Recently I've seen many myTakes and opinions alike about men, and I also hear things from other women as well. I decided to ask some questions to see what men had to say.
1. Men only want a "model status" body
After asking a question if men were okay with a little stomach fat, NOT too much, and stuff like that, many responded with "I'm fine with a little bit of it." or "You don't have to have a model status body."
2. Men only care about sex
I've heard this from many other woman sometimes. This is not always the case, though. I mean most people love sex, and not all men only hunt down women for that. I know plenty of men who only care for a meaningful relationship at the moment.
3. Men don't care about our feelings.
This is not true; in fact I've had a few boyfriends who cared for my feelings. Also, they knew me better than I knew myself half of the time.
4. They cannot commit to a relationship.
I strongly disagree with this theory as I have seen plenty of men make their girlfriends or wives happy.
5. "All men are the same."
We've all heard this one before and obviously it is not true. No person can be exactly the same, so why even bother saying it?
It may just be my experience, but as a woman I can safely say not all men are like this based on the ones I know.
It is interesting that this is even the perception women have. Granted I can see how from an outward perspective this may look true to many women but far from the truth. Sometimes I wonder if BECAUSE women have this misconception this is the reason it perpetuates. Much like the perception that all minorities are poor and out to cause trouble. Automatically the public tends to shun them first before getting to know them. Same with men. Any advance from a man automatically get's shut down because the perception is that this is ALL we want and nothing more. Thus shutting off the communication to rectify any misconception beyond the perception.
You know I find it funny, and I plan to write my own Take on this, but this past week as I was walking down the street playing pokemon go, don't judge. These girls honked and one had her head out the window saying "dayum". A few days later some girls in a convertible buggy were trying to get me attention on the streets. I was a bit taken aback because even I was fooled by the overall perception by the masses that ONLY men do this to women. So I did a Google search to see if any other men encountered this and you know what comes up. The only thing that came up were articles published by feminist on Huffington Post and BuzzFeed talking about how only men do this and how much jerks we are. BuzzFeed even posted a video called "What if Women" did this. As if no woman has ever done this in their lives. And now I know that there is some sexism among women with the belief then ONLY men are dogs. And that no women would ever behave like this. This turned my world upside down because the narrative of the public contradicts the actual realities. It paints men in an unfair manner. And I cannot understand why.
I can feel your pain even though we are not the same gender. It's society. I think us women will always assume that men are only after sex. It's actually an old saying. "There only after one thing." Think about that for a second. Not all men are like that. Not all men are dogs! But it's hard finding the "nice guys" in today's society or at least the guys I know. Anyways don't let that get you down! It really does. "Paint men in an unfair manner." Like you said. Some women do behave like that. I admit that some of the girls am acquittance with behave like the way you mentioned. Remember we are all human. We all behave like that at times it not just a "men thing."
@FatherJack I feel ya. Single dad hear too. Well the mother is in my kids lives but I am not in a relationship with her. But I will do anything for my kids.
1. Men only want a "model status" body - No of course, they get turned on by girls who don't have a perfect body 2. Men only care about sex - this might be true 3. Men don't care about our feelings. - might care in the same time they are egoist, so their needs come first 4. They cannot commit to a relationship - this has proved to be wrong too 5. "All men are the same." - Of course not, some of them are worse
how can their be 'misconceptions' about men. as if they are a single person. its like saying common misconceptions about people. people are different. anyone who has misconceptions about people its bc they are presuming things without getting to know a person, thats no ones fault but their own,. no one is forced with misconceptions. just dont prejudge people. problem solved.
as for the list, if people just thought through prejudice using common sense , these could easily be discounted.
-obviously men date all kinds of people. models make up like zero 5 of the population and relationships existed before models the ideal of which changes often
obviously guys think of sex very little relative to other things or they never would work or live bc theyd deteriorate,.
every human has feelings and most care on some level. those who dont are sociopathic which again very little of the population.
obviously not all men are the same. not all men are chosen for the same job sane part sane relationship and al humans have unique experiences that make them 'them'. just bc many people can't be bothered to learn about each person doesn't change the fact each person has their own story.
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I agree with all your points.
I think in most cases, they speak to something that is on average true, but each myth is a strawman exaggeration, or a false 'either or'.
