Normal for girlfriend to send pictures to other guys?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for my long distant relationship girlfriend to send pictures of herself to other guys? (normal; nothing sexy)

I don't want to tell her to stop or anything since I don't want to be controlling. I told her about how I feel, but we just continue talking it out. I'm overreacting about this problem, right?

Guys: would you be okay with this if you were me? Why or why not?

Girls: do you send pictures to your male friends when you have a BF? Why or why not?

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+1 y

she receives pictures of other guys and saves them too.


I love her alot, but I don't like this feeling of being jealous.

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+1 y

I trust her that she's not cheating on me, but yea... She told me she's known these guys for a long time.

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+1 y

Thank you all in advance for your comments. I'll just try to be open-minded and deal with this problem. Your comments are all helpful.

[girl3377]

I don't think its right either ! maybe th elong distance its hard but if she doesn't want anything then she should tell u! I honestly find it wrong its kinda like flirting with other guys and you don't do that if you have someone its wrong in my book! answer my question PLEASE

[Asker]

to me it is wrong for her to do that. But it's different for her.

[Suki55]

No I don't and if I did, I know what my boyfriends reaction would be - he would not be happy and would question it. I have male friends but I wouldn't dream of sending them photos of just me. Does your girlfriend crave make attention or their approval?

[Asker]

She told me many times that she doesn't like attention.

[Anonymous]

Other guys that she sees on a regular basis? I wouldn't say that it's normal, her friends can see her whenever, or she could put them on Facebook for everyone else to see. It's not really indicative of anything bad though. What does she say about it?

[Asker]

she said that I can send pictures to girls as long as they're appropriate.

[Opinion Owner]

Hm... so she thinks it is harmless? I don't know, I think you should tell her you don't like her sending pictures. That wouldn't really be controlling because some guys do things even with non provocative pictures, so... yeah, not such a great idea to send stuff.

[Asker]

I told her how I didn't like her sending pictures, but I don't think she'll stop since she doesn't like being told what to do. She rarely sends pictures, but like 4 guys have like 2 pictures of her each I believe.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I suppose it all comes down to trust. If you trust that she's sending appropriate pictures, then the best thing to do would be to drop it. If it becomes more suspicious, you need to have another talk. Also, did she voluntarily tell you she sends pictures to her friends?

[Asker]

No, I asked her. She's honest with me with everything though. Everyone is different so I'll just try to deal with her being friendly to her male friends.

Thank you for your replies.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem :)

[Anonymous]

I would not be okay with that. What's the point of it? Are these guys she knows in real life? Why do they need pictures of her if they can see her when they hang out as friends?

[Asker]

I think some are her friends in rl.

[Opinion Owner]

i think you have a right to tell her you don't like her doing this. they don't need pictures of her for anything especially since they see her regularly..that's just weird

[Anonymous]

I think it's at least indicative of her seeking other guys' attention...

Watch out for yourself here.

[Asker]

Yea... I told her that she probably wanted to seek a bit of attention from guys and got into an arguement yesterday and I feel bad for hurting her feelings.

[Opinion Owner]

If you start to feel guilty and show that to her in this situation, you are f***ed man. She will feel like you are a doormat and she can manipulate you easily. Girls are experts at making guys feel guilty. I have a lot of experience, trust me on this. They f***-up, they get caught, an argument erupts and they see an opportunity to turn things around. Think about it for a secomd. You feel remorse because you hurt her feelings. But, she didn't feel any remorse to see yours hurt...think about it!

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion, but I'll stay with her and see where this leads.

[IHateMeganFox]

She's sending pictures... which means she's talking to guys. They ask her for pictures, they send her some back. If they were just buds what would be the reason?

[Asker]

I guess I'm insecure and jealous? She allows me to send normal pictures to other girls too, but I don't do that.

[IHateMeganFox]

Sounds like an interesting relationship.

[SeaGlass]

I've never sent a picture of myself, sexy or not, to any guy other than my boyfriend. I wouldn't because it just feels weird to me. I don't see why another guy would need a picture of me.

It may be perfectly innocent but why do other guys want pictures of her in the first place?

[Anonymous]

I think that in your heart, you know that what she is doing is wrong but you are too afraid at the moment to rock the boat incase she dumps you or kicks up a stink. It all boils down to how you value yourself. When we all are brave enough in a relationship or any other situation to confront things that we see as unacceptable, we are respecting and valuing ourselves. I was given that advice years ago and believe me it makes me stop in my tracks whenever I'm confronted with a situation where I could be walked over.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Have you ever met in person? How many times and for how long?

2. How does she know these guys?

3. Do these other guys know about you? Does she let you see their online conversations?

4. How far apart do the two of you live?

[artgorgeous]

I do not think its normal if its a random guy. Its normal if she talks to other guys, or messages them just because they are either her friends, or colleagues, or they just play online games and are in one team, etc. But if she sends her photos to a random new guy, that must be a red flag. You need to first understand, in what context this is done, and then make decisions.

[XLavanderxLoveX]

I don't think its okay. I wouldn't do it because why would another guy need your picture if you are already committed to a different guy.

[Miristheiss]

No, that is semi cheating.

Her boundaries SUCK!!!

If she were madly in love with you... she wouldn't even be thinking about sending and receiving pictures with other guys.

I'd say this is a your sign to dump her.

[Andijoy]

No I wouldn't. I would feel like that is not right and I would not want to upset my BF.

[molonski2]

No its certainly not " normal " she is showing herself as available , and there is little doubt she is available. Watch out , she's looking for a better offer.

[Hades]

It sure as hell isn't. Sounds to me like she's looking for a trade up. She sure does seem venal. You would be wise to break up with her.

[ShesRad80]

to me, just my opinion- its weird if you have a guy why are you sharing pics with other guys of yourself? and no i would not be doing that

[sheikalana]

A bit weird. Seems like she likes the attention, fishing for compliments or looking for validation cuz for what other reason would she be sending pictures of herself to other men?

[BlackJeep]

Whether its normal or not, do you want to be with someone who likes sending pics to other guys or would you rather be with someone who doesn't do that? You have a choice

[worldscolide]

No, it shows she doesn't respect your relationship.. It's not controlling for you to ask her to respect it.

[WhitneySnow]

Sure. That’s normal.

[sirderpsalot123]

I wouldn't be ok with it

[hardboiledink]

No not unless they don't respect you

[BigDog1989]

Nope

[BigDog89]

Nope