Am I being friend zoned or does she actually have some feelings for me and isn't sure yet?

[Anonymous]

I've known this girl for a few months and we get along really well. I have had a crush on her and she recently called me out on it. Asked me about my crush and i decided to just confess my feelings. She says she has known i had a crush ever since she knew me because she overheard a conversation with me and my friend.
The next day, i asked her how she felt about me and she told me she likes me too but she isn't looking for anything right now. She said she has issues with this other guy... she likes him but told me she would never date him because he's a fuckbou and he doesn't even give her the time of day. She said she wants to hang out and still talk to me though.
When im with her, she will play around with me like steal my phone, or hit my butt, or tease me about liking her or missing her. She hangs out with me a lot as well.

Does this mean that she isn't interested in me at all and only wants to be friends?

I just dont really understand. Me and her have never really gone out on a date but at this point, im not even sure if i should ask her out. Im just really confused about her feelings for me.

She likes you, but isn't sure yet about being in a relationship with you.

She just want to be friends.

She may like you, ask her out. She needs to see more.

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Ever since all of this has happened. She is around me so much more.
We have gone out to eat, we flirt openly, we walk together to classes.

[martmi29]

Don't ask her out. Asking her out implies dating = relationship. Pressuring her to date you when she already told you that she's "not looking for anything right now" will only push her away. Do not ignore that. By her behavior, it looks like there is still a chance. Keep "hanging out" if it feels right. If she ever suggests to go somewhere or do something with you, and only you (not in a group, especially if they are her friends but not yours), invite her to do what she suggests right then. Just say "why not, lets do it" or tease her a bit and say something like "Gee, that sounds kind of like a date. Thought you weren't looking for anything" or something to that effect. These are just suggestions. Use your judgement. You know the situation best and if that sort of humor would work or not. Since she's the one offering the suggestion to go somewhere or do something with you, that could mean she's ready to get you to ask her out.

In the meantime, I would suggest to do some projects on your own to keep your mind off her. Such as playing a sport, learn a martial art, train at a gym (get a competent trainer if you don't know what you're doing), start your own business, learn a new skill/course, do something you've always wanted to do etc. Basically, lead your own life. It will only make her more curious about you if she does like you.

[UpperEchellon]

From my experience, I would say girls love to know that they are liked and want to keep all the attention. If a worthy guy likes her, she wants to keep him liking her, but at the same time, she probably likes another guy, so she's looking for an excuse to keep you on the hook, but not be with you. If she realizes that guy that she likes doesn't like her, she may turn to you.

[Asker]

She knows the other guy doesn't like her. I honestly think I've just been friend-zoned.

[UpperEchellon]

She's probably hanging onto any thread of hope she has of him liking her and that's why she hasn't given you a chance yet. Wait until she's completely over him, and then she'll be open for something with you.

[lilac_flowers]

You're just a very good option and a casual emotional cushion. You're cool, but not the best there is. The best there is is currently holding all her attention and that guy doesn't want her. If he breaks her heart, or she finally gives up on him, she'll look to you, you make a move and you're in. Another option is to look at that guy and see what he has that you may lack. That could do the trick, self improvement. But I'd sooner bet he as he is, is more her type than you and that's the whole issue.

[14114325]

to put it nicely, you are a really good guy friend.
to put it not so nicely, you are her backup, the one to ego-boost her and make her feel wanted, secretly she is still struggling to not give in her feelings for that fuckboy. maybe when she finally gives up on the fuckboy she will come to you, or she might just move on to the next fuckboy, you will never know.

[Kali1234]

More than likely she's using you for her own boy toy amusement and probably has no intention of dating you. The 'not looking for anything right now' is a classic excuse girl routine. I've seen this in too many girls. If she flat out talks about another guy to your face; you've been friend-zoned.

[eringer11]

She likes you, but you like her a lot more. She doesn't want a relationship

[Prof_Don]

I say be aggressive and ask her out... and see what happens.

This is exactly why you keep your iterations high in the dating game, as in talking to many girls all the time, everywhere you go.

The BIGGEST mistake a guy can make (besides not approaching girls at all), is to approach only one girl at a time!

[GigiTheGuilbert]

it seems like she likes you and is waiting for you to make the first move.