I made her jealous and now she's ignoring me, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

i started flirting with another girl (good looking). I thought if I made the other girl I've been hanging out with for 2.5 weeks a little jealous, it would maker her more into me (because I find her very interesting and cute). I think it worked to well because she seemed visibly upset and then didn't hang out with me, ignored me the whole night..
Can anyone give me suggestions of what to do next? How do I play my next move?

[wintergirl86]

There are a lot of people who don't play that game. I think you just found one. Any guy who does that to me I move on. You showed how you don't really care about her. That she isn't the only girl in your life. Truth be told. That type of game is pointless. Maybe you should tell her truth. Tell her why you did it. She'll either understand and forgive you or she won't and move on. You played a game. When playing games you always have a chance of losing. Good luck.

[UberTroll]

Yep, that's how I feel about it too. Why waste your time with someone who isn't going to make you a priority?

[wintergirl86]

@UberTroll Exactly!

[Asker]

i get what you are saying. But in fairness, its only been like 2 weeks. So she can't just become top and only priority so fast right? I discussed with a close friend and he said that this works in my favour and a little jealousy helps and that she'll think about me a lot more now?

[wintergirl86]

I still wouldn't be surprised if that turned her off. Not all people are into games. I'm sorry, but you're in your 30s. You should be over the games part. If it was me and a guy around that age did that to me. I would move on. High school boys play that game.

[Asker]

yeah you could be right.. it might have put her off. so suppose i agree with you, whats my next move?

[Kyndra]

I hate when guys do that. I don't think admitting you wanted to make her jealous is a good move. Nor saying that you enjoyed the other girl's company. It works with me when the guy acts reaally cute. I might take my anger out on him at first but I'll cool down if he keeps acting cute.

[AmyGirlyeaah]

tell her that you really like her and you are sorry if u hurted her feelings but that you wanted to make her jealous
i know it is scary, but invite her for a date or something

[coffeprince]

Next move.. Ask her out for coffee or a bite to eat and reconnect, I don't think you have to fess up, just show her your still interested in her

[Asker]

thank you..

[Asker]

so you mean, just don't bring it up at all when we meet up?

[coffeprince]

I definitely wouldn't bring any of that up, I'd just focus on where you both could take it

[coffeprince]

Don't focus on the past, just catch up and see where things go ;)

[Asker]

and should i just ignore the fact that she might be irritated because I gave importance to the other girl? Just keep the flow going and maybe make her laugh etc.. what if it comes up though?

[CaliforniaMe]

How did this turn out for you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe think about someone more than yourself for a second? You're using another human being as a gamepiece to be discarded the second you get what you want out of her, so you can go on and try to pointlessly manipulate the original girl. Maybe move Rook to E5?

[luvme56]

Girls hate mind games... so just tell her the truth!

[UberTroll]

And this is why you shouldn't play games like that. The best you can do is admit you were wrong, apologize for it, and hope she forgives you. And don't do that shit again.

[Asker]

I agree with you about not playing games. But truthfully you know how this works.. there's gotta be some stuff going on like this to increase attraction. And I was genuinely enjoying the other girl's company, wasn't being a douche on purpose. Anyhow, I think I've screwed up and she might be pissed off and due to that emotion might start seeing other dudes. I was thinking of acting nonchelant and act like nothing happened and nothings wrong.. What do you think? I don't want to make it a big deal by apologizing..

[UberTroll]

No there doesn't. You're more likely to drive her away by doing that, unless she's stupid which is possible. If you want her to be more attracted to you then you should show her you're worth the attraction by letting her see that you think she's special. You just don't want to go overboard and act clingy. I think it would make you look better to be a big person and admit that you did something bad and you're sorry that you hurt her. Do what you want, but I think that would be the best course of action.

[kangy]

Why do people like to play such games?
If you like her then be direct about it. Dont do this. It just make me feel how immature a guy is.

[BlackHawk001]

Don't be a selfish idiot. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Next move: dick pic to F3!