Why guys have to insult girls when they got rejected?

[Anonymous]

It happened to me many times. Every time I ignored or reject someone, they will go out of their way to insult me.
I didn't mind before. But it's really too much sometimes..
One guy called me "transgander" cos I told him I didn't like him. He said my boobs so small...
Then as soon as I replied, he asked what I am doing and want to take me out.
Then I asked him " seriously? You just said that to me..."
why do guys do that? Jerks? Or what?

[fueledbythc]

Nobody likes rejection and our society grooms men to approach whIle women are the choosers. I honestly hate that aspect of society. I hate modern day dating. A lot of women can't empathize how these men feel after getting rejected countless times. It starts to hurt the man in thinking he's worthless and then it comes out as him being a jerk and insults the woman so that woman can feel the pain the man feels after countless rejections that are just routine. Once you can understand why they will be jerks, you can find a way to not care at all why they are insulting you and just accept that some men need it as a tool to cope so they can move onto the next interest.

[Zachie08]

That sounds like making excuses. Because he is rejected I should be understanding that he is a jerk? How about no. All that does is make me grateful that I dodged a bullet with that asshole. Coming off as a jerk doesn't make me think, hey I missed a great guy. It makes me think what a dick, tell my friends about him, we laugh, and I move on with my day. Than he becomes background noise to someone else.

[fueledbythc]

@Zachie08 the way you responded to my comment shows me you lack empathy. Sorry for being blunt but asking why some men will be jerks after rejection is more proof on your lack of empathy. It's not an excuse that these men after countless rejections and their failures will be jerks. You can't expect men to treat women like queens. I'm a firm believer against that. Women should be treated as equals and that means getting yelled like you're a man and if a girl were to hit me, there's an eye for an eye right there because you think you can physically harm a man and expect respect when you're treating me like dirt. That's just the impression I get. Sorry if I'm sounding horrible rn but nothing makes me more mad when men are expected to the bullshit from women just because of gender differences.

[Zachie08]

Here's the thing. I am a plus size girl. Just because men reject me should I go around being a jerk? No I don't. Even to those who are mean to me I try to be nice because guess what it is no excuse big enough for me to rude and impolite to anyone. Even to the guy that called me a "n" word because I wouldn't sleep with him. I was not rude though some would say I had the right to be. I just understand I am not everyone's cup of tea. So people in general need to stop acting like jerks just because their feeling get hurt. I lack empathy to people who want pitty for being jerks. I empathize with those who keep trying and keep smiling through their struggle.

[fueledbythc]

@Zachie08 in a perfect world where no pride and ego exists is where you will get people not acting like jerks. I have a feeling since you mentioned you're fat ( I don't like euphemisms so I'm sorry I'll straight up call you fat over plus sized) they feel you should be desperate and should sleep with them. You're an individual and I know so many men see women as objects. Especially since I see so many guys rate women on the 10 point scale and I find that to be a big pet peeve of mine. The lower you are on the scale, the worse you will get treated. Society is so shallow and I understand I can do my part in not engaging in such judgement. Keep doing your thing but you can't control another person's behaviors especially when they view you as a lesser woman unfortunately. If you can't handle being judged that way, lose weight. Sorry again for being so blunt but the real world is a harsh place with a lot of judgement and I know women have it harder.

[Zachie08]

I don't mind being judge. I saying there is no excuse for being rude. You call me fat I laugh. But if rejection makes you pick on people you are a low person. And I refuse to empathize with people who go out of their way to be jerks because they are getting rejected. So like you said I need to fix myself, maybe he (men) should too instead of going around being jerks. She rejected him for a reason right?

[fueledbythc]

@Zachie08 I'm not saying there's an excuse but there's a source for ones actions and if you consider that an excuse to act like that a jerk, then you're misunderstanding me. there's always a source to why someone acts the way they act. That doesn't mean it's justified to act like a jerk but you also don't know what that person has experienced. My problem is that I empathize with almost everyone. It comes natural to me. Even evil and selfish actions I can empathize. I've met a lot of good and bad people pour our their life stories to me and I notice one common thing, everyone is innocent at one point and has light in their hearts. Life strips that away until you're just walking negativity.

[Zachie08]

I understood exactly what you said. They are jerks for a reason and we should empathize with that reason.
I guess we will agree to disagree.

[AssJacket]

A lot of men are weak and can't handle feelings like this. They lash out as a defensive mechanism. You'll hear a lot about how men get rejected all the time and women are cruel and all that but really it's just dudes that need to handle their shit like men rather than little boys.

[desidoll]

I've been called names a few times for rejecting guys. It doesn't matter whether I rejected them in a nice way or no. Some who can't handle it well would still insult me. They do that to get their power back after being told no.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO

[This_is_my_username]

Wow what a asshole. You should have said "It's probably bigger than your package."😂😂 anyways men like that are fucked. That's why there herring at women in the first place.

[This_is_my_username]

Hollering*

[anaspie]

That my friend is called insecurity... You want to walk away from those little boys now you want a MAN in your life.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Because dey pwoor wittle ittie bittie bwabies.

Damaged ego on piss poor guys = need to act like a child.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Why do so many girls go full nuclear when they reject a guy, going out of their way to embarrass him?

The vast majority of the species are fucksticks. Plain and simple.

