How often should you contact him?

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to find a healthy contact balance

Men: Ideally, how often would you want your girlfriend to contact you? I'm sure everyday would get annoying, right? (assuming it gets long term)

Women: How often do you contact your boyfriend? How long have you been together?

[virgin_eyes911]

Well my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months now...i'm a really bold person and not all that clingy...I like to have my space. In the beganning of our relationship I found out his girlfriend of 2 years cheated on him with his best friend. It obviously devasted him and he ended up in my eyes seeing every girl as a cheater..I had to pretty much tell him not to let one girl ruin it for him. I pretty quickly got annoyed with his text messages because they always started with "What are you doing?" Where are you>? Who are you with? etc. Most of my friends consisted of guys and for him it was a hurdle to get over. Whenever I had girls night out to the clulb he would continously text. Anyway I ended up telling him, either your going to trust me or were going to break up because if you think I'm going to do what your x did then you might as well get someone like your x and stop wasting my time. I told him his What are you doing text were getting annoying that were not married and he doesn't always need to know where I am or what I doing. He also would get mad when I said I was going on a girlsnight and id tell him what club I was going to and then we might decide to go to a different club and he would be all you lied to me. Which is dumb because anyone can change there mind about where there going. Anyway...I told him I don't do jealous possessive men...a little jealousy is fine but the crazy kind has got to go.

So now our rule is (I made this up) only text me when you have something to talk about...like I don't know

Ex: Hey my manager just came to work drunk... a baby fell out of a file cabinent ...and the sky is green...some girl has a booger in her nose

Or when there's an emergency and you need me...and I told him there's no problem asking me what I'm doing but don't keep asking me.

So don't be to clingy...its unattractive but I would say text him everyday...because its a relationship you want to make sure the person is alive and well

What I do so I make sure I'm not being to clingy and giving him space...Is text my boyfriend once say around 7am each morning (or whenever you wake up). Then he or she shold respond whenever don't get mad if they don't respond immediatly. If within 3 hours the person does not respond send an "are you alive text?" and then if no response within the next 3 hours send an "I guess not text"...if that doesn't work then its your choice to either wait a day or call someone else or go see about your significant other.

but yeah sorry if my advice is not helpful

[Anonymous]

i was dating a guy for four months and we spoke everyday with the exception of the ten days I was out of the country lol it didn't get annoying at all, it was comforting. even though we didn't work out we still talk to each other every second day or so.. when your comfortable with someone and you get along with them you should be able to message them when ever you feel like without being paranoid. with that being said you have to respect how often your boyfriend wants to communicate because everyone is different, but you will be able to figure it out within a couple of weeks easy,

[Asker]

Exactly.

I don't mind contact everyday, but I'm worried that after a while I'll turn into a nag. Personally, all my relationships that had that much contact didn't last very long. So I'm wondering if contacting someone everyday can spoil the relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

youll only turn into a nag if you keep harrassing him to reply etc, and don't always initiate conversation lol do it for a couple of days and put the ball in his court and he will reply when he misses you which shouldn't be too long.

[sugarwookie]

Matters the kind of contact. txting? make sure its a back and forth kind of thing. If he doesn't reply or the answers get short, don't send a bunch of text messages back. Guys need space. Phoning? whenevers a good time, maybe weekly or a little more. It really matters how close you guys are, what kind of person he is, etc. We know women like to talk, but if you get the "leave me alone" signals, just give him some space :)