Is it normal that my brother always looks at my boobs?

[Anonymous]

Im under 18 and he's 18, he's always looking at my boobs , is this normal?

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Im13

[Halibut]

If it's just occasional glances, that's normal. If it's quite frequent though, that would be unusual for 18 year olds. That's the sort of staring that could be due to physical attraction.

If it is due to physical attraction, that's not that abnormal, so far as I can tell, to have the impulse to be attracted to female figures in general. However, most boys learn to teach themselves to look at their family members in a non-sexual way at a much early age if that's an issue for them at all at.

If he is looking at your breaks like that due to physical attraction, that's inappropriate, but I doubt it means he's a pedophile or horrible sex criminal or anything. It probably just means he's immature and hasn't learned to control his impulses well yet... but that also depends on how often he does it. If we're talking full on, constant gawking, that's another issue.

He's still actually fairly young, in terms of growing. He'll probably change in time to stop this behavior, if he is doing it due to sexual attraction, because he'll learn how. He should have learned to control those sorts of impulses long before now though. If he can't control his impulse to stare at his much younger sister, he's probably been staring at a lot of other girls too, and creeping them out and the longer this continues, the longer it'll harm him and creep out people around him.

If you think it is occurring due to sexual attraction... if I were you I'd just say "stop staring at my tits" one day. He'll probably be horrified, and that may snap him into reality and get him to grow up faster and control his impulses better, which would be for his own benefit. Alternatively, you could tell one of your parents, and that'll horrify him considerably more, with similar results as you doing it.

However, at your age... there's no possible way I'd have the courage to do that. I'd feel immense shame and embarrassment at stating such a thing, too much to ever do it... so I have no advice other than that besides saying mother nature is an evil witch who gives people all sorts of bizarre impulses.

[madhatters4]

ummm well guys look at boobs. that is normal. but most boys understand at a relatively early age not to sexualize family members. either it occurs naturally or something happens and the learn

I think that this isn't normal and isn't especially healthy. I think you should try and talk to him about it. it's understandable that he's attracted to boobs and women but he shouldn't be attracted to women or the boobs of women who are family. It's inappropriate and to me seems to indicate that in his mind he hasn't learned that sexualizing a female family member isn't appropriate

[Asker]

Only 13 thoI

[madhatters4]

then I think this is especially not ok. he's 18 and if he is honestly checking you out it is clear that he is sexually objectifying you. (sorry I thought you were both 18 on my initial read). this is a difficult situation to address because you don't want him getting in trouble as much as you just want the issue to be handled. I would suggest telling your mom that you feel like your brother is looking at you and it makes you feel uncomfortable

[madhatters4]

I have a sister who is about 8 years older than me. so when I was 13 (ripe with puberty) she was a full fledged woman. but I still saw that there was a difference between my sister and some classmate or women I saw out and about. I could FEEL that there was something sexual about other women and didn't feel that same thing with my sister or other female family members...

anyone who says that your brother's behavior is normal, healthy, or ok is wrong

[Anonymous]

If he stares that's creepy and not normal. If he just happen to glance every now and then that's normal, and everyone does that even girls and even little kids. If you're only 13 that means you just recently developed boobs so he's probably just not used to you having boobs. Its very strange seeing a girl go from not having boobs then BAM suddenly she has boobs and is becoming a young adult.

[Ravenredd]

Whoa that's very weird.. It's inappropriate for a brother or any kind of family to be looking at your breasts. But is it just quick glancing , or an actual stare? Either one doesn't make a difference, but I'd be pretty creeped out. Doesn't sound normal to me.. O. o

[Anonymous]

As long as that is all he does, then it's nothing to worry about. My sister always stare at mine, and I don't really mind.

[Dionysos]

If you trot a pair of boobs (pretty much any pair of boobs) past a 18yo human male and said human doesn't notice them, it's very likely he's either dead or gay. If it bothers you that he looks at them, or if he looks in a way that's more than in passing or that creeps you out, tell him to quit looking at your boobs or you'll tell Mom. The odds are he doesn't even realize he's doing it so he'll be horrified and will never look at them again.

[Asker]

imonl13y

[Dionysos]

Like I said, tell him to quit looking at em or you'll tell your Mom.

[madhatters4]

it's normal for an 18 year-old to check out his 13 year-old sister?

[Dionysos]

No it most definitely is not.

[RandomStudent]

I don't have a sister, so I am no judge on what's considered normal here. However, if he's making you uncomfortable, you should do something about it. Has he ever had a GF?

[Asker]

Nope

[RandomStudent]

Never had a GF by eighteen usually equals very horny. This might explain why he stares at them. Maybe try setting him up with a friend or something?

[Asker]

Yeah but im only 13 so I don't know many older girls

[RandomStudent]

Oh... That makes it a bit more weird.

[7heDubz]

SO I see incest isn't looked at too fondly here. I'll just sit quietly now.

Not "normal" but if it bugs you talk to him about it but make it clear your intentions. (Stop it I don't like it kind of clearness.)

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I don't know how prevalent (normal) it is, but boobs are boobs. Sometimes he forgets who they're attached to.

[Asker]

Im 13tho

[yaddayaddayadda02]

I didn't know you were that young. I would mention it to your parents.

[BertMacklinFBI]

no its not normal because I consider myself normal and I don't stare at my sister's boobs:P

[madhatters4]

agree. typically boys learn at a young age not to sexualize family members

[ldrccarter]

my dad stares at my boobs... but not in a sexual way, in a shocking, "my baby girl is a woman" way

[Prof_Don]

If he just looks... then that's fine.

Is he staring or just glancing?

[Asker]

Im only 13 tho

[Anonymous]

I suggest you hook him up with one of your female friends, since he is clearly in need of some action.
Just be a good sister and find him a girlfriend.

[MattSX]

well, its the natural instinct of a male. ya shouldn't be worried dear

[MattSX]

you're 13? oh well, then he's a pedophile

peace :D

[johnmsk]

Do u wear revealing clothes, show cleavage.. if so he may look just like any guy. its ok if he dont stare or ogle.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that is a big deal. I mean, they are there when you reveal them. No one can really deny it.

[madhatters4]

men check out women, yes. they shouldn't be checking out their sister. especially when the sister is 5 years younger than the brother, a minor, and at such an informative age. the brother needs to set an example of what a good man is to his younger sister.

[Annymous8]

He looks at them or stares?

[Theguywhomadeurday]

Hell no.
I won't do any such thing.

[Anonymous]

No!!! This is not normal

[Anonymous]

Sure? You're still a girl, right?

[katydollxx]

thats kinda weird