Was I too harsh with him?

[Anonymous]

OK so, I'm about 8 months postpartum, and due to some chronic health conditions I was on modified bed rest almost the whole pregnancy... which lead to me gaining WAY more weight than I would have liked to. Anyways I wasn't cleared to do any sort of physical activities until a few months ago, but I wasn't comfortable working out in public because I know how judgmental people can be.
Well my eldest daughter just started Judo, it's upstairs in a local gym, and Judo parents get a discount; so I figured what the hell I'll just go for it.
Well my very first time at the gym I'm just getting off of the treadmill when I over hear one guy talking to his friend about how it's so disgusting that he has to be subjected to seeing 'fat slobs' (while motioning in my dorection) while he's trying to enjoy his workout.
I lost it on him, I'm already not happy with and self conscious about my body's current state, I didn't need him being an ass about it while I am obviously trying to get back in shape.
There was a long rant and a few choice words that basically came down to me calling him a chauvinistic, shallow, pompous, privileged, asshole.

And his response was to tell me to 'calm my tits' because he didn't know I'd just had a baby he thought I was just fat.


I seriously want to report his behaviour to management, but should I?

[Anonymous]

I think that guy trolls here. There are many like him. He is everything you called him and you weren't too harsh. He deserves half a year of gut wrenching, can't-pucker-hard-enough diarrhea. He's driving away customers and making it hostile for those who stay. If it was my business, I'd want to know about it.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

[10dsw]

Well I'll be the first to admit that I don't like fat chicks.

That being said if I see a chick putting in a conscious effort to lose weight and become healthy, I would support her instead of whining about how she is trying to get in shape. These guys live in their own bubble and need to realize that this is shared space.

[10dsw]

Maybe I'd even cheer her on

[Anonymous]

Absolutely report him! What gives him the right to comment on your appearance and degrade you in front of his friends? You're paying for a service and you have the right to feel safe and welcome while being there. As a paying customer you shouldn't be subjected to some wanker making horrible comments about you either so why is his acceptable?

[RJGraveyTrain]

Honestly... I know it wasn't the morally right thing to do but I feel like it was good on you. I hope he thinks twice about being an insensitive shit talker. I know it's not the most "pure" way to deal with a situation, but I was raised to believe that some people need hard lessons.

Fuck it, if you think it'll do something, report it.

[madhatters4]

no you weren't too harsh. you were pretty accurate. it shouldn't matter why you are overweight he doesn't need to make rude comments

i personally would have told management and probably not confronted him

[brewersfan01]

i think your right in confronting him but to rat him out i dont think would be cool. he was being a fuckin jerk, but it wasn't affecting your workout, there just words.

[jakebrake7]

It's called freedom of speech. As long he is not hurting or harassing you, you can't do anything about it. Otherwise he could report you too.

[Asker]

And what prey tell do you think he'd be able to report me for?

Derogatory comments are absolutely not tolerated in that type of atmosphere, nor should they have to be. That is not freedom of speech, it's just being an asshole, plain and simple.

[Intraluminal]

Nah. You told him off. Good enough.