Why do women rarely show any interest on guys even if they like them?

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I notice this a lot, women who ignore guys even if they like them, or they never call or text first, or ask for a date, they don't flirt with them either or they even act cold sometimes. Which seems so confusing for men, because you don't even know if keep trying or move on.

titoloco · Accepted Answer

Why do women rarely show any interest on guys even if they like them?

I'm no expert but my experience taught me that they (97% of women population) are scared sh$%@$% less of rejection. So much that they stop trying to get a guy to like them and start becoming bitter and bitchy about the success other girls get. As a result we men get the backlash of their shyness by trying to figure out by trial and error if the girl we have interest in is giving us signals of interest or is just sending us a friend invite. There's a distinction to both, signals meaning playing with hair (release of hormones camouflaged in scent/perfume/spicy), accidently dropping something so you look at her ass, etc... (seems random but believe me it's on purpose). As for the friend request is more when she talks to you plain and simple without the accidents.

The scent of horny woman is easier to catch when she's close to her period = More aggressive with the signals. Also The special odor is easier for men who have sex regularly to catch (more awareness to opportunity.) When she's close to her period, the smell can sometimes be so present in the air that you get HOT and simply don't know why (horny woman close).

Most Girls are aware of what they have to do to prevent a guy from getting sex. But they know ZERO about how to get the guy and actually keep him once they have him. (anxiety + anxiety = Stress). Similar on how we guys more often than we want, finish in the FriendZone as opposed to Boyfriend. (it's a matter of experience)

One more thing experience taught me is that If a girls is nice to you. it's just that and nothing else. So guys keep walking, nice girl at 12 o'clock . Evasive maneuvers move at 2 or 10 o'clock and high five your guy pal at 9 or 3 o'clock.

If she's interested she'll try again. For the time being she lacks experience in brackets (she's just shy).

themastaplan · Accepted Answer

most girls say fear of rejection...god, if I had fear of rejection then I'd never ask women for anything...

do you realize how many times guys get rejected and rejected and rejected...does it make us not go after what you want?

a majority of girls like to play hard to get and if they aren't gonna chase me then they think I'm not worth the chase...yada yada yada, YAWWWWWWWWWWWNNNN

if you want us, let us know, stop playing retarded games...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A girl who ignores a guy she likes, hmmmm, how would you know she likes the guy? Maybe she doesn't? However...

I can say that if a girl is really in to a guy she can become super nervous around him and not know what to do and freeze up or otherwise appear disinterested. Guys do that too.

I see no reason to ask a guy out for a date or call or text him first. A guy who does not ask me out is not interested. I am approachable, I know how to send the signals that I like a guy and how to make it easy for him to talk to me.

I have pursued a few guys when I was dating several years back and it only proved to me the truth. If a guy is not pursuing me, there is a reason for it. He either is seeing someone already, is not interested in me, is gay, or will be ever so happy to have casual sex with me, but has no interest in dating or pretending he wants a relationship.

I left a note on a neighbor's car once to call me to go out. He was fun to talk to and he thought I was attractive. However, he kept cancelling our dates or not showing up, but then would apologize and invite me to hang at his place. I gave him the benefit of the doubt but finally recognized he was just trying for casual sex. I got him back real good. I invited him over to my place after he called me saying he was available to hang out. We had some wine, sat on the couch talking and then I told him I had to call it a night. When he got to the front door I gave him a big old kiss and said goodbye. Didn't answer any of his texts after that. Hilarious.

Sammy6618 · Accepted Answer

Women do it because it feels safer. It's partly because of a double standard.

If a man goes up to a girl and flirts it's perfectly normal and a male-like quality according to society. Even among classy men, if a man flirts with multiple women at once it's seen as being charming. If the girl rejects him, he can tell his friends and they laugh it off and make jokes about that girl being a bitch or how he can just try again with someone else. If a guy is asked out, the same idea occurs. He isn't expected to reject her if she's hot because that'd make him gay.

If a girl goes up to a guy and flirts, it's labeled as being slutty. Since men typically don't reject women, if the girl is rejected she feels especially rejected (and remember, a girl's self esteem is more sensitive). If a girl is surrounded by a group of men and she's flirting with all of them she's a total whore. If a girl is asked out, unless she has already hinted at liking him for the right reasons, she will get labeled as easy if she accepts.

