Why do guys do this when cuddling or holding hands?

[lulubear]

If their arm is around you they usually rub/graze their thumb/fingers/hand on your shoulder or your back.

If you're holding hands they will rub your hands or play with them.

Why?

[jeanbean]

I thought this was completely normal... my boyfriend and I always do this with each other. I guess for me it means that all their focus is on you at that moment. They're not absent mindedly holding your hand paying attention to something else, they're thinking about you.

[Ghosty]

Sorry to break the news, but it becomes a mechanical/automatic gesture, which I can do even when I am in deep thoughts. But it is something calming and it feels nice for both I guess, so why not? And it's more intimate than just holding.

[jeanbean]

I said for me, as in my situation. I didn't say that it's that way for everyone else.

[cavmanier]

Haha I remember this. I think it was to show they like you. They want you to feel pleasure or to feel relaxed. I remember in like Jr. High when girls would suck on my fingers O_O omg my mind went

[TysJCB]

It's calming and nice and girls usually have really soft skin

[ed1969]

Because we always feel like we should be doing something to improve on whatever. Men always want to improve or fix what ever it is they are involved with. sometime it's enough to just hold hands , period.

[John34300]

To show others that your his