In your initial write-up you mention cheating jokes. But in your replies to commenters your example is that he joke, "I still don't have a goth girlfriend." When you talked to him about it, he was receptive. He agreed that you screenshot the things you don't like. That's very amenable of him. Guys are single a lot, and they generally like looking at good looking girls/women, so I think this might be more about your insecurity in yourself than his comments specifically. Although I'm sure you've seen lots of comments and only given a couple of examples here. Guys want the cool girlfriend, who doesn't fall apart easily, get weirded out by things he does, and ideally be another friend he can have fun with, but with all the other huge benefits of a physical relationship, emotional intimacy, etc. If you learn to have faith in yourself, and him, and realize that the jokester has nothing to do with disrespecting you specifically, then you might be able to build a successful relationship with him (and other guys in the future.) Young guys are uncouth, sometimes rude and crude. They need to be civilized a bit, when they first start really dating and being in relationships. And girls need to go with the flow, have a sense of humour, and not personalize everything. That's the secret sauce.
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Well behind every joke is some truth to it... also just the fact that you told him that it bothers you and he keeps posting stuff like that, is a red flag, cause if it's just a "Joke" he could also stop posting that stuff
Yeah I understand. Seems creepy. If you don’t think it’s meant to be. Leave it be.
There are a lot of disingenuous “nice guys” who aren’t being nice because they’re nice people. There is strings attached.
They feel entitled to sex if they do so much stuff.
If it bothers you. Maybe take it as. You’re not compatible. It’s not meant to be. Don’t be nasty to him. But I understand why it bothers you
Passive-Aggressive bragger that is so bold as to think he can both do it, advertise it, and get away with it in front of your face. This behavior escalates the more secure he becomes. You are seeing tip of the iceberg...
You know this... live with it or get out now. No B and moaning if you stay. Good Luck !!!
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you have to address it. reality is in a relationship, things change.
what's valuable is exploring why he is doing this. and learning to communicate positives about relationship.
he needs to make changes, be patient, but do communicate.
If you aren't fine with something and it still bothers you it's a red flag. Talk to him again and tell him he shouldn't do it. If he really likes you then he'll listen to how you feel and will stop.
"DON'T AVOID RED FLAGS" especially in the beginning.If he’s talking about the topics in a joking manner that’s a red flag.
If he’s talking about those topics with criticism, and teaching people how to be better and make better choices that’s another thingYou are never going to find a perfect guy so if this is all that's wrong with him then let him have it. It might be how he gets off instead of porn.
That is totally disgusting and disrespectful. He should take into consideration your feelings.
In addition to his jokes does he also posting wholesome things and post about your relationship with him?
You can ignore this for sometime but trust me this will keep on pent-up and the day you bring it up in future might not be good for this relationship so its best to keep things clean right from begining
Social media is always gona ruin stuff for you so put it on the side or delete him. Worry bout you and how they treat you
That’s a hard one. Because it seems like he’s not going to change either
Toss trash where it belongs.
You love his money. Now deal with it.
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