What the fuck are you doing? Pump the breaks kid. Stop putting her on a pedestal and claiming she's perfect. She's not. She's even admitted as much and from reading that mass of text, I can even tell she's not. I can also tell she's not interested in you and repeated that shit multiple times only for your love-drunk ass to ignore it and proceed to shoot yourself more times in the foot. She's not fucking interested and telling her repeatedly how you feel won't change shit. At this point I'm wondering if she evens wants to be friends with you the way you seem to be incapable of talking about anything else but your feelings for her. My advice: forget the hoe. Focus on other girls, can the relationship and oh you're so perfect shit until you're actually in a relationship. Just ask girls out casually keeping how you feel locked away to never see the light of day. That way you're not smothering them with your needy romantic shit like you clearly did with this one hussy. Full stop, if you canned the touchy feely shit and asked her to hang out then got physical, you'd probably be balls deep inside her instead of being balls deep inside her purse. Just something to keep in mind with other girls going forward.
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I ve been right were you are and I wasted years hoping she would return the feeling I had for her but she dint, it's best of you can move on, the problem is she sees people like us as nice guys and nice guys finish last, don't waste any more time dude, you'll find another girl who is better. Good luck and stay strong, and don't be too nice, thats where I went wrong, stop being nice and stop agreeing with everything.
Yeah maybe move on for now.
You put her on a pedestal and honestly, it was uncomfortable for me reading it.
She probably feels like once you get to know the "real" her you won't see her as perfect and reject her. And hey, maybe that's happened before.
Your words are sweet but a bit too intense. She knows she'd be the one to hurt you and end it. And the friendship.
In the future, avoid words like "perfect" initially. Even if it seems like it. There's way too much pressure on those words and no one wants to have to live up to that ideal. She literally tells you that she not a good person which means she thinks you don't even really know her if you thinks she's perfect.
Finally, instead of saying she's gorgeous or pretty, compliment her style or something. Prettiness isn't something she controls so it can make you seem shallow and only interested in her for her looks, which can change over time. compliment how she wears her hair or dresses to show you're interested in Her.
hmm ok that was long af but now i get it all. well i can see that she doesn't have the same feelings for u. u said she dates other guys and she told u she is "not ready" for a relationship. girls only say that when they dont want to hurt the guys feelings. and yea u did go a bit fast but hey u have waited for 2 months and told her again and her answer still remains the same. well... how about u move on n get u another girl or u could sit and wait for another two months again (if thats what u want). i dont see the point of u waiting for her to like u back. she doesn't seem interested, she is just trying to be nice and i respect her for that. but u dont have to hold on to that, just move on
this has happened to me before. she just doesn't want you guys dating to mess up your friendship. she is dating other guys because she is trying to find someone as good or better than you. you just have to give her time to realize your the best out there. in the meantime though, try dating. if she does it, you can. feel free to try others and see if she really is the perfect one for you.
She isn't interested. She is kinda stringing you along... which sucks. You should move on sweety. Some girls do this cause they too scared to say "No"... if she likes you, she might contact you again.. and go on dates.
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Unfortunately, I've been in a very similar situation. If a girl says that she isn't ready for a relationship, it means she doesn't want one with you, or like she said, she's emotionally unavailable. Either way, she is not interested in anything more than a platonic friendship, and you'd best move on.
A tip to be one of those guys that she dates is to ask her out before you develop any sort of feelings for her. As soon as you realize that you like her, ask her out as soon as possible, and the same goes for grabbing a new girl's number.. Do it as soon as possible. You want to make sure that you're a guy that she's anxious to see again, and you won't be that guy if she knows that you're into her. If you ask someone out before you're into her, you'll have more confidence within yourself, and you'll never need to confess your newly developed feelings the way you did here. Good luck bro.in my opinion, your fixating like your in a Shakespearean tragedy. Take her off that pedestal and look objectively at your situation. It seems you've waited to become friends first. Bad idea, if your attracted to a woman, trying to be friends with her is a mistake. Make your intentions known in the beginning, so that platonic type of relationship can not materialize. That way you don't get in too deep. And my friend you seem to be drowning. You need to change her contact name to "Only When Necessary" and start searching for what you want elsewhere. If she comes around she comes around. Just move like a Shark. "Never stop swimming, unless there's food to eat."
For gods sakes DONT be having these convo's on text media. You get zero emotion and zero body language so you're missing out at least half of what's being communicated.
