If I answer yours you have to answer mine :p ...mine's on pg 3 or something btw under my username diggin "is he into me or not" (incase you were wondering! lol).
Ok, first off... you guys just recently starting kicking it. Why even try to label it? ... it's obvious that he's into you BUT I think that you spoke too soon. Why did you say that you think you guys are friends with benefits without any feelings? ...that right there I believe gave him the impression that is all you want to be...friends with benefits!
Like I said, you should have just gone with the flow and things naturally fall into place. I think he wanted to be more than friends but you're giving him the wrong impression that yo're just in it for benefits. So because you gave him the wrong impression that probably made him feel a bit insecure about expressing any feelings or sentiments towards you.
If I were you I'd just continue seeing him, go on dates, do fun things together, etc... and let him know that you're more than just that girl who's a friend with benefits! Assuming that's what you want right?
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To start off guys are complicated. Initially he said that he did not want a relationship because he got out of one. Basically he could be frank in that. It takes guys a while just as it does girls to get over an ex. As far as the conversation goes, since you were being coy it seems like he was doing the same thing. Even though you told him what you two had spoken about it does not seem that you have discussed your feelings for him afterwards. If you have feelings for him then saying that outside of the bedroom actions there was not there was not the best idea. I think that he did get hurt by that. He might be at the stage where he is over his past relationship and he is ready to move farther, but until you are frank with him and tell him exactly how you feel and ask him does he feel the same you will be left playing this game and eventually losing out.
come clean...it sounds like you're both shy.
he might not be that into you, but it sounds like he could be
It sounds to me like he has feelings for you based on the totality of what you said.
On a related concept, though, I'd bet you are giving him mixed signals as well. Guys are capable of "reading between the lines" of what you say -- and will attempt to do so -- despite the stereotype to the contrary. (Though it's always best for a woman to state clearly what she wants and thinks because he's definitely less skilled at it than women are, generally speaking.) Men do tend to say what they think without using subtle implications much more so than women, in my experience. However, a guy may speak gibberish if he hasn't come to a concise conclusion in his own head regarding any given subject -- hence why women beat themselves up wondering what he meant. In other words, HE might not even know what he feels or means, and that's why you ladies get confused at his signals.
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He likes you and is offended. Tell me how you actually feel.
Sounds like hemay have been a bit offended by yout definition of the "thing"that you guys have. and it also sounds likely that he may have wanted to be more than that. Just be straight up and tell him, then you can figure out where both of you stand with each other.
In my opinion, you need to tell him you don't want to be just friends with benefits. You obviously care if he likes you... I think that's the only way to go.
tell him you wanna be more
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