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Should you ignore or confront?

i just found out the guy I'm dating and have unfortunately made the stupid decision to sleep with is trying to date other girls, we normally text... Show More

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  • Boohoo, You got played. Being passive aggressive will get you nowhere. Players love it when the girl they played ignore them instead of creating a drama-fest. Get over your resentments of him. First and foremost: Forgive him, forgive yourself. Don't drink the poison and hope for him to hurt from it. Just let it go. Don't play games. Don't talk to him. Don't think about him. Work and focus on your own life.And yea they come back after you ignore them, because that is exactly what they want. Sex, then periods of not having to deal with the rest of the crap. It's the whole point of being a player instead of having a girlfriend. Wash your hands of this whole situation and move on quickly and efficiently. If he texts you, just politely tell him you don't really want to hang out with him. If he asks why, say because you are looking for something real, and he is obviously just trying to have fun and that isn't what you want. Tell him you forgive him, but you don't want to be involved with him anymore. (don't get snarky or rude about it, remember, it's not his fault you slept with him) LEAVE IT AT THAT! No more! Even if he texts you 100 times a day and calls you, leaves flowers on your doorstep, holds a boombox outside your window in the rain. Ignore him. And for the love of all that is holy, DO NOT start dating someone else to make him jealous... that is sick and wrong to the person you choose to play, and is just perpetuating the cycle. DO NOTHING to hurt him. In fact, pray/hope that he gets everything he wants in life and that he lives a long and happy life. God Bless the son of a b***hMost importantly: Get over your stigma against sex without strings attached. In today's society, expecting a lasting relationship out of every sexual encounter is just unrealistic and immature. Enjoy and appreciate every sexual encounter as an opportunity to learn and grow. Much like you learned that not all guys have the best intentions going into the sack. And grow to not be fooled again by the same tricks. However, also grow into realizing that if you confront him, you sound like a crazy b***h and he'll likely just stop talking to you anyway, because, in fact, you kinda are a crazy b***h for taking sex, yourself, your expectations, and relationships WAYYY too seriously.Lighten up and have fun, sheesh.

What Guys Said 17

  • You need to talk to him. Let him know this is completely unacceptable to you, and if he wants to be with you, he needs to stop it immediately. If he can't or won't stop, then it's over between you, and he'll know exactly why (which is important, for both of you).If you just fade out, then he won't necessarily know that it was this behavior that was the cause. That's not good for either of you.

  • Ignoring him is the best thing. You deserve better.

  • you say you're dating but are you exclusive? Did you have the "talk" to establish boundaries?If not he should've taken a more virtuous road and told you if he was still planning on looking around and sleeping wtih other women but you can't blame him 100% if you never establish the rules and boundaries of your relationship. If you did not talk about being exclusive then you really have little right to be so angry with him and should address the matter maturely with him.If you're over the whole situation you should still be mature and tell him that you're over it and if not you should tell him how you feel. Either way the cold shoulder doesn't seem like the best tactic.Now if you two did establish that you to are dating each other exclusively then he cheated on you and that is f'd up. You should still tell him how you feel as it is the mature thing to do but you certainly have the right to be pissed off

  • Get sarky, reply with, " Sorry, was that text meant for me or one of the other girls your dating" then ignore him, don't ignore him without him knowing why your ignoring him, this will do his head in,x

  • Confront him. If you guys aren't in a relationship he's legitly OK to be with other girls. If you feel you were lead on let him know.If he's an ass just let him and cut him out.

  • I like how when girls keep their options open its normal but when a guy does it he's the bad guy and the women deserves better.

  • Always confront. Direct is best.

  • he does not deserve another second of your timei would however send one reply, to the effect that he is well below your expected standard both in bed and out

  • so what's wrong?you had sex with him one time and now you expect he'll behave like your boyfriend? I think you need to get real.you two are just "DATING" you're not in an exclusive relationship. and you know that. you said it for yourself. of course he's gonna date other chicks. you two are just getting to know each other.i think you're overreacting.

    • Actually no I asked him if he's seeing anyone else and he said no, and I said I wasn't either, so no I don't expect him to be a boyfriend but at least be a gentlemen and inform me if he's been putting his junk somewhere else. Thanks.

  • do what you feel in your relationship if you wanna talk cause it helps then talk if you wanna ignore then do it..but be prepared for any and all things that come afterwards-_-

  • So you two have been dating for some time and were supposedly exclusive with each other? If that's the case then you DO deserve a lot better. But I would encourage you to take the high road. You didn't do anything wrong, and you don't have to put up with being treated like that. Whether or not to confront him? That's a tough one. But maybe you could respond to one of his texts and explain to him that he's not what you want in a relationship if he's going to treat you like he is. Don't go off on a rant, just be very matter-of-fact about it. I'm sorry he acted this way. Hold out for better!

  • Did you two talk about making this a monogamous relationship? If the answer is no... embrace the suck. If the answer is yes, then I would ignore him, until you cool off. Don't let him know you're hurt and just cut him off. Tell him you're dating me now.. ;)

  • How do you know he's sleeping with other girls?

  • get over yourself. If you slept with him you slept with him. he didn't make you. and if its out of a relation he has no obligation to follow anything up.

    • a relation being that he knows you are exclusive

    • im not over myself I respect myself enough to not let a guy sleep with other girls then try and hook up with me knowing that. Thanks and even though it was in relation & mutual understanding its still called was its called common courtesy

  • How long have you been dating, and have the two of you discussed being exclusive?Judging by responses to questions previously asked here, a guy who has not agreed to being exclusive and wants to date multiple girls is a sleazy player who does not respect girls.On the other hand, if a girl wants to see other guys, it's OK because she has not agreed to be exclusive with that one guy. And if he has a problem with that, then he is a clingy, needy control freak.

  • my advice: don't try to make everything about you. And don't try to make him into a different person. And don't ignore him. Leave the creepy smoke and mirrors crap alone and just be direct and accept what he says. Submit to him and be direct with him. If you try to control him it won't work. When women play those games with me, I usually go out of my way to make them feel terrible. I let everyone in the world know that this gal was my personal urinal for a day. On the other hand, if you don't try to control him, he will either revisit you, or if you are unnattractive you may be a one timer type of deal.

What Girls Said 4

  • You already have negative ill feelings about the relationship so why even try to keep it going. Surround yourself with positive relationships, not negative ones.

  • I would just breakup, he's a male slut. No point daring someone you can't trust.

  • Just ignore him if he really wants you and only you then he'll stop the foolishness, if he really is and realize that your not one to put up with the nonsense.

  • I would just break up with him. You do deserve better.

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