You get the point.

Women often feel like they should be the colder ones or that they should play hard to get because society supports the concept. We don't show interest because that can easily lead to a bad reputation if not carefully monitored. It sounds completely anti-feminist, but we're better off waiting for the men to try.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be that this girl was very open at first but then the guy did something that made her become cold & aloof. Or maybe she's just shy. There are some really shy girls out there who won't put too much out there of themselves up to the point of not putting anything. I know because I used to be one of those girls people would call me a "heart breaker" but I didn't get it. I was always quiet & whenever someone would come really close, it'd get me nervous & I'd back away. I'm not like that anymore but I still remember that.

Shinbun · Answer

I do this because I’m not sure how he feels about me. I’m afraid of putting my heart on the line only to be turned down, humiliated, or worse have a guy lead me on, pretending to like me, use me for sex, and ditch me. I’ve always thought that if a guy really liked me, he’d approach me. If he doesn’t approach, he’s either happy just looking, is in a relationship, or not interested.

Also, I’m terribly shy so when I like a guy, I find it so hard to meet his gaze and smile at him, let alone strike up a convo without becoming a stuttering fool, etc. So I usually avoid him. It’s counterproductive, and makes me seem uninterested, I know. It’s tough.

iwashere · Answer

I think everybody kind of does this. I've had times where I've noticed the same thing about girls. But you know what? I'd think about it and realize I was acting exactly the same way. Nobody wants to stick their neck out there. Nobody, guy or girl. But eventually, someone will have to. If you like her enough, and you think you've noticed signs that she likes you too, then just go for it man.

To the girls who answer this question: As you can tell from what I said above, I can totally understand where you're coming from. Fear of rejection, fear of putting yourself out there... Guys feel the same things.

Guys and girls, I think we should all make an agreement now. If you like someone, but you don't want to make the first move, just be really friendly. Make it obvious to the other person that you really enjoy spending time with them and want to more often. And if you notice this in someone else, then make a move, because you're probably right.

kriskiss · Answer

I agree with you not all, but most girls do this as I have discovered. I have known girls that have liked me for sure but act exactly as you stated above. I think a lot of it stems from insecurity and uncertainty as most women are insecure about everything. In fact I have found the more beautiful a woman is the more insecure she is. No matter how beautiful I find a woman I can tell she is insecure by the way she acts and by her body language and there's the inevitable head games.

My advice read the most fascinating book called the art of seduction by robert greene which really puts things in perspective. its a book that deals with how to seduce, make one fall in love, etc and the psychology of all of it backed up with historical examples. Just go to amazon the reviews speak for themselves but it is utterly fascinating and gives you a great deal into female psychology and how a woman thinks,etc.

AlexCab · Answer

This site is plagued with girls asking similar questions about guys. I don't know if it's specific to women...but it does sound like a communication thing.

Lots of girls answered your question though, which probably means they have their own answers. Most of them coincide: fear of being rejected or being hurt. In any case...I'm always inclined to think that it's about both ends, not just one.

GymStatus · Answer

Women fear rejection and or do not want to put in the effort of putting themselves out there. Some will lie to themselves like "he did not like me so I did not have to talk to him anymore" or "If he liked me he would have called" even if she has a phone in her hand and his number on speed dial. Some act like they do not want to come on strong lol. In reality it turns in a cold shoulder and the guy they want never dating them and the woman complains about a guy not liking her to folks in real life or the internet...

zoe1986 · Answer

I've done things both ways, actually. I've ignored guys that I like and I've shown interest by going up and talking to them, being friendly, saying hi. They didn't show interest in me either way. Why did I do it? because I've heard some guys like girls to play hard to get. Didn't work in my case, but then again, neither did the alternative

cherrycola8795 · Answer

There are a lot of women (I included) who like a challenge, and if a guy shows too much interest too quickly, the woman becomes uninterested. I can tell you from personal experience I had a huge crush on 3 seperate guys (different times of course) and with all three they made it too obvious that they were interested and my feelings immediately dissipated. I guess you can try acting mysterious and keep them guessing  because that's what works with me

