I think I may be done being nice to girls?

[Martinsniezek]

My whole life I have been nice and respectful to woman and girls. Now I don't see a point of doing that anymore. My girlfreind just recently broke up with me just because she wants to be single. I gave her everything, I was nice to her, I was respectful, I dinsobmich for her and yet she doesn't care about any of it. She just keeps saying that she wants to be single or to be "free". Now this has chaned my whole perspective about woman and how they treat men or at least the nice. I don't know what to do should I change how I am or should I stay nice and respectful?

[krenee]

It's a very sad fact that the nice guys tend to get walked all over. But I agree with the other girls comments, don't change who you are because of ONE girl. Definitely don't lose your respect for us, we have just as little faith in men sometimes as you do women. Your just going through a tough time right now, you WILL get through this! Your going to find another girl someday who respects you and gives back to you just as much as you give to her. And your going to remember back to this break up and be thankful.

[pastelrebel]

Stay nice and respectful. It'll help with your relationships in the long run. Even if that girl didn't like it, other girls will here of how well you treated her and a lot will want you. It works in the same fashion as if you were a douchebag. Except if you were not respectful and nice then other girls will here that and NOT want to be with you. Word gets around fast in the girl world. Just stay nice and DEFINITELY respectful.

[Martinsniezek]

I don't want any other girls though I want her to not do this to me

[pastelrebel]

Well you can't change her decision. So the best idea is to move on and hope for the best. Her choice is not a reflection on you. That's her.

[Martinsniezek]

It's really hard to believe that I can't change her decision.

[pastelrebel]

If she's already made up her mind, then you can't. Be happy, be friends, and move on.

[Martinsniezek]

She says that she has but I don't believe her at all. I think that she is just tryin to hurt me or to see how much I will do to try to get her back. If she truly did make up her mind she would not be talking to me. She told me to come over on Monday so we can talk.

[pastelrebel]

She wouldn't necessarily not want to talk to you. She said she wanted to be single, not that she didn't want to talk to you ever again. It might just not be the right time for her to be in a relationship. Don't chase to hard and waste all your time on this girl though, if she really has moved on.

[MissFabulous]

You should still remain nice and respectful to girls because not very girl is going to be rude to you like that! Just hang in there, there are a lot of girls out there who wouldn't mind a good guy like you! It's her loss that she let you go! =)

[Martinsniezek]

I don't get it though we have been dating for a year now and she just dumps me just so she came be "free" why would e gone that up and me?

[MissFabulous]

Unfortunately, people do stuff that are mean. She really did you a favor becuase she told you that she wanted it to be over because you don't want some to be with you, who don't want to be. She now opened a door for another girl to come in and be good to you. =)

[Mrsupaakeru]

You do realize that if you do the whole marriage thing right you are only going to have one relationship that really works out right? Yeah you had a bad experience you can't generalize that all women are like that. It will all seem better once time has worked on you. Don't be bitter forgive and move on.

[iXenomorph]

Ah, the old nice guy getting burned who turns into an a**hole story.

It's quite a familiar one to me.

[starrydaisy]

I'm no one to judge your situation but my suggestion is, try to look and treat a person as how he/she treats you, not being nice to them just because they are girls. Some girls are real b*t*h but this is not a gender issue, this boils down to the personality of that person.

And no, please don't change who you are. Someone who deserves such a nice person like you will come to you one day. Cheers. :)

[BirdofParadise]

You shouldn't change who you are because of one bad break up. If you meet another girl who walks all over you, don't put up with it, break up with her. People will treat you the way you let them treat you. Being nice and respectful doesn't mean you have to put up with being treated badly.

[Yeahhbro]

to me it sounds that you were smothing her too much and that you were too clingy and that is why she said those things...just read between the lines and you will know your answer.

[Anonymous]

if you have a quality that lots people don't have then why should you change it? soon some other nice girls will appreciate that:)

[Anonymous]

I highly doubt the fact that you're girl wants to be "single and free" is a reflection on your nice character. Don't change.

[Love_is_in_the_air]

sounds like you are a wimp