1) Men care a lot about looks, more than women do. However, men's standards for 'hot' are much lower than those women hold foe men. Because of this most women think most men look sort of average, and only a few look really hot. I think they think because of this, it's critically important they look amazing to be hot to men, because they know men really care about 'hotness'. The thing is, men consider most youngish women (and many older ones too) who are not wildly out of shape, who are dressed decently with decent hair, potentially hot. Hotness for women is sort of like having a job for post college age men. Yeah, that job matters somewhat, but you don't need to make 200k a year to get a woman (though hey, it improves your choices). But if you're unemployed and not looking, that's a big problem. You don't need to look like a supermodel to get a man, but you need to sort of look okay.
2) Strawman. Vast majority of men care quite a lot about sex. Some only care about sex. Some care a lot about relationships. The false dichotomy here is people will act like men care about sex OR they care about relationships. Most men who are relationship minded care a lot about sex and closeness in a relationship. They want both. A lot.
3) Never really heard this tbh.
4) Plenty of men are ready to commit. However it IS true that men, especially as they get older, worry more about committing then they do about getting physical. Different order of risks.
5) of course, true for women as well. On the other hand there are some things that tend to be common among men, and among women.
80% of the women are chasing 15% of the men. So yeah, almost all of them are the same or similar, but the girls are eliminating the majority from the git-go.
Unfortunately, men have been told over and over and raised up to believe they are just like girls. Our schools and churches and everything that boys come into contact with are making them into weak supplicating beta orbiters, just hoping that if they are nice and treat a girl well they will get sex. Just not happening.
And about sex, women simply don't relate to having 17 to 23 times the testosterone coursing through their system like men, so they just don't get the sex drive. Yes, it's that important. Women can just shut it off, men don't.
Men are reserving their commitment because women are giving away their intimacy. In the new FI women are free to fuck anyone they want, any time they want, so why should a man commit? Remember, women are the keepers of sex and men are the keepers of commitment. Make yourself into someone worth commiting to, don't ride the cock-carousel 'till you hit the wall. All the guys you dumped as not good enough just simply won't want you anymore.
Feelings - no we really don't care. Which doesn't mean we don't like you, or your little tirades, but really It's just ALL about the feelings for the the girls, the guys just really can't relate to all that. Go ahead and emote, have all the drama you can create, we'll wait for you to get done. This is the reason you can't argue with a woman - there is no logic, it's just emotion.
You say: "In the new FI women are free to fuck anyone they want, any time they want, so why should a man commit?" I agree that in the future women are free to fuck anyone they want and that's okay. Men should learn that sex and an emotional relationship are different things. Modern women discover that they can have sex with another man or woman in the side without the need to live together. For women this is more important than for men, because women get only high levels of testosterone and higher than men, when they have sex, and sex with the same partners becomes mostly boring after several years. So, accept the modern life style and you will sleep better.
I don't think anybody over the age of 8 or with any common sense at all thinks these things to be honest. I hear people complaining that women think this but have never actually met a woman who's as stupid as all that to believe these things. Actually, I have probably seen some women online say some of these things... particularly all men are the same. Not si much 1-4 though. Either way, it's backwards people, and who cares what they think, they'll always be stupid. Yiu can't fix stupid. Just avoid while happily snapping up the men they're missing out on.
Well said. Its rare on this site tha girls give guys any credit. When guys are absolutely wonderful. When your girl friends are stabbing you in the back you can always count on the guys in your life to be loyal and there for you.
From a single dad , thank you !! Being a lone male parent , have had sexism spewed at me... you forgot to add " Men are incapable of parenting !! " which is still a common belief , we are also NOT all sexual predators !! " Media " brainwashing has an effect too !!
Definitely a big "no" to all those. #2, men love and want sex yes, some guys at certain points in their life may only want that but all men all the time definitely not. It also depends greatly on the woman.
Not all men are the same. Many women just think so because they keep going after the same kind of guy. There are nice guys too who are completely invisible to those women.
Lol I could date a women for five years but no I won't ask her to marry me, so if that's a flaw women are mad about it. Find someone else looking for marriage I guess I'm just OK with being a good boyfriend and that's all
Well, a lot of my friends are mainly guys, and I know a lot of people, I work with a lot of people. Then it got me thinking after knowing them for a long time that many of these claims are misconceptions, I then did an experiment with asking some questions and found out that they are indeed mostly misconceptions.
I will use it for good. It's why I made this myTake to in a way show people that these stereotypes are mostly misconceptions, and not to always think them just because they were said a lot.
The ones that believe those stereotypes only date the best looking jock types. Find a decent looking guy who is polite and well mannered and they can find out for themselves.
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