My girlfriend cheated on me and now hates me!!!

[rebel]

i was in a relationship with a girl for over two and a half years, I met her and the next day her mother kicked her out I put her up in hotel for two weeks, then rented a place for her and her 6 month son to stay, I took her and her son as a package and I was the only daddy he knew and I cared and looked after him as my son, I made her so happy and gave her whatever she wanted as I wanted her to be happy, she started socializing with her babysitter and her friends and in July she left me just like that no text no call just left home, I texted her so much rang her, because we broke up before after she had done something wrong and I would then have to make up with her, this time she didn't answer so I thought I would give her the space and she will contact me as it would be the right thing to do, she text me after a few days saying its over nothing else and asking me to leave her alone, then telling me I spent too much time with my family and I always put my family first well my father had a stroke and was paralysed and I was looking after him as well and I was trying to keep everyone happy, I had to work twice as hard to maintain her and my family and still make time for her and whatever she wanted to do I would let her and pay for her as she was the one for me, well a week later her so called best friend rang me and asked to see me about midnight in a car park, I went and she was there and told me she does not want anything to do with me, well I was gutted and accepted it even tho I told her id do anything, the next day she tells me that she wants to be friends I did that for a week but couldn't handler it so told her everything I felt and what I would do to change, she said me telling her made her feel like crap and she wants to enjoy her life, I stopped contact with her for a week and she kept texting and ringing me I gave in and she told me she wants to sleep with me and see me and see how things go, I used to look after the son while she went clubbing with her best friend and then she told me she loves me still and can't forget me and lets get back together we did and that lasted a month and then she broke up with me saying her father doesn't approve, I accepted it and then after a week she got back with me again and then I caught her out that she been cheating on me with her best friend and seeing both of us, I told her I forgive you but she needs to make a decision she told me she made a mistake and needs time to rectify the mistake I gave her a week even tho I shouldn't have, after a week she told me she wants me but hasn't told the other guy yet I told her she has to and not to play girlfriend with him she agreed, then one day she deleted all the texts from my mob to her and from her, I knew something not right, the next day she broke up with me, I couldn't take it so told her fam and the friend she staying with and the other guy about her lies, he wanted me to tell him face to face and she was there

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Also and denied it to my face and said she had never met up with me at all and that I was lying and her friend s were there saying she been tryna get rid of me hassling her and she has told me to f*** off so many times, I told the guy everything and

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showed him what I had on my mobile, he said he believed me and then she went mad and told me she hates me so much and she hopes I die a horrible death and started punching and kicking me, I then walked away,I had left my family, my friends and everything

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That guy left her and then after a few days got back with her again so I didn’t have anything to do with her, her family especially her mother, brother and sister were very supportive to me as they said I was a good decent person

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and she has made a really big mistake as that guy isn’t interested in her and her son he only after fun and clubbing with her.All her stuff was at the place we rented out which was the fourth place, so I told her friend to tell her to stay away

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i want nothing to do with her and she has two weeks to take her stuff clothes kids toys etc,

She came on the very last day of the two weeks with a van her new boyfriend, 3 other guys and the babysitter/woman she been staying with,

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, I had a lodger in the house and as I had taken some of my stuff a corner sofa and stools she went mad and took all my other stuff with her own, she even tried to take the lodger’s stuff and he wouldn’t let her and pushed her away and

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she started shouting look he is hitting me, I got a call from the lodger saying they are taking all my stuff as well, I rang her sis and bro and they said they will come down and I went and when I saw what was going on I couldn’t get out of the car

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and watched and thought what the hell petty lowlife people and its all materialistic and thought fine they can have all the stuff it don’t bother me I just didn’t want the trouble, even though they were expecting that from me. Her sis and bro came and

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gave her a piece of their mind and told her what for and she said my names on the tenancy, her sis said well then maybe you want to pay the bills too thenNow it’s been a month from then and she has no job, no money and has left town

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as I don’t know what happened between her and her friend, she been staying with her new boyfriend but don’t think he wants the child so she has given the child up to her mother saying she misses her family and hope they not gonna take sides and that she

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she is struggling, the poor child has not even been fed properly nor been living in the right conditions, in store room etc.