You actually tried to close on a girl for a 'relationship' and she FZ'd you. You're done partner. She didn't have any benefit of you IRL - no meet up, value built before pursuing forward, pretty much nothing.
Here's the thing... they all want sex - just not with you. If a girl wants to get with a guy she'll break every rule to do it. If she doesn't then she'll make up a new rule every day why she can't.Too eager, too willing to bend over backwards and you definitely put her on a pedestal way too quickly. You came across (whether intentional or not) too clingy and too intense in my opinion. Being excited and such is fine but it's clear that you were jumping the gun all while being oddly apologetic for it - it likely put her off.
If it isn't that, she could genuinely have gotten ahead of herself and realized that she didn't have time or wasn't ready. Either way it's best to move on.I gaurantee you, if you started dating someone else this girl would be all over you. She's keeping you on a leash till she decides what she wants. That's not fair to you. Move on. There is someone special out there for you.
Obviously she's telling you where she stands with you. The truth is she truly doesn't know what she wants and the fact that she is straight up with that is respectable. Personally, I think certain guys are just simply amazing guys but not what I'm looking for. It could also be that she doesn't want to ruin the friendship because you guys have been friends for so long. Don't take it personally, we're all trying to figure out what we want and at 18 it's totally fine to not have it all sorted out yet. Give it time and just focus on you, what's meant to be will be.
"I'm not quite ready for a relationship"
"I don't know if I'm ready to have a relationship right now"
She sounds unsure.
She's still looking for what she wants and probably feels like you two just don't click in the way that she needs.
And for the live of god stop trying so hard and being so serious. Relax.Ugh... Don't try to turn good friends into lovers. You'll lose both if you're not careful. It's one thing to have something organically happen, but if you're too heavy handed you'll blow it. In my opinion, you came across as if she's been waiting to hear the stuff you've been waiting to say. This is rarely the case. Don't feel entitled because she likes you as a friend and you feel superior to her current choices in guys... If you're her friend, you'll support her and be there for her and stop looking for more.
no offense bro but you are talking to her like a 12 year old. Your problem is that you have made it too obvious that you'd do anything for this chick. you have made yourself Expendable and convenient. You have to act as though you're interested in her but that you have your options open as well. otherwise she's going to use you and only talk to you or be with you when it's convenient for her and she needs somebody. That's just the way girls are man. Source: I'm 24 and have been in multiple long term relationships. Why do YOU think she's being like this though? What's your take?
bro she consider you as a friend... and a good person to talk to... so even if she plan to have a relationship it will be after some long time , so move on... and let her know it , not to make her jealous , it is to make sure that if she had developed any feelings then it is the time to say it... (but most won't , they have ego ) and also to make sure she also moves on... good luck. bro...
You sound so sweet. She is lucky to have you. But I honestly think you should move on and I don't think she will ever want to be in a relationship with you otherwise it would've happened by now. If she ever ends up realising how stupid she was to give you up maybe she will contact you in the future but then it might be too late. That's her problem not yours, you deserve to be happy. It just seems like she sees you as a friend.
wish you all the best for the future xThere is nothing there to set you apart from the other guys, she's been out with, baaed on how you write. You just sound like the rest of the guys out there that says all the typical things mentioned in the text. It's like reading a telemarketing script for an outbound sales phone call...
She's just not that into you. Sounds like she only likes you as a friend and is trying to reject you without losing your attention. by the way, don't ever confess your feelings/ask someone out over text.
in my opinion something that hasn't been said much on this post is this... she may have thought about dating you, but is concerned about losing you as a friend.
I got strung along for 4 years, be friends but make that plain to yourself otherwise it will test your resolve and it hurts
I have done this when I was 16-17... it's that they want the attention but not the commitment...
you should move onDude BACK the FUCK away!! Omfg, you're smothering her... Give her and yourself some breathing space
Trust me when I say this, forget about her and do you. Plenty fish in the sea to be hung up on one chick. My girl left me but did i dwell , nope I hit the gym and talking to other girls and now I don't even care anymore.
Actually, never Ever Ever send long messages to a girl you like.. That's gonna make her look like you are desperate, which you are, but it gives her the impression of the wrong sort of "desperate".
I'm sorry but from what I've read she's just leading you on.. she thinks you're a nice guy and doesn't want to lose you but doesn't want to date you either.
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