Need advice on friendship with guy friend?

[kylee2437]

So me and this guy became friends at a music festival. I’ve been hanging out with him for the past two months and I really thought I would vibe with him pretty well. Well, lately I’ve been having trouble vibing with him because I don’t like how he talks to me? Everytime I say something he either looks at like I’m crazy or try’s to correct me. For example we went to a restaurant with sausage gravy and I said “it’s from the south” and he was like “it’s probably popular in the south, but not from the south” but he said that with like an attitude. He then basically fact checked me on and.. just for me to be correct. So long story short, he basically insults my intelligence. The reason why this is making me feel like I should cut him off is because I have social anxiety, which he knows about but he still triggers my social anxiety constantly to the point where I feel like I can’t be myself. I’m just in a constant battle of if I should cut him off or have a serious talk with him. Advice?

[Kaneki05]

Eww sausage gravy I just looked that up, what... kinda person puts milk on sausages. Do they also have sausage milkshakes in the south?
Anyway to the question, yeah just break that off. For sure sounds like he don't think you are smart. Or just likes to oppose what people say.
I am often a factoid nut so I would often often question whether that was true or not if someone told me but I would look it up and if they are right I would thank them for such information or ask more what they know.
And if I had no information onto it prior I am not just gonna make assumptions, I would need a reason for why I don't think it came from there which I would explain to show my reasoning not that I am just questioning you because I think you are dumb.

And sometimes it's just better to agree with the person than fact check it later to then if you found out there wrong. You can actually point out why it was and have an interesting talk about it.
But the major problem is here is he's always trying to make you look crazy or wrong. Undoubtedly gaslighting you and trying to make you more insecure so you can bend to his whim because that's how they get ya.

[kylee2437]

I agree. It is gaslighting and it actually made me not want to be around him the whole weekend

[CallmeTheKnight]

You that as a friend? Sounds like he has a problem with people for no reason and wants to look smarter but ends up looking like a dumb smart ass.

You can either address or do what most people do... go ghost. You got a mouth, speak up

[kylee2437]

Agreed. I just don’t know if it will even be worth speaking up. A lot of people that think they are always right, also think that there’s nothing wrong with them

[swettannie]

difficult question. how important is that friendship for you?

[kylee2437]

Not very important at the moment because I can’t be myself around him

[swettannie]

then it's probably better to stop being friend with him

[kylee2437]

That’s kind of what I’ve been battling with but I feel like he almost needs an explanation. I went to a festival with him this weekend and honestly I kind of did my own thing there because I couldn’t stand being looked at like I was crazy for everything I said.

[swettannie]

Just cut contact.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@kylee2437 He doesn’t need an explanation. You don’t owe him anything

[Wise4myage]

I say move on from this guy, the fact that you have to constantly be battling yourself says it all. And that can't be good for your anxiety.

[kylee2437]

Not good at all. It’s not good for my anxiety that I can’t be myself around him. I hung out at a festival alone even though we were supposed to be together because I couldn’t stand it. He was kind of upset that I went and did my own thing

[Wise4myage]

Wow, ignoring him for the rest of the night says it all. He is not good for your mental health.

[kylee2437]

Nope but I’m just battling on telling him the real reason why I was ignoring him the whole night

[Wise4myage]

I say go for it and speak your mind. Hopefully he will learn from it.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Uhm. So what makes you feel drawn to him as a friend? What does he have to offer?

[kylee2437]

We go to festivals together and I like going to them. I don’t really have anyone else, but after this weekend, I kind of realized, I can go to them myself. I almost feel like I should ask him about it though? I feel like there’s potential to fix things , he just kind of needs to be told about himself. I do like to give people second chances.

[WhiteBoyChill]

That’s fair. definitely talk about it then

[Bigjake1019]

That’s seriously rude of him

[kylee2437]

Yes it is which is why I shut down when I’m around him

[Bigjake1019]

Why hun? You shouldn’t have to do that?

[kylee2437]

Feel like I can’t be myself around him. I’m a very goofy, weird, quirky , but intelligent person and when someone doesn’t allow me to do that, I can’t trust them really. The way he has been treating me has made me lost trust and interest but I also feel like someone should talk to him about it because I notice he talks to his mother the exact way

[Bigjake1019]

@kylee2437 I’d allow you to be yourself so don’t let him take you down and maybe you should talk to him and end things so he knows you are being serious.

[Bigjake1019]

@kylee2437 you should hit me up