I still love her and even though I know how much hurt and damage she has done I just can't forget

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the good times and want to know if she will ever regret this as she got with that guy as a rebound to get over me, but she wasn’t over me and told me she loves me so much and her heart yearns for me, but her friends kept telling her that she should

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move on and forget the past i.e meWould she ever see sense and come back to me? Regret it and not come back to me but at least do the decent thing and apologise? I am oldschool I used to tell her id forgive you for things you haven’t even done yet

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I can't help but think of her and wonder whether she thinks of me?How can she say she hates me after all the good I did for her and supported her when no one else did, picked her up when she was done? Loved her unconditionally and sacrificed so much

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for her? help!

[Glamgoddess]

I feel so sorry for you right now. Pay attention to how this question is written. You are not in a good state of mind @ all. This woman has taken you for literally everything you have. She has even taken your sanity & you're still ready to go back for me. Do you enjoy being used, misused, mistreated, stomped on, dogged, taken & broken? Pay close attention to the question that you just posed. There has got to be some way deeper issues going on if you would so desire to be with someone who has done all of this. This is completely abnormal. There comes a point in relationships where you are no longer getting played but YOU ARE PLAYING YOURSELF. If a woman doesn't love her child, how the hell can she love you? I can almost guarantee with 100% certainty that this woman has some form of drug or substance abuse problem. I would almost be inclined to believe that you do as well because no one would choose to live on this level dysfunction and then beg, plead & cry for more when it goes away. This time of self loathing is borderline suicidal. If you do not get some help (and fast) worse things are inevitably coming to you. I know this sounds mean & cruel & maybe even malicious but I look @ your post as a cry for help. Something bigger is going on & I do not know what it is but sometimes blatant truths are all that we respond to. I am going to say a word of prayer for you before I turn in to bed tonight. Good luck to you and God bless and I pray that God touches your mind and heart in such a way to give you the strength you need to move forward with a happier, more positive & productive life.

[rebel]

Thank you for your comment, I am much happier and better now than ever before oh and I do not use drugs or any other such substance, when you think your in love you often do things that are abnormal and and far from reality, however with time I have learnt and moved on and thank you for your support and words

[greeneyedgal1]

This chic has a LOT of issues and quite frankly I don't think she deserves you. Based on what you wrote, you treated her and her son like gold and you obviously are an extremely generous & caring man. I think she took advantage of your good nature and took you for granted. This is just my opinion. She sounds toxic and has no grounding at all. If she cannot do that much for herself or her child, then she sure as hell cannot do it for you. Moreover, I don't think she is mature enough for a serious relationship because she just goes from guy to guy.

I think she is angry that you took action and actually put her in her place. She is in denial and is turning her anger against you instead of herself. After all, she is responsible for her demeanor and decisions, not you. As I said, she has a lot of growing to do as an individual.

I know you are probably very hurt, let down and disappointed. I am sure you needed to dig deep within yourself to walk away and say enough is enough. You are doing the right thing for yourself, your heart and mental health. You are worthy of a woman who will appreciate you for the gem you are. Guys like you are RARE and believe me, I know women who would kill for a man like you. I know this is the furtherest thing from your mind but perhaps it will give you hope for my gender.

Good luck.

[rebel]

Thanks for your comment, Do you think she will regret it? right now her friends that she went to stay with hate her for how she has treated her son, she has got no one left but her new boyfriend and has left town, but wanted to come back, do you think she will ever realize the wrong she did? and make amends? do you think she thinks of me and what we shared?

[greeneyedgal1]

I will be perfectly honest with you that I cannot be sure. I think it's natural she will think about you, what you shared and everything you did for her. That happens when you date someone and the relationship ends. However, the piece you need to remember is that retaining the memory of the relationship is one thing. It's another for her to realize she needs to grow up, be a woman and mother and appreciate a good man in front of her. THAT is what I don't think she will be able to do.

[lavender]

She sounds very selfish and immature. I'm not sure her redeeming qualities that's kept you coming back for more. She was willing to take your generous support -- and unfortunately the world is full of people (men and women) who will take advantage of someone else.

Cut your losses and run.

[Gregs]

le sigh, you got walked over son and it's your own fault from the moment you started paying for her

[Thiezz]

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