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest some girls like me don't even realize unless a guy makes it obvious unless he makes a move on me I totally ignore him as I don't want to look an idiot especially if he only see me as a friend guys are harder to read than girls as they tend to hide there emotions more and unless you physical go up to a girl and make it clear e.g. ask her kiss her etc she is completely unaware of your intentions. Plus it depends how you react with the girl I mean ask yourself why is she sometime hot with you and other times cold there must be a reason. is it cause her friends are with her or is it the fact she's doing something or is she just being funny. Did you say something that she was offended by it could be loads of reasons. I liked a guy once then he turned around and said he's call dips on a new girl so I thought I am going to ignore him as he's not interested in me. Plus girls are more protected than guys anyway try appoarching and be confident, ask her.

upood · Answer

Fear. Pride. Usually both. We don't want to seem desperate or get hurt so we protect ourselves and you taking initiative shows us you care about us, which is good. It's not fair to you but we're human and it's how we deal with things sometimes. But if you like someone, you should go for it because it's what you want and give it your best shot, regardless of how others act, its your life and your actions you can control.

Spangle · Answer

Fear of rejection or maybe thinking that she's misunderstood the situation ?

there's nothing worse than finding out that someone just thought you were a great "friend" . I want to be sure it's something more than that , and it can be hard to tell sometimes.

Basically that's why men and women aren't open and clear about the people they want to meet / date/ have a relationship with . They don't want to be rejected ...or have just plain got it wrong ; because of what they wanted it to be .

cenicienta · Answer

flirt yes they do, but some don't like to initiate.

this can have several reasons, either...

- she's afraid of reaction and wants to hear you say you like her first

- she likes the game and being chased

- she thinks its hot when guys initate

- she has absolutely no problem initiating things, but she thinks that a guy who doesn't dare to do it / is too lazy is not worth it.

- or all of the above.

Olivia9 · Answer

Well when guys are friendly and nice they are good guys but with us women its a slippery slope I mean if your very nice guys might think you are desperate it your too friendly you might be considered a whore men don't have to think like that, ever. Plus do they even know that you are single?

shaydeee · Answer

Fear of rejection , hurt feelings...

society put these stupid rules "games" in to peoples heads and people thing they should follow them.

but honestly it depends on the girl, if I like I guy believe me he will know.

Anonymous · Answer

there are lots of guys who will just take advantage of you if they sense you're interested in them...they mght not particularly like you more than any other girl, but think of you as easy meat.

even guys on here say "there are girls id f*** and girls id marry"

well, for those of us who don't want to be just "a girl you d f***" it seems the best way is put up a guard until we trust you, know you better.

_marj · Answer

Girls usually play off what the guys sending out . If she's not responding then she doesn't like you or she's clueless . Another thing is , she might be "hot and cold" to you because you could be sending her mixed messages so she doesn't really know which direction to go . I know its probably a lot of pressure on the guys to always feel like they have to make the first move ... but that's usually how girls ( or how I at least ) can truly know how to act .

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't matter if they never call or text first. (Though that isn't even true, by the way.)

Who care whether she shows interest or not?

The girls are like flowers - you pick the one you want, and just look out for thorns.

You're the man. You ask. Then it's not confusing. If she says no, move on.

If you can't get a girl by doing this very simple thing.. .maybe you need to learn how to pluck.

Bleep · Answer

We're guys, we'll never understand women. No matter how "knowledgeable" or "experienced" you claim to be.

Guysensei · Answer

dude.. cause its their nature. feminine soft, shy, delicate, etc... how can you be so oblivious to it

cherish_bb · Answer

In girls mind, guys should move first... If I'm interested in someone, I will wait, but if I really like him, I will give some hints. If I don;t like just ignore.

I think no matter how shy someone is, he/she will try to move if he/ she really has feeling for the one. If not interested, no matter how open he/ she is, no move for sure.

-Darling · Answer

Lol kinda true in my case I have to admit. I tend to ignore or be cold to the guys I find attractive, and nice to the ones I don't give two shiz about. But that's just  because I'm too paranoid, scared of getting all giggly and pathetic :-p

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