Why is it that when you show disinterest, you attract?

[Anonymous]

I really don't understand the truth to as why when you show disinterest in someone, like not calling/texting back at a normal pace, they pursue you more and when you show interest in most cases it's harder to gain that person...why do you think this is so?

[Gorce]

It can be seductive. lots of people actually do that on purpose! there is a limit though and it could backfire if you play it too cool. experience shows you how far you can push a person and how much you give back to keep them hooked on you. I don't really understand the Seduction game because it seems pointless BUT some people use it to "USE" other people for thier own selfish pleasure. Everyone has an ego, by you not showing interest you are slightly bruising their ego and in their own selfish way...want to Seduce you right back (even if that is not what you are trying to do)...once you show interest, they pay you back with disinterest and want you to be hooked. don't give in to it. save your interest for someone that is also truly interested in you. So to answer your question, it has something to do with the Seduction game people do naturally to each other.

[noobseaplenty]

If someone want's something a little bit, they will want it a lot more if they have to work a little harder to get it or if there is a risk that they might not get it at all.

It's like if there is a bike you really want to get, the bike is incredible but there is a billion of those bikes, then you might take your time, wait a bit, save your money and buy it at your own pace. Now imagine that there are ONLY 3 BIKES LEFT! and you have a window of opportunity to get it but you will have to act RIGHT NOW AND DRIVE RIGHT AWAY TO THE STORE AND GET IT! Don't you want it a lot more?

You see, the actual bike never changed, it's still a very good quality bike, it's the same bike, but sometimes it takes a little limited quantity to make a person ACT NOW about it, that is kind of what you do with women too.

[Gorce]

actually that is a badass answer. good analogy.!

[Anonymous]

Because it's really hard to show disinterest in someone you want really, really badly.

It's not the showing disinterest that works, it's that the people who we can usually hold off of showing interest to are usually more interested in us from the beginning.

To be honest, we usually have the most frantic interest in people who are out of our league, so that is half of the reason that dating seems to be about "games." It's not, we only fool ourselves with games to feel like there is a chance with someone we don't have the traits to pull.

[Coffinspire]

They like the excitement of the chase. Personally it never made sense to me, but I guess some people like fighting for the persons love.

[Anonymous]

Some women think they should be chased because they think the man should be the chaser, if you show just enough interest, but not too much, it gets them interested in you and chase you. That's why they say the "compliment and walk away" technique usually works. They think you're hitting on them but when you turn and walk away they start to think "wtf, am I not attractive" and it MIGHT get them to go after you

[Coffinspire]

We don't think that we're not attractive, we think omg maybe he likes me, omg maybe I actually like him too. We're screwed up in the head lol

[yopyopyop]

Dating is a huge cat and mouse play. That's really stupid, I know.

[IHateMeganFox]

I don't know but It's poo poo.