Doesn't being ugly suck?

Question

As a girl, I think being ugly totally sucks. I've been called a butterface for as long as I can remember. I'm in my early 20's and I've never been on a date or kissed a guy before because none of them will give me the time of day. I have tons of guy friends who say I'm a great person and friend, but the fact is, guys just won't date an ugly girl. I've been very proactive in trying to get dates, and I'm one of those girls who will ask a guy out instead of waiting for him to come to me. However, I've been turned down by every single one because my ugly face keeps them at bay.

Are there any other ugly people out there who agree that life sucks balls most of the time?

Dylan1989 · Accepted Answer

yes it does suck! many things come under the ugly/unattractive category. for me it's my height (and probably my face too). I'm too short for most girls so I come under the ugly category. and it's true what you said about being a great person. everyone thinks I'm great. my friends think I have the most wonderful personality, girls who get to know me think I'm amazing, but the fact is I'm not physically good enough for them. I'm sure not all of them want the most amazing looking guy, they just want someone acceptable in their eyes, and as a short guy I just don't fit that role. this makes me wonder if personality takes you as far as people say it does. girls have turned me down and treated me like they were superior to me just because I'm short.

sorry I couldn't give you any advice or sympathize but just letting you know that I know exactly how you feel. trust me, if I knew of any advice to give you then I would, but I don't. all I can is beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I'm sure there are guys out there who find you attractive. you just haven't met any of them yet.

BoobMan · Accepted Answer

Yeah, it does suck, BUT if you're a "butterface" that just means that your face isn't as pretty as your body. It's not a nice term but I've heard it applied to women whose faces are fine (just not stunning) but who have absolutely AMAZING bodies. In that case, if their bodies weren't so unbelieveable, no one would ever even call them butterfaces. So it may not be that you're unattractive. It could be that your body is just attracting THAT much attention.

So if you dress to emphasise you slamming bod and just use a couple makeup tricks you'll probably be swimming in guys.

Keep the faith!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

being ugly is the worst! I'm sorry that people have called you a "butterface". I never understood why people take it upon themselves to attack those they aren't attracted to. there are a lot of people I don't find attractive, but I'm not gonna belittle them. I think you have been associating with a lot of shallow and mean people. for a guy in his 20s to say something like that to you shows that he is an asshole and ugly on the inside. maybe you could try getting a cute hairstyle and playing with makeup. if you have a nice body then you're in luck because most men care more about body than face. a girl with a notso cute face but a nice body is held in higher esteem than a fat girl with a pretty face.  just hold your head up and be confident. I have seen some mudducks who act like they are the sexiest thing in the room and guys treat them that way because of it. they don't let idiots get them down. fake it till you make it if you have too. a lot of people get fooled by confidence, if you're confident then people will think you look better than you actually do

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

I know how it feels to be ugly. I was tortured from elementary school all the way through highschool. I wanted to kill myself and have tried to several times. I would cry in the mirror and think why me? Why am I so ugly? I started to believe ll those horrible things people would say to me, just because I had heard it a million times.

Now I am in my early-mid twenties and I am the girl that all the guys want to date. I know how it is to be on both sides. People are very judgment and cruel. You did nothing to them, yet they judge you because they are superficial idiots. Don't worry about them, it is their lost if they choose not to see deeper than the surface.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hey! Okay do you wear makeup? Well if you don't.. invest in some. It helped me alot! no joke. Just put on a base that matches your skin tone and apply bronzer abd mascara.. or you could dye or do something different with your hair :) I'm sure your beautiful. I recommend "alien" by thierry mugler. its a perfume. It smells amazing.. and when I wore it, it boosted my confidance slightly. I'm sure your amazing and beautiful. The way you talk.. wish I had a body like yours! Emphasise your body more? xx

fascination_streak · Answer

I was tortured for years in school for being ugly. To add insult to injury, I developed acne when I hit puberty at 11 and I gained weight. I lost the weight but the acne was severe and lasted for over 11 years. I remember clearly in high school, a guy said he would only date me at night because

'during daylight hours you can see her face." Indeed, it was the most cruel thing anyone had ever said to me. I certainly did NOT have guys chasing me.

People are incredibly cruel and can be very mean spirited. I know exactly how you feel and so many times, I would cry myself to sleep over the pain in my heart. There is one positive thing that will come out of you posting this question: You are NOT alone! There are others out there who feel and experience the same things you have.

aster · Answer

i seriously hope you told that guy to take his left hand, stick it in his pants and go f*ck himself.

although I am trying to wrap my head around the concept of a girl who has a really great body but a super ugly face. I don't see it. maybe a plain face, sure, but not an ugly face. and I know a lot of guys can be very petty when it comes to "having things match", meaning that if you have a great body they expect you to have an equally attractive face (though often times a lot of guys on here are severely lacking good quality in both areas, let alone personality).

honestly what you probably are is plain, and not as bad as you make it out to be. being plain isn't a bad thing, yuo just probably feel really ugly because of all those jerks instead of actually "being" ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish I was a butterface you know... At least you can wear a bikini and shorts and guys will love that... A girls face just needs Good make Up and Nice hair those are easy... I think I have a pretty face with make Up on... Without it not really... But my body is awfull full of strecth marks and cellulite sag boobs, fat where they aren't supposed to be... So I feel Ugly and whenever a guy comes to me I push them away because I know they aren't seeing my Ugly bits yet... So I just don't have any contact to boys because of that... And surgeries won't help my problem...it sucks

irmasquirma · Answer

I feeeeeeeeel your pain completely no one ever wants to date me, I posted a question similar to this recently.

