What should you do when a guy holds a door for you?

[musicrocks44452]

Like, if you reach the next door first, should you wait for him to open it for you, or should you open it yourself (so as not to seem high-maintenance)?

[cun7n1nja]

If a guy opens and/or holds a door open for me, I smile, make eye contact, and say 'thank you.'

If I get to the door first and someone is fairly close behind me, I'll usually head in first, but hold it open until the guy [or anyone, for that matter] gets to the door, so it doesn't slam on them. I would never stand there and wait for the guy to come up and expect him to open the door for me. I would feel like that's rude, even if the guy -wants- to open the door for me. It would be rude of me to expect it, if that makes sense.

I don't EXPECT a guy, or anyone else, to open or hold a door for me, but I always show appreciation if they do. And likewise, I'll always hold the door for someone else if they're behind me. It's just good manners.

I don't really follow those kind of 'traditional' manners, like the guy should always open the door for a girl, should pull out her chair for her, should ALWAYS pay for her meal, etc. One thing my dad does that I think is sweet is that if I go somewhere with him in his car and we're getting in, he'll always come around and unlock, open, and close my door for me before going to his side. All of those things are nice gestures, but I don't expect them from anyone, and I think I would be kind of annoyed if guys did those things for me ALL the time. Like I know in my head that it's an etiquette thing that will probably never completely die out, but my instincts tell me that I need to be more independent, because I like equality.

[jtj25m]

Women like you, there needs to be more of. Speak like yoda, I just did there. O.o I prefer to be the gentleman type(one reason I despise the automatic doors most places have nowadays!) I like to open doors for women but I get a bit pis*y when they act as though it is expected, and can't be bothered with even a simple thank you. But I do it because I want to, so I don't let that deter me from doing it again. I'd probably be the kind of guy you'd get annoyed with eventually, but I can't help it!=P

[cun7n1nja]

Aw thanks! Yoda is a badass though, so we can let it slide. =P I know what you mean! I hate when anyone -expects- anything from me, and I feel the same way when I hold a door for someone and they don't even say thank you. It's rude, but I'm not going to let someone else's rudeness affect my good manners. There's a line though. There's guys who pretend to have good manners because it gets chicks, and there's guys who really just have good manners. I can tell the difference, haha. You're fine. =]

[jtj25m]

Yeah, I'm just a genuinely nice person, mind you I'm not a doormat as some equate that to. I think a lot of it stems from a childhood of memories where my mother is crying because of something my dad did to her. Don't get me wrong my dad isn't a bad guy, but some of the crap he says and does is unnecessary, so I make it a point to be as little like him as possible in that regard. Besides woman+crying or upset=A broken hearted Jeffery. lol

[cun7n1nja]

I guess we have quite a bit in common there, and we're both products of our environments. That sounds a lot like my childhoood too, actually. My parents aren't together anymore, and it was clearly for the best, because my dad is a much better guy these days with my step-mum. He still has his moments, but it's great for me, cause I'm totally a daddy's girl. So I benefit from the 'new and improved' dad. =P

[The-Nash]

lol, if you think he's cute you hold the next door shut so he can't pass through it and say "I got the door, but it'll cost ya" haha, that'll give you time to flirt. . .

If you don't like him, just say thanks and keep going, who cares if he thinks you're high maintenance. . . you'll only know him for 4.3 seconds, lol.

[strotter4]

open it yourself... the guy... being a gentleman since he opened the first door will reach forward and grab it holding it as you walk through and then walk through himself... don't stand and wait.. that's prudish...

[d8880]

wait for him to open it and thank him