It bad to lead a guy on even if you are trying to be nice.

[Duhitsmartha]

So there this guy that I used to like and flirted with him all the time, but then he started tO flirt back and I kinda lost interest because I'm the kinda girl that looses intrest quickly especially when she gets what she wants; then she no longer wants it<<<- that's me right there. But anyways he's getting pretty serious and I don't know how to tell him that I no longer Have feelings for him but I still flirt with him so I won't hurt his feelings HELP! I honestly don't knwow what to do.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

Its not just you, many girls are like you, many girls just want to flirt harmlessly with guys without feelings for them because they like the attention or they are just nice and need to feel good on the inside, problem is, this is very misleading to most guys and most guys would get offended if they found out the girl that eye f-ucks thems and flirts with them isn't even interested. This has happened to me before, although I am, these days very good at guessing with high accuracy whether a girl is flirting for the sake of flirting or genuinely interested. I usually test the waters but I will be honest and tell you that you shouldn't flirt with guys that you are NOT interested in because you have to understand that a guy's and girls mentality is different in the aspect. Yes, guys sometimes flirt too without interest I know, but generally speaking, its more often a lot harder to determine the true nature of female flirting than male flirting and women engage in flirting without interest more often than the men. Therefore, women have gained notoriety for this. Sometimes, guys like me won't give a s.hit, but there are many guys that would get offended and give you the cold shoulder I'm sure of it, even now, when I know a girl is flirting for the sake of flirting, then I flirt back with the same caliber like biatch, what now? never let a chick throw me off balance.

[misterbill71]

Yes. Its very bad to lead people on. its bad when girls do it, its bad when guys do it. as far as what to do about it. stop flirting with him. if you want to let him down easy, start telling him he's like the brotehr you never head... usually the brother comment gets the point across to a guy really clear that you enjoy having fun with him but you'll NEVER have sex with him.

Contrary to popular belief, guys DO have feelings and they CAN get a broken heart if they genuinely fall for a girl and it turns out she was just using him to feed her own ego. usually you'll be lucky to keep them as freinds after that.

[Anonymous]

All that will do is maybe slightly bruise his ego because he thinks "damn, I really don't have a chance at getting laid from this girl". its not gonna break his heart or really hurt him. guys aren't that sensitive when it comes to just flirting, more than likely he's just thinking about sex anyway so continue doing what you want, its not harming anyone. a little harmless flirtation never killed anyone

[misterbill71]

right. 'cause men don't have feelings anyway.

[moneyman1029]

I honestly hate girls like you...

Pay lots of attention to a guy, he starts liking you back, then you just ignore him.

Girls talk about guys using girls- well girls do the same thing.

This has happened to me, so what you do is let him down slowly and subtly, so he slowly loses interest in you without getting hurt.