Why do some men think women should cook, clean, etc?

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women are not treated equally when working because men think women should only cook and clean and take care of the kids while they get to play video games and go out with their boys and the women can't do anything except stay at home and be miserable. I even heard some women say that they wished feminism never happened which shocked me. my husband even thinks this way and his family thinks this way also which annoys me.  even if a woman works then she still has to cook and clean and take care of the kids.  I just think some guys shouldn't even have kids because they will teach their sons this and it will continue until someone teaches their kids that men and woman are equals.  for the women who think this way if feminism never happened then women wouldn't be able to vote.  I'm not saying all men are like this but some. I don't hate men at all I just hate ignorant sexist people. no rude comments or name calling or I will block you. thanks

HappySadGuy · Accepted Answer

I know. It's very sad. Most men are so used to be the breadwinners, to work, have a profession, earn money and support the family, and of course the one who leads the relationship. And women are so used to be the ones who take care of the children, cleans, do all the chores, and don't do much of the decisions. And everything is the toxic patriarchys fault that has been "cotrolled" the world since the beginning of mankind. And that leads that every Man through the generatios force their wives, and daughters to do the same, while their sons only sits, eats, playing videogames, go out and partying and stuff. And like i said, this is very very sad, and needs to change as soon as possible. And we know, that the change is actually already present. But we are from ready to have a gender equality. Please if you are a married man reading this, help your wives to do the chores and listen to your wife as much as possible. And if you're a married woman reading this, please you have to protest to your husband and tell him that he have to the chores too. Learn your sons and daughters the same, because gender equality and a strong long lasting relationship is very important.
I'm not married my self, but i have been observing and experiences such inequalities in many of the relatives i know. I have learning so much from the mistakes they made, and i don't want to be like them.

nobody21 · Accepted Answer

the same reason why SOME women think a man should go out and earn money. traditional roles of gender stereotyping.

I totally agree with equality, however I note that many feminists ignore the fact that here in the UK women live longer yet retire earlier than men and still claim the same state pension. There are many other examples which feminists ignore/forget where women have an advantage because they are female.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I will cook and clean if he pays all the bills and takes care of me and the family financially and I don't have to work. If not, we are either splitting the chores equally or getting a maid.

Men slack off because the women in their lives allow it. I guarantee if those chicks grew some balls (no pun intended), put their foot down that the men would either step their games up or get out. Ain't no way in hell I"m putting in a full 8 hrs and then coming home and doing the majority of the housework, child rearing while he sits on his ass. If you're in that situation, you might as well be a single mother and get rid of him completely and just collect child support twice a month.

Coffinspire · Accepted Answer

I hate that! My man expects me to come home, cook dinner AND do laundry. He WILL wait until I get home to eat. All he does after work is clean the room and work on my car (very rare) and mow the lawn when it needs to be done, and he doesn't work 8 hour days like I do because he is a landscaper. It drives me nuts. I tell him he should make dinner when I work late but god forbid, I have no children I'm not looking to be someones mommy.

emmslss02 · Accepted Answer

So let me get this straight nobody21 you think the problem with men living shorter life's is equal to women being forced to cook and clean (and sometimes having a less qualified education) u sound like Donald trump.

TheMisogynist · Answer

First of all, it is almost guaranteed that the man in a relationship works harder while at work.

Second, as for taking care of the kids, women are more likely to be given time off of work to deal with any kids issues.

third men have lower cleanliness standards than women, if women would actually let things get a little dirty, a guy will clean up. But men aren't going to waste time cleaning something that is already almost completely clean.

fourth, there are lots of chores that are considered to be "guy" chores that guys do, such as mowing the lawn, fixing things that are broken, and other sh*t like that. Notice that these chores are far more demanding than loading a damn dishwasher.

Fifth, and most importantly, anything out of the ordinary, dangerous, or unpleasant automatically becomes the mans responsibility. If you want guys to do more cooking and cleaning, then girls need to be changing flat tires on the interstate during a downpour, getting out of bed an hour early to shovel snow of the driveway so the cars can leave the garage, and getting up in the middle of the night to investigate the strange noise and see if it is a burglar.

Or, we could just stick with what has worked for thousands of years, if you don't feel up to all that crap.

Camilus · Answer

"men think women should only cook and clean and take care of the kids while they get to play video games and go out with their boys"

I don't. What I believe, though, is that if I am working and you are a stay at home girlfriend/mother/wife/etc then you should do your part for the family. I only apply what you are talking about to those suburban housewives that don't work, don't clean, don't cook, barely know how to wipe their own ass...they only know how to spend money and complain about things.

On the other hand, if I am in a committed relationship then I will back up my wife/girlfriend with 100% effort, 100% of the time. I look at it like a team. If she doesn't want to us to be like a team then she gets downgraded to "woman that I'm currently screwing."

Iraqveteran666 · Answer

Well if a woman doesn’t have to do traditional female chores then men shouldn't have to do traditional male chores like rotating tyres, mowing the lawn, DIY, cleaning gutters, changing the oil in the car, washing outside windows, taking out the thrash, fixing things around the house and everything else.
It's more important that a couple both be pulling in same direction with equal effort rather than one carrying the other. Often I've noticed that many women seem to prefer the more traditional roles and take great pride in cooking, cleaning, sewing, knitting, child rearing and other roles house proud women take on. I will be honest and say that men would prefer a to marry a woman who's a good cook and willing to do most of it.
Also just to say that I've noticed so many people today lacking basic life's skills. My neighbor looks at me like I'm crazy if he sees me washing the outside of my windows or changing the oil in my car.

Ugliness · Answer

My wife cooks better than me. I can pop something in the microwave. That's the extent of my culinary skills. As for cleaning? Hey I did half the dishes today, the laundry, and took our daughter to swimming lessons. I don't make my wife do everything.

Shaun · Answer

The burden should be equal, I agree. Men will slack off if they think they can get away with it. If both people are working, then both people should be doing domestic duties, it doesn't matter who does which duties, but nobody should be sitting on their ass while the other one works.

TouchTheSky · Answer

I think man should work for his family and women cook clean etc, and should smile to his man when he get back to home, they can together watch movie say how they love each other,

and go together to watch movie or sometimes for dinner,

and sometimes man can also can go with his friends and also woman can speak with her friends too, nothing wrongs there.

luiscondoriharvey · Answer

think about it this way men we work from 9 to 5 a lot of the times longer we have to deal with taxes and a plethora of other things while women they clean and cook and when the routine is perfected it takes like an hour and a half then you get to relax for the rest of the day while we are working women who stay at home should see themselves as the lucky ones

Caustic_Fox · Answer

like you just updated, if both the man and the woman have jobs, then you split things up. however if the man is out earning money, the woman better be cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, making sure things run smoothly.

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz he's the one that will wash and fix your car. Seriously, trade off chores 'till you think it's fair. Oh, and by the way, it will NEVER be split evenly. EVER.

arashmenalagha · Answer

same why some women think me should go to work and pay for their lives.

Anonymous · Answer

This comment is inferior to the human race as a whole Nonsense Sieg Heil!!!

Anonymous · Answer

why? becausse they should

Why do some men think women should cook, clean, etc?

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