I got rejected twice but I still like him..?

[Anonymous]

I liked this guy and so I asked him out but he rejected me, but I still couldn't get over him and I still liked him. After a year when he used to stare at me a lot, I thought he liked me and so I asked him out again but he still rejected me saying that I am good but he doesn't want a girlfriend. I got over him after few months and so I started seeing other guys and got into a relationship with some other guy but soon he broke up with me. And then, one day I see this guy once again and immediately fell back in love with him. What should I do? I don't want him to think that I am a stalker and he has already rejected me twice and also I don't talk to him and I am really scared and confused. Can somebody tell what should I do?

[bobair]

You're doing what most young people do... you're making your emotions dictate your actions.

When you age and experience the world a little you'll mature and realize that it DOES'T MATTER if he's attractive. You don't need to be with every guy you find attractive.

It's not love. You don't even know him.

It's passion and lust. Nothing wrong with that, but passion and lust shouldn't be making your decisions for you. That's what your head is for.

Use your head, not your feelings.

My feelings tell me to eat pizza for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I f***ing LOVE pizza. And ice cream.

But my head is smart and KNOWS that what my body wants doesn't matter. My body wants the junk food because it's hungry, not because that food is good for me.

Just like this guy. He's rejected you so he's got a special place in your emotional body. He's a hot button for you. He's likely super cute and funny.

But what you're missing is this... he doesn't want you. He's not interested.

So every time you chase him and get rejected you're knowingly damaging your own self esteem AND you're scaring away a dude who doesn't even know you.

Instead use your head. Realize that the best guys to date are the guys who want you as much as you want them.

How will you know?

They'll ask YOU, not the other way around.

What you SHOULD be doing is this:

1) Be fun and inviting to talk to.

2) Be cute and playful. Flirt if you must. It's fun and simple and doesn't mean anything.

3) Focus on yourself. Get good grades, get educated, and become a powerful and successful woman. Men love these types of women.

4) Be social. Your network of friends will dictate the quality of guys who enter your life. If you have very few social connections then you'll meet very few guys. But if you network and grow your list of friends then you'll meet better and better guys. It's that easy.

Either way ignore your lust for the guy who has no interest and focus that energy on the cute guys who return your interest. It's a better investment!

~ Robby

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[Lyulf0]

Friends. That's all you can do. You can start a friendship with him casually hanging out. Maby you will see why you can't work out or why he wants to be single. In time you may learn about him as a friend does in time and will learn about you. He may become drawn to you or may not. Also if he does start dating, and its not you, he will still see you as a friend. Meaning he will value your input and ask you for advice if your close enough. You could be malicious with this and twist every girl against him, just pray he doesn't find out, or give him real advice and hope he will see your true feelings one day.

Either way if you have been rejected romantically you have no real options but to try a friendship or give up. I rejected a girl in High School constantly for 4 years, I ended up dating her 3 years into college. We didn't work out, but she got what she wanted.

[Purplelove010]

This is kinda like what I went through except I didn't keep on approaching him like you did. He showed me he wasn't interested. & now I can't get over him. He is always on my mind.

[Asker]

I approached him the second time because my friend forced me to do so and he didn't knew that I had already asked him once. :(

Anyways, thanks for replying.

[Anonymous]

Try and just be an ordinary friend to him. Let him know he can reach you. Don't ask him out. But be around without making him feel uncomfortable. Try going out with him in a group. He will probably start appreciating you then. If not, the loss is his and I am sure you will probably find someone you like.

[wgfreak]

Give up. Don't look back. When he said that he doesn't want a girlfriend, that's already a no in a nice way.

I am sorry to hear this.

[Mesonfielde]

You're not in love, you're obsessed, infatuated.

And you should move on.

[eekz0r]

To move on!