Some guys are less chatty with text and he asked you twice hang out with him give him a chance if you want to
I wouldn't hang out with him. you need to be with someone who is into even than you are not hanging out
oh but to answer hour question it sounds like he might not be into you as much as you might want him to be. in his mind you might be his standby or something
@Nephilimooo exactly some people are trying to make me feel like a bad person. When I was thinking that exact thing, we are suppose to go to a party soon, if he bails his feelings will be loud and clear and how full of dog poop he is. Even if he just wants to hang as friends.
I don't understand. how are you supposed to be the bad person in all of this. I think his behavior has been rude and disrespectful and you deserve to be more than just someone's second thought
Exactly I understand I said no many times but if he wanted to hang out so bad when we had plans he wouldn't have went out with his friends instead and I only found out because I texted him and told him that I couldn't hang out and he said he was out with other people. Pretty messed up.
THAT IS PRETTY MESSED UP. I think when you make plans with someone it is a commitment and you don't break it when something else comes along. you only break it is it is absolutely necessary. and you let them know at the earliest possible moment. you need people who actually want your company not someone who is just looking to pass time
This event he's coming to me with is something I feel I need to go to and he's driving the two of us there but honestly I don't plan on giving him my time after cause of his bs and he really wants me to meet his friends I don't know why. And when he pulled that crap he gave the lame reason there was a lot of people but he wanted me to come Full of Bologna
if he wanted you to come he would have asked you instead of giving you some lame excuse. But instead when you found out he was already out with other people doing things other than what he committed to doing with you. I wouldn't put up with this kinda bs and neither should you. as for meeting his friends he might be using you to improve his image or maybe they don't believe you exist. it's hard to say
Thank you so much for giving your advice and seeing where I'm coming from. Some people think it's not right that I'm going to get him to drive us to the event but, not hang out with him after that night (him coming with me was planned before the move he pulled) . Yeah he's a nice guy but, in my eyes he is full of it and honestly I don't feel comfortable meeting his friends. I was called shallow by someone because I don't want to give this guy my time and dramatic because he texted me the next day after what he did asking for me to do a couple of things with him. Honestly, if he would have apologized for pulling the crap he did I wouldn't care about it now but, since he didn't and gave some lame excuse it now changed the way I view him as a person and shows how little he values my time. What if I was sitting waiting for him to pick me up, that wouldn't have been fair to me at all. All he had to do was say sorry but, he didn't.
it's not even about seeing where you are coming from. I am just trying to be honest and fair. I think you handled things better than i might have. as for letting him drive you down well like you said it was already setup and I would think after his behavior you deserve something. I might have just cut ties completely. nice is fine. But I think people should look for great people. if ya didn't want to meet his friends that's your call. there is such a thing as women's intuition. I think it would have taken more than am apology to placate me. I mean blowing you off to hang with friends while giving you no notice is pretty disrespectful.
Honestly I want to ask someone else to give me a ride to the event but, it would probably cause an inconvenience ad that's not fair to that person. But I do want to bring up what he did when I'm with him that way he can't just ignore me like you can ignore a text. Plus knowing myself I handle negative conversations better after I have given myself time to plan, do you think it's too late to confront him on his actions? I do want to say and not making excuses but me and him did not have a set time to hang out when the other friend thing happened it was 1 pm so he could have had he plan to hang out with me later, I doubt it but, that's the excuse i'll be expecting.
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I think it's fine if you want to confront him but i don't see the point. I know you might want to find another ride but as the even gets closer it can be harder. ok so you didn't have a set time. But he made plans with you and blew you off without even the courtesy of letting you know. not cool even if you didn't set the time in stone
Okay last update I texted him of course days in advance of the time he needed to get me simply cause he clearly isn't reliable and he said nothing so I take that as we will be doing nothing together. I have a new ride in order and he is out of my life. Someone told me I was going to hard on him, but no one should treat a friend that way. And he's the one that randomly texted me one day, he's wasted enough of my time.
that is probably the wisest course of action. certainly the safest. I don't see how you have been too hard. if anything I think he got off easy. it's no way to treat another person period. unless you don't like them or something. even then it's rude. yeah life is to short to waste with such stupidity. to me it is a clear statement that you don't matter to him. I think your time would be better spent finding people who actuay respect you
Honestly if he texts me the day of asking about picking me up I'll tell him he never replied so, I had someone else come as my plus one and the party is in a gated place so I'm not worried about him randomly popping up. Or I might not reply at all.
Perhaps he just doesn't enjoy texting in general. Some people are like that
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