Why Are So Many Men So Selfish?
Ever notice that men- ahem- or should I call them boys, only care about feelings when it's their own? If they hurt someone else they usually don't care, but if they get offended in the least they have to make a big production about it.
Serious guys, man up.
And I just can't wait for some guys to comment on this and prove me right. Of course I am not saying all guys are like this, that is never the case. Some of you are not selfish and good men, I understand that.
But why are they so hard to find?
When I read these answers most of the people that are flying off the handle about the smallest thing, are guys.
There are some girls too, I'm not going to say there aren't, and I don't think them any less selfish.
But why is it everyone gets so offended easily... especially the guys.
For all you who can blow stuff off, have manners, respect others, and give great advice and actually care about the people you're answering, guy or girl, thank you so much. I really appreciate all you guys do and for not making people feel bad about some of the questions they ask and/or answer.
Thanks for it all, really.
You guys are the reasons I still feel comfortable enough to ask questions on here to change my life for the better and get answers I couldn't get from family. There are some things you can't ask your family or friends because it's too embarrassing or they wouldn't understand. You keep the whole reason of girlsaskguys alive :)
Thank you for not making some of us feel self conscious or guilty and encourage us to try to change for the better.
You guys are great. :)
What's Your Opinion?
Most Helpful Opinion
Well people are selfish, just to what to degree of selfishness and arrogance is the more important question.
You can look at it from almost any angle, from relationships falling out, to people in general to people you don't know around your neighborhood,city, campus,etc.
When I see people rushing for the train while a lady needs help getting her stroller with her baby in it down the stairs , I help out. I don't it other for the simple fact, she needs my help. So what's the problem? It can be girls and guys,women are more sympathetic then men, doesn't mean necessarily that's a bad thing, sympathy is just another word for compassion in my opinion.
So not all people are going to be sympathetic or compassionate, so you have to look out for yourself. IF people are helpful, thank them for their kindness , if not then accept the truth of reality, despite its tough and a hard pill to swallow, but that's life, you gotta just roll with the punches and play with the cards you were dealt with. I believe kindness is like a positive virus, it spreads, one simple act of kindness may persuade the other person to do the same to another person, and it keeps on spreading.
What Guys Said 5
Often times selfishness reaps the greatest reward.
Selfless acts do not reap any reward. They are a reward.
And women respond so positively to selfish men, it's a bit difficult for us to behave otherwise.
A man thinks only of himself and his personal needs and desires, and of course, women see him as an alpha male and flock to him. To be a giver is to be a beta.
Honestly though, if women would f*ck a guy for being nice and selfless, we'd probably do it more often. But we aren't saints. And we see what works, so we do it.
Selfishness generally means more money to ourselves, more women, more fun really.
The real question is: How could men not be so selfish?
Women-ahem-or should I call them girls can be selfish too. this isn't a one gender trait
how selfish is it for a girl to expect a guy to buy her jewelry and buy dinners and buy flowers all the time? not every girl expects that but a lot get pissed off when you dont.
as for feelings and stuff, you females are more emotional than we are, so we might not always understand how your feeling because we've never had those kind of feelings. doesn't mean we can't love or anything we just feel it differently than you do
I think what you will find is that people who are easily offended are primed to do so. They have been trained that it isn't their caring mental abilities that are sought after, but it is their skill at sports, physicality, making a lot of money, or knowledge of mechanics that is valued.
I, as a young man was not good at some of those before mentioned things, but had no problem getting dates because I really enjoy women. I learned what women want, both in and out of bed and it only makes sense to study something that is so much a basic part of the life you want to have.A woman seem to value a man who can fix her car AND let her know she is the most important thing in the world to him at the same time. Not that difficult really.
i think everyone's selfish... EVERYONE.
What Girls Said 4
People in general are selfish - that can't be helped.
I think the reason - more guys fly off the wall, is because they feel an immense pressure to be perfect, and after trying over and over again in figuring out what they have to do in order to get a woman -
They're more easily set off about certain things.
It's always the lonely guys, one's who haven't dated yet, severely insecure, overall - just can't f***ing figure it out guys.
They tend to think in the one dimension, and fight against reality because they want to argue why the world should be suited for their desires - because they struggle to gain on their own.
All I can say is - ignore them.
Everyone has many lessons to learn in life - this is obviously one of their's to learn for themselves.
They can type and spew until all the keys on their comp fall off - but nothing in their reality is going to change until they step up and do something about it.
That goes for all the complainers on here about this and that issue with their life - girl and guy alike. - I respect the people who actually seek out and look for legit help - not post their question ranting just to spite the topic they choose.
But eh - you'll encounter tons of people like this so, just gotta deal with it ha ha
guys are socialized to play the field when they are young and settle down when they are older and more established. so if he is not like in his late 20s or 30s he is more than likely not thinking of making a life with you. aka you're a temporary girl, and one of many temporary girls until he one day meets his wife (but not any time soon). so you can't expect a guy to act like prince charming because they werent raised watching disney love stories and reading bridal magazines thinking of their future wives one day. plainly put, they don't give a f*** its about sex and convenience until they meet The One/Mrs Right/wifey