What I have come to see is that you gotta wait for the right guy to come to you... tbh you dnt wanna go out tryna get guys because this won't work and you'll end up in some crapppy pointless relationship that may hurt you.

If guys are your friends than I'm sure your a great girl... girls often find it hard to form frienndships with guyss... I bet your awsome, I just bet, girls that have lots of male friends always are.

Guys are f***ing lame pricks... f*** em', who needs them anyway

XxXxXxX BIG LOVE AND STAY STRONG ! <3

helppmeeee · Answer

EVERYBODY has confidence issues.

I hate my hair ... I wish it was straight !

I hate my hands, I wish they were a little bit bigger, in fact I always have to have a french manicure.

I hate my kneecaps lol but we all have them ... !

Truth is NO ONE IS PERFECT, but if anything remember ...

BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER,

You just have to find someone who can see your special unique type of beauty.

P.s. A picture would be helpful for tips !

HANG IN THERE !

arashmenalagha · Answer

THAT F***ING MOTHER F***ING GUY! UGHHHH

don't listen to him, I don't even know how you look, but I would still go on a date with you and treat you like you want to be treated everyone deserves. a chance. I would totally be your friend and everything too :)

I just went on a date yesterday and it was great <3

cerse · Answer

your not ugly to everyone f*** those that say you are don't believe them there is some one out there probley lots of people out there that love you just the way you are the out side ain't sh*t just be a good person that's all that madders I know its easier said then done because people get to you I feel your pain but you can't please everyone most people are evil these last days good luck

Josky · Answer

Theres hope, worry not you'll meet a man who cares less about looks and more about personality (they AREE out there, believe me, *cough* *cough*) personality  which you seem to have. anywho it does suck being ugly, unwanted, unpopular, but hey that's like 80% of the population according to US standards of beauty  most everyone deals OK with it, hey I watch loads of crappy TV to deal with my problems. Keep looking

CNikki93 · Answer

Yes, I know how it is. I deal with it just about every time I step foot outdoors. Directly or indirectly, people make sure to take note about my appearance and judge me without ever getting to know me. Even if they got to know me, there's still a barrier set because they wouldn't want to be seen or take interest of someone ugly as me. I do have some issues that I need taken care of before considering on having a date (if lucky), but even then I know that people would probably want a hookup if they take notice of my body rather than wanting anything personal. I feel like trash at the end of the day, because if I were to be average or good looking then people would want to approach me and perhaps get to know me. But I'm just that ugly chick and as long as I'm seen as such, that's all that I am. People can try convincing me otherwise, I have tried the 'personality is what counts' BS and it's just that... BS.

DanielaFilipa · Answer

oh gosh... I get you really well I find myself really really ugly... and people agree with it...

guys I guess...

I've been called ugly, fat, sh*t.. whatever you can imagine I've heard...

don't let it bring you down.. someday you'll find someone who sees the real you and love you from who you are and will think you're beautiful and hot :)

work your inner beauty find one talent you have and use it... guys like talented girls...

good luck

CuddlyCarla · Answer

All I can say is that there isn't a single person on this earth who is unattractive to everyone. Everybody has different tastes, what is attractive to one isn't to another. So instead of judging yourself, take pride in yourself, be confident, and you'll find someone who really loves you.

teardrop06 · Answer

I know what you man. Guys say that to me all the time. I have never been on a date and I am 24. Most guys ask me out and I call to see that they are lost and they tell me that it was a joke. they will never go out with someone that is ugly as me.

ArtyGirl · Answer

Perhaps it's just that you're coming of particularly desperate? That is far more unattractive than any aesthetic.

momh1984 · Answer

I believe that you can grow more attracted to someone as you get to know them better.  I don't know what it is like to be ugly but I have dated girls that I thought were unattractive at first sight.  I don't care about looks as much as I do about heart.  We will all grow old and ugly but hearts can grow more beautiful over time.  I would be happy to take a good hearted ugly girl on a date.  In fact, some of the hottest girls that I have ever dated ended up being bi%@hes.

AfricanMama · Answer

I have the opposite - I have an ugly body, but my face is not too bad. I had a boyfriend for about a year, in 1989, but nobody has asked me out since.

flipflopsnsnow · Answer

Yes, I've been called a butterface :/ It's all because I broke my nose when I was young and as I matured it just grew weird... But I've wanted to die because of it!

foolycooly1001 · Answer

if you're a butterface, you've probably had sex though right?

ThatBritishLad · Answer

Lassy, I live in London, where everybody is ugly, and life sucks for everyone XD

And I have a counter-question: What is an ugly person? Who was the person who gave us this ideal look? Back in ancient times, being a fat bloke was a great symbol :/

HidingMyHeart · Answer

Do people actually go out of their way to say this horrible stuff? Because that's so mean :(

sheweet · Answer

Honestly, your body is 90% of  YOU anyway, so you're not ugly. YOU'RE 90 % HOT!

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