Guys, Is he waiting for me to reach out?

[Anonymous]

About four months ago I started talking to this guy that I met through a mutual friend. We seem to hit it off great and we were just friends for about a month until he asked me on a date after going out for about three months after that I started to get really attached to him and I think we both have feelings for each other but we never talked about being exclusive or getting into a relationship. He’s the most kind respectful and caring man I have ever dated but there were certain things that bothered me like sometimes he kept me out of his plans and I was also getting frustrated not knowing if our relationship was going to progress. around two weeks ago he called me and I had a really bad day and I kind of blew up on him for no reason, I think it was just because I had a lot on my mind and I was getting frustrated about what was going on between me and him but I didn’t outright say it. I noticed he was upset with me because he didn’t text me in the morning the next day and I of course felt bad so I apologized to him. it took him five hours to respond and he said something really dry along the lines of “that was out of nowhere” I told him I felt bad and asked if he was angry at me and he didn’t respond. I figured he wanted space so I waited two days, he never responded to me, so I texted him again and said is everything OK I haven’t heard from you and he responded an hour later saying I guess. I’m just busy. He really didn’t seem like he wanted to be bothered by me so I left it at that. I really care about him and like him and saw future with him and I miss him a lot I figured that he would text me by now but he hasn't and it’s almost been two weeks. I feel like if he really liked me that he would reach out and want to mend things but now I’m thinking what if he’s waiting for me to reach out to him? Can I get a guys opinion on what I should do? Is it a lost cause or is he waiting on me to try to make things right.

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Sidenote I posted a picture on Instagram from my friends birthday party a few days ago and he did like the picture but still hasn’t texted me. I don’t want to look desperate and foolish by reaching out to someone who seemingly doesn’t want to talk to me but at the same time what if he thinks I’m the one who doesn’t care when I truly do?

[OlderAndWiser]

Just call (don't be a coward and text) and ask him "is this your way to telling me it's over or do you want to see me again? I'd like to keep seeing you but only if you want the same thing."

[Guy13]

Have you rehearsed what you would say... if he reached out to you. Have you reached out to him since the long dry spell?

[Asker]

I haven’t reached out id probably act causal if he reached out. If I reach out what should I say?

[Guy13]

How about you crossed my mind and I thought I would shoot you a word. How are things (Work-whatever... something you know he likes to talk about). A just want to check in and see how things are going etc. IF he does not respond THEN you can rest in peace and know he is simply an asshole !!! Peace of Mind is worth one more shot... Is this rambling making sense?

[Asker]

Yes it does! I’ll send it and keep you updated

[Guy13]

Sounds Good !!

[Asker]

So he responded and we texted yesterday he was asking questions and keeping the conversation going but I said am I ever gonna see you again and he waited the whole night to text back and texted me in the morning just saying “yes” and then didn’t say anything else so I can’t really tell if he’s just trying to be nice or actually wants to. We were just having small talk before he was asking about my job and stuff and I was asking about his

[Guy13]

I woukd be done. One sentence answers and never one word “temper tantrum” response-Yes. No.

[Avicenna]

Try contacting him again

[Asker]

What should I say