Is she is waiting for my texts or just lost interest?

[Anonymous]

So here is my story. I started to like a girl whom i saw her in my family reunion. She lives 60 miles away from me. We got introduced and talked for a while. She seems to be interested. She gave her number and asked me to text her. Once we parted i texted her. The first conversation really went good for nearly 4 to 5 hours. Then she used to text me first, every morning and we talk about our daily activities in our colleges. We both are studying in different colleges. For nearly two weeks she used to text me every day and things was going really well. Then after that she suddenly stopped texting me first. At first i thought may be she is really busy with her studies or whatever. Two weeks gone but still i didn't heard anything from her. Her birthday came and I wished her over text. She replied " Thank you :) ". That's all, nothing more. I kinda get worried. So one day I texted her how she is? She immediately replied back and both of us tried to keep the conversation going.
So here is my problem started.
1. She used to text me first everyday in the beginning but now am the one initiating it.
2. She is not replying in one word and that's good. But after some times she stopped to ask the questions in the conversations and am the one who is doing it so.
3. I ve seen all the signs of interest in person. But in text, it it's different.

Here are my questions:
1. Am not asking you whether she likes me or not. Because i know the answer. But i want to know whether she is confused about it right now?
2. Like the old saying does girls hate to text first? If so why she did it in the beginning.
3. Is she is waiting for my text or playing hard to get?
4. Since we are not seeing each other everyday does it make her to lost interest over me.
So guys am going mad everyday whenever i used to think about it. Am expecting girls to give some right kind opinions about it. And also boys who are in the situation...

[XRabbitHeartX]

1. Confused... no. That's not the right wording. She likely just doesn't see the point in meaningless back to back questions over a phone and may prefer real live vs texting. I'll be honest. Texting can really boring after a while. Even with past crushes I'd get bored and would just wish to be having these conversations in real life. Texting is so impersonal and makes me feel bored after x amount of time. I can never keep it up for too long. Perhaps she's like this too.
2. Well this depends. I'd likely stop texting a guy first if I wasn't interested in him anymore as much or to test if he is willing to talk to me first. It can feel pretty one sided if you're the only one texting after a while. She might feel like she's done enough and wants you to chase her.
3. Well perhaps a combination of both?
4. I doubt her not seeing you is going to make her feel less interested IF she is truly in love with you. I've gone weeks without seeing my past crushes and I'd still feel in love with them... so it's really not that big of a deal. If her feelings are real, true and deep then distance won't make her budge.

[Asker]

Thanks buddy :) i guess i really messed up with the things. Do you have any idea to make these things right? i don't want to appear desperate or clingy. But i need to show her that i care her a lot and don't want to lose her in my life... Since you are a girl you know what will a girl expect in this kind of situtations..

[XRabbitHeartX]

I say ask her why she hasn't been texting you as often. I don't see what's wrong with that. It's a valid question. If someone used to talk to you all the time and suddenly it changes I kinda think you deserve to know what's up. Say hello to her again and then once she starts acting weird or strange then just say "I really miss talking to you like we used to" ... then see what she says.

[Asker]

Okay. I planned to text her this weekend. I hope she will be free from college works. So lets c wats happen next.. Anyway thanks a lot for your opinion. :)

[XRabbitHeartX]

I'm sure she can find a few minutes to reply even if she's busy. That's no excuse for her :) Sending a text back to someone will take 1 minute out of your day. Good luck man :D

[Anonymous]

Well since she was the one who always was texting first, she probably thought you just didn't really care about her enough to want to know what she was doing. So she was giving you time to finally find your balls and text her first for once. Trust me, that shit gets really annoying. She also might have found another guy.

[Asker]

Another guy? Am not sure about it. If it's true then is there any way to find it?

[JordanJordan]

She probably felt like she was the one doing the chasing if she was starting every conversation and keeping it going. She's probably trying to get you to chase her now.

[Asker]

Okay am ready to chase her. But don't you guys find it clingy if i text u first often?

[JordanJordan]

Not really.. I just find it flattering usually.