Women get an ego boost from performing a nuclear shoot-down, and insulting a chick takes a little of the sting out of rejection.

[IceCubedude]

it depends , for me personally i dont if i just met and she didn't give clear signs but i went for it anyway then its fine all fair and she rejected me , however some girls stare at you , check you out, smile at you, act like you're the only thing they want and need when you're around, then when you make a move they run away the other direction, such girls deserve a bad treatment.

[Marinepilot]

You hurt their feelings and you expect them to be nice? I
would say, "Fuck you very much. Have a nice life " Walk away and never speak to you again. It also could be you come across as condescending. You do that and you MUST expect hostile responses.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

No, you just crazy

[Marinepilot]

@ikissedtheskyonce No I'm not.

[Ellaphoebe14]

So I understand that response. What I don't get is when guys continually name call me and be passive aggressive. I would expect guys to avoid me or want nothing to do with me. That makes sense. It's when they go on the offensive and pull the I-won't-let-you-ever-forget-it attitude and continually harass me (for several months).

[Ellaphoebe14]

And this is all under the scenario that I did not lead the guy on in any way.

[Marinepilot]

@Ellaphoebe14 That maybe. But some people don't handle rejection at all.

[truthbeknown]

It hurts to be rejected. Not a good feelings. Many people feel hurt and also stupid, like they made a mistake. This hurt can turn into anger. It becomes like, "you hurt me, so now I hurt you!" Kinda like a self-defense reaction.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

I actually was mean to a woman who has just rejected me. Why? Because she was a bitch about it. She just led me on and rejected me in a cruel way, which women often do, I I insulted her and basically told her to fuck off. If you're gonna reject someone who has feeling for you, at least do it in the right way. Some women enjoy hurting men.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Bullshit, she was talking about men who insult women who respectfully reject men

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Thats why nobody wants you

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Asshole, stay mad little boy, go fuck yourself in your corner

[Love_Is_Eternal]

@ikissedtheskyonce fuck you feminazi

[madhatters4]

it's part of human nature to lash out when we feel personally hurt or rejected. obviously it's not all people but more immature individuals will lash out and attack if they feel rejected

[somebodysaycheese]

He called you tranagender 😂
You should called him one back.
Some guys just can't deal with rejection like an adult

[Anonymous]

First you must put yourselves in the shoes of a guy, tried it? Ok next understand that guys have to go through lots and lots of rejections, then they get extremely annoyed. I understand this a little. If that didn't happen to him, then maybe he just can't handle rejections well😅

[ShaeNielson]

You're offending their manhood, and they are too insecure enough to just let it go. Basically if a man insults after you reject him, he is weak and you chose the right thing - same goes for girls.

[Tony1974]

Really? You don't understand this at all? He's upset you turned him down and that he doesn't get a opportunity to be with you. Have you ever asked a guy out? Ever been rejected? IF not try it sometime.

[astrOnaut01]

It is deeply embedded in the male psyche to be an asshole. That is why we all lash out when we hear something we don't like. Our brains are more similar to a chimpanzee's brain than it is a woman's brain. That is why we act like animals all the time.

[Dingsbums]

Just proves that it was the right decision to reject them

[Anonymous]

Not all guys are like that. Those are jerks who have the mind of boy not a man. Good thing you didn't pay attention to them because manboys like that ain't worth it.

[Marinepilot]

You are a little beta and it shows.

[Opinion Owner]

@Marinepilot beta or not don't care

[Marinepilot]

Whatever.

[stanhelsing]

I never insult, i just avoid and ignore the woman afterwards. The ones that do sound like they are insecure.

[Keyspirit]

They do that cuz that can't hit that lel. They mas cuz u won't let those hungry wolves have dat azz 😋👙😋
Once they start spitting shiz on u, thats when u should walk away and ignore everything.

[Prof_Don]

Those dudes are personally hurt they got rejected, and are trying to preserve their ego.

[Scrambledagain]

Because men can't handle that a woman is far more superior in the dating game. When a man can't control something, he loses his shit. Fucking pussies

[Love_Is_Eternal]

white knight alert

[Scrambledagain]

@Love_Is_Eternal logic alert 🚨🚨🚨

You have to be, hands down, one dumb shit to dispute this. Men invented shit like marraige to try keep a woman. That's how much "lack of control" means to a guy. I know, fact, even a slightly obese women could get far more sex (in terms of numbers, type and frequency) if she chose than you. I don't even know what you look like. You could be a model and it would still apply.

[Love_Is_Eternal]

That's typical of a white knight. So much horse shit.

[Scrambledagain]

@Love_Is_Eternal oh my god. Yeah. Ignorance is bliss bud. I truly wish I lived in that delusion of yours. I would be a more happy camper.

And white knight implies defending women to get women, or some other "nice guy" shit. Where in fucks name is that anywhere here?

Fact. Women are far more sexually superior than men. I have tons of evidence. It's like saying a female praying mantis holds the cards in the sex game in their species. I'm not gonna fuck a praying mantis anytime soon for stating a fact?

[Winter_Storm_Guy]

I accept being rejected and i think guys are bad beat and immature when they have to put a girl down cause she rejected him.

[Anonymous]

They have fragile egos that break when they get rejected so they insult whoever rejected to make themselves feel better.

[AlwaysBelieving]

They're butt hurt and need to be mature about things.