Basically I'm friends with a married older man.. it started as just friends but feelings are involved now for me anyway, I'm not sure about him as he says conflicting things... he says the most sweetest things to me... and says he's never had this connection with any one before.
We are quite affectionate in the way we speak to each other and he's extremely caring towards me.
Lately he keeps bringing up the subject of sex. At first it was generalised but now it's him asking questions about my sexual activities. Not with other men but on my own if you catch my drift.
He even asked me what I did what I used (sex toy wise) and has his own little name for my toys.
Then asked me about oral sex I told him that I'm actually good at it whereas most women are not keen on it. He said he needed to get that out of his head now I had said I was good at it. And went on for a good while about having to erase it from his memory before rushing off and hardly giving me a decent Goodbye.
He already deletes our texts from his wife though they are not raunchy texts they are just sometimes flirty. He says extra marital affairs are wrong but then we are very close, though nothing physical has ever happened aside from hugs and being touchy feely, hand holding and flirting.
He is the kind of person to have to justify any 'wrong doing' in his mind to make it okay in his mind.
I have 2 questions. The first being why did he ask about oral sex and then freak out in a negative way?
And second why does he bring up the topic of sex? Does he have feelings for me too? Does he want to sleep with me? I don't understand guys.
We are quite affectionate in the way we speak to each other and he's extremely caring towards me.
Lately he keeps bringing up the subject of sex. At first it was generalised but now it's him asking questions about my sexual activities. Not with other men but on my own if you catch my drift.
He even asked me what I did what I used (sex toy wise) and has his own little name for my toys.
Then asked me about oral sex I told him that I'm actually good at it whereas most women are not keen on it. He said he needed to get that out of his head now I had said I was good at it. And went on for a good while about having to erase it from his memory before rushing off and hardly giving me a decent Goodbye.
He already deletes our texts from his wife though they are not raunchy texts they are just sometimes flirty. He says extra marital affairs are wrong but then we are very close, though nothing physical has ever happened aside from hugs and being touchy feely, hand holding and flirting.
He is the kind of person to have to justify any 'wrong doing' in his mind to make it okay in his mind.
I have 2 questions. The first being why did he ask about oral sex and then freak out in a negative way?
And second why does he bring up the topic of sex? Does he have feelings for me too? Does he want to sleep with me? I don't understand guys.
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