fast could mess everything up. If he likes you he will take charge and speed it up, its always a 50/50 in a relationship so you don't want to pressure the other person. Take your time and everything will work out in your favor.

[Asker]

I completely agree, in normal circumstances I would do this. Only problem is, I am a senior in high school and graduating in a few days, and I would like something to spark enough so that we can have the summer to spend together. If I take my time now, I may not have the chance later. :(

[Rafael151]

That puts things in a different light. If you thought you had forever and then some event cut that short, you could be wishing you had said something now. It happens too often. Maybe there's a not so subtle way to remind him that the days are passing without letting on who is sending the message. As a last resort, tell him what you just said: You don't want to spend the summer doing whatever plan B is. Maybe that will get him to suggest something.

[Rafael151]

I'm under the same end of school year time limit, but I have to go through someone else to send a message. It's hard to explain, but bottom line is I'd like to know how it works out for you. Have you pasted pictures of hourglasses on his locker yet?

[Asker]

Thank you so much! See I already feel somewhat sad knowing I'm not going to see all my friends from high school anymore after graduation, but it kills me knowing I'm saying goodbye to this guy too, knowing that there is something between us. He is a really shy, unexpirienced guy, so I feel like this may be keeping him from making a move?

Maybe I'm just totally wrong as he's just not interested. But we're really good friends, and we have the chemistry.?

[tex151]

Well if you like him and want to go on more dates with him call him and say hey what are you doing this weekend if he says nothing, then say me either and see if he asks you to do something, if he likes he prob will ask you to another date, or just ask him be like hey I don't have any plans do you want to do something this weekend? As long as you don't act really clingy then you should be all right I can't stand clingy girls, and neither do most guys unless they are really into the girl.