Girlfriend constantly asking about past relationships. Why?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend of 5 months is constantly asking about all my past relationships. I tell her I don't want to talk about them, but even so she keeps asking. She has free willingly mentioned her's without me ever asking about them and will always say, "I've shared mine, so why can't you?" Honestly not to sound rude, but I feel like it's none of her business who I dated before we met, but I have never said that to her. Don't think I should have so share things about my past if I don't want to. What do you think?

[Skittles_lover]

Well to an extent I think its important depending on what she is asking. If its stuff like what did she look like, what's her name, how'd y'all meet. That's minor and you don't have to answer. But stuff that I personally find important is why y'all ended (did you cheat, etc...), how long did you date them (if every relationship you had was less than 2 months I would question your ability to stay committed). So you know, for reasons like that I would ask about someone's past relationship. Oh and those were examples, I'm sure you aren't a cheater.

[Asker]

But I still think I shouldn't be required to share something I don't want to.

[Skittles_lover]

I do agree with you to an extent, if you don't want to share then you don't want to. I'd like to hope she had genuine reasons for wanting to know like the reasons I mentioned vs. just being jealous like Meg_loves mentioned. So besides the fact that its none of her business and that you don't want to share, is there any bigger reason why you don't want to share? Were they bad past relationships? Did they scar you in some way? Do you think she wouldn't want to be with you if she knew something about you?

[misscoffeehead]

You dont need to tell her unless you want to. Why she is trying to hammer it out of you? She just wants to know what types of girls you dated before you got to her.

i reckon this is the biggest mistake people do in a relationship dont talk about your ex's people! Its the past and it stays in the past.

[Meg_loves]

sizing up compition, girls compare themselves to other girls- its our nature, we want to make sure we dont make the mistakes the past girls did and we also want to make sure we one up them. It's a bit of jealously as well as just making sure she stays numero uno

[MothMonsterMan]

You're right. You don't have to if you don't want to. If she doesn't like it, tough luck. I guarantee you if you share, she's going to get pissed about something she doesn't like. Women are like they. They ask questions and pressure for answers, then don't like the answers they get.

[Anonymous]

She wants to know as much as she can about you, because she is constantly assessing you and whether or not you're good enough for her.

[Fireguy17]

she is just looking to see if there are patterns that she would want to avoid, just looking to see if you keep doing the same behavior patterns over and over.
just trying to get to understand you better and why your past relationships failed.
Nothing wrong with that.
She would rather find things out now vs investing a lot of time and effort into a relationship that may or may not go anywhere.
It is a very fair thing for her to ask.
it is part of your history, and if she senses something is up and that is why you won't talk about it she might just be history.

[Curmudgeon]

Well, reciprocity is a common instinct. That is, she spilled her proverbial guts to you about her past, and she feels like you should do the same so she feels less vulnerable and all that. Definitely don't dwell on it "blow by blow", but giving her the "Cliff Notes" (does anyone younger still get that reference?) on what happened might put the issue to rest.

[Cute_potato01]

She wants to know u n what u did wrong. It's common to get a history b4 actually dating the guy

[Nikki1989]

I would be walking out of the door if anyone pulled that crap on me.

[unicornsandglitter]

She probably thinks you're being sneaky about it.