How do I let go, move on and forgive myself after chasing after a man who in the end doesn’t even want me? I feel so embarrassed?

[paradiseonearth93]

I was seeing this guy for 2 months steadily, and I was led to believe he was wanting more as he told me he wanted to see where we could go. For the first time in 2 years I started to fall for someone again after a really bad relationship. I was so excited. But they were just all words from him. I’m 90% sure I was used for sex and I don’t believe he even cares about me at all. After 2 months things started to shift between us and he distanced himself for this last third month. I remained cool and calm and understanding and I never reacted out of emotion or did anything wrong. I tried SO hard to be perfect. And now he doesn’t want anything to do with me. It really hurts because he was so kind and great in the start and now I just feel like the trash he took out and has now forgotten. This last month I kept in contact and kept trying and trying and trying and I feel so run dry.. I couldn’t accept that he just used me and wants nothing more and now I woke up and I feel incredibly embarrassed. And I probably look like a stupid clown to him and my friends. I don’t want to date for awhile, I feel so trashed and lowsy

[Truthbewithyou]

The best way to move on from this and forgive yourself, is to learn from it. It's ok. we all make mistakes and you can't blame yourself for what you didn't know.

I deal with a lot of dating woes and I'm really good at breaking things down so, you will most likely not make the same mistake.

Dating a guy for 2 months is not long enough to have sex with him. Believe it or not, most men expect for a woman to put out within 3 months. If she does. He's most likely to not want to deal with her again, unless for sex. Why? because, unbeknownst to her, she has signaled to him that it doesn't take much to get her in bed.

I know it's hard to hear and I am sorry but this is how men operate.

Always remember, Only bed concrete evidence. Definite and Specific Actions only. NOT Words! You need to see the evidence. That is girlfriend (6 months to a year) fiancé, wife.

Responses like "seeing where we could go", "let's just go with the flow", is too floaty, nothing concrete about it.

Never believe what you are told. Believe what you are shown.

A man could say he wants to marry you but until he gets down on one knee with a ring and asks you... then he's just saying sweet nothings and those , my friend, are just words.

[Anonymous]

You're passionate and wear your heart on your sleeve.

I was in the exact same situation as you word for word.
After he left me i felt like killing myself. I felt so humiliated. Played and worthless.

But dont look at it this way. Dont put yourself down for having sex. Guys like him are snakes and abundant. Try to remember all the cons he had and take him off that pedestal. He doesn't deserve to be there.

He feels no guilt or remorse and you shouldn't dwell on the situation. Is it embarrassing? Yes.
But pick yourself up and remember the bad bitch that you are. Tell your friends and family that you dumped him instead.

If its too late to do that then just be honest and say it didn't work out but that it won't determine the rest of yourlife. I know it feels like a lot but it was only 2 months. Be glad he got out of your way faster. And cut contact with him completely

[Opinion Owner]

If you ever need somone to confide in let me know! I know when this happened to me i couldn't tell anyone and it was hard. I'll add you

[EaterPeter]

You are going through break up and disappointment. You probably feel diassapointe by your self more than some one else disappointing you. Do kind loving meditation. It's available in you tube for free. With yellow flower. Take one year before starting relationship. That is why some women are very smart of not let guys touching them in very early or early stages of dating. I believe it's a scientific fact that if guy gives orgasm to woman she falls in love with him. If you allow sex early on you are likely to feel the way you are feeling right now. Used trash call it what ever. Or should you? Hey, this is you we are talking about. You better treat your self with much more respect before others can give you equal or more respect.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks paradise for like!

[EaterPeter]

Use positive affirmations. Don't let negative talk let take over your brain.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for MHO!

[user2345354]

I've found that a good way to let go of people is to meditate, and imagine them surround by light or love, doing what they love, being fulfilled and having a good life. Next, imagine yourself in that same light.

[SphynxUK]

Why sleep with him so quickly? That’s all he wanted. If you’d have made him wait, he would be long gone already!
Of course he was nice at first! He told you what you wanted to hear!
Your better off without him.
When the rose tinted glasses come off with time, you’ll see him for what he was.

[Wise4myage]

Look at it this way, two months is brief compared to a year or more. So be happy it was that quick.😊

[kajad1]

let us guys do the chasing, we males are biologically made to chase and hunt its what we have in our DNA form ancient times lol..

[Caunsos]

Chase after your self for a bit.

[havingfun101]

Don't marry boys