My girlfriend takes lots of selfie pics...I mean a LOT of them?

[Anonymous]

So my girl takes tons of selfie pics with her phone. It's usually right after she's gotten ready before we head out. She's a beautiful girl. But I never get them sent to me when I ask for some. I do however see them posted on Facebook all the time and see other guys comment on them. Some of the comments are out of line as far as I'm concerned and she just "Likes" the comments and never shuts them down. What is up with this type of behavior? Help!

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I see on Facebook too where a lot of these pics are going on instagram as well. Guys comment on them there too. WHY if a girl says she's in love and in a relationship would she need to do this?

[missjudged]

What kind of pictures are you asking for?
Because if you're asking for like revealing pictures- maybe she's just not stupid and doesn't want to have those kind of pictured out there...
But if you're asking for just normal, regular pictures of herself (fully clothed haha) and she won't sen them to you...then I'm honestly not sure why she wouldn't...maybe she doesn't have one that she thinks is good enough for you?
As to the Facebook thing, tell her! Just say it makes your uncomfortable when she doesn't tell the guys on her photos that she has a boyfriend, and that you'd like her to start doing it! If she doesn't, then take matters into your own hands and comment saying "Too bad she's all mine ;)"

[Asker]

no. I ask for fully clothed pics. ones of her smiling and looking beautiful...she USE to send me nude pics without me asking...she never does that any more. And I have told her how I feel about the whole comment things...she just says I should be proud that she's my girl and not worry about it. smh it's getting really old...almost like she's always putting herself out there for other guys to see in case she'd be interested in someone else I dunno.

[missjudged]

Yeah...from what you're saying I don't think she really wants a relationship, or at least she wants a relationship with the perks of being single. Because if she was really committed to you, and you told her honestly that it really bugs you, then she should've stopped. She's using the "you should be proud" thing as a lame guilt tactic to validate the behavior...How many times have you brought it up to her? & did you do so really quickly, or did you tell her how it really made you feel?

[BrunetteNYC]

I think on your part your concern stems from the fact that she's openly seeking attention and approval from other men, which means, possibly, that she's open to other opportunities. Men do this all the time, be with one girl yet still keep one foot out the door.

So I'm not sure, but maybe this indicates she's not in love. But you know her better in real life and only you can determine if she's doing this just because she's wanting attention. Also, look at your relationship, is she happy? Are you two getting along? Did she ask for a commitment and you didn't give it? What's going on?

[swiftsaver602]

Because she's got some serious self esteem issues. That wouldn't be ok in my book. It's one thing to obsess over yourself and take a lot of pics, but to post them for the specific reason of getting encouragement from guys (especially when said guys make inappropriate comments) is crossing the line. That's just me, though. I wouldn't do that in a relationship nor would I accept my boyfriend to. Just one of the many reasons social networking has gone to the shitter lol

[thatguy34]

I believe it is disrespectful for a woman, or a man, to openly seek attention, from the opposite sex online. Regardless, if the person feels the need for attention, as a self-esteem reason, or any other; then, that person shouldn't be in a relationship. As for equality, I believe that if the woman goes out and seeks attention from men online, then the man has the same privelage. If that is the case, then why stop there? where does the line get drawn? who draws the line? should there be a line?

[truthbeknown]

Yep, she needs constant attention and reassurance from other males that she is attractive. Since you are her boyfriend, she may feel your opinion is biased. I wouldn't like it, but as long as she is faithful to you and is a good partner too I would let her have her fun.

[Cryostatic]

Your girlfriend is obsessed with getting validation on her appearance.

[rthomas43]

She enjoys the male attention.
Shut that shit down. It's disrespectful for her to do allow that while she is dating you.

[rgb008]

Because selfies are fun, that's it.
It has nothing to do with having a boyfriend who compliments you or seeking validation for your appearance.

[Asker]

sooo if it's an issue with the person that you say you love and it bothers them wouldn't you stop doing it instead of using a validation statement like "you should be proud"?

[rgb008]

No I wouldn't stop. He has no right to tell me if or if not I can take a picture of myself. That's ridiculous.

[Asker]

how should I handle the disrespectful comments to her pics then from other guys that she "likes"

[rgb008]

Are the comments disrespectful? If they are, I would share your concern for that. And maybe she will take that into account and post less.
Personally, that's all I believe you can really do.

[Missyoungandvlonely]

wow ok that is to much and she likes the guys attention. and she should send you some when you ask

[COCOCHANEL]

let her have fun and enjoy her apearance while she's young

[Anonymous]

Guys like looking at other girls, girls like getting looked at by other guys.

[Annymous8]

Most women need that self-esteem boost.

[Asker]

but why? I seriously tell her everyday how beautiful she is and that I think she's the most beautiful woman in the world to me...yet she still seems to seek it out with other men.

[Annymous8]

She's used to you saying it. It sounds like she's the type of girl that wants everyone to tell her she's beautiful or hot.

[Asker]

so if I've already told her how uncomfortable it makes me that she does this and the comments are disrespectful...what's my next approach..I don't want to be a prick, but I'm tired of it.

[Annymous8]

Has it gotten to the point where you give her the ultimatum?

[MaskedSanity]

Most women don't need validation of their looks from hordes of internet strangers.

What you're talking about are highly insecure and/or extremely vain women.

[QuestionsAnswered]

Some women are just attention seekers.

[iampikachu]

She wants attention from other guys.

[Anonymous]

Narcissism.