I would just talk to her. I know women are sensitive about their weight, so maybe talk to her and say that you are concerned that you love her and care about her, but that you have noticed she is gaining weight. She will probably get mad, I don't think there is anyway you can tell her that without her getting mad, it's inevitable. But just say you are worried about her health and how she has been taking care of herself. Ask her if she has been going through a stressful time. Some people are stress eaters and maybe that is what is going on with her.
Well because us girls are often known to have more feelings than guys do I guess. I'm sure that if you told a girl she was getting fat she would be upset but I also imagine a guy would also be upset if a girl told him he was getting fat. The way I see it is its really not okay to say to someone that they are getting fat. maybe you could suggest to her something like working out with you. Or maybe you two could start running together. just don't call her fat or things might not end well for you haahha.
Tell her. Women sometimes think once they got a guy, they can let themselves go. I don't know where they get that thought, they shouldn't let themselves go. Personality is a lot but appearances tie into a relationship still. Tell her you are concerned about her health.
Theres no need to swan in like a big ass and "confront" her, but there's no deal with telling her you don't dig on it. But don't be a big elitist a**hole and do the whole "I'm a healthy-ass so you should be a healthy-ass [unsaid: or you don't even deserve me anyway, fatty]"
You can say something about it. Just try to be tactful about it. Not sure why you think it is okay for girls to get fat, and that the guys shouldn't say anything about it. You know if you were getting fat, she would say something about it.
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There is a way of confronting her without just saying "hey you're getting fat."
Ask her if she is feeling okay or if she is stressed because she just hasn't been herself and she hasn't been taking care of her self as usual. Come more from a place of concern for her and how she's feeling, and it will make you seem less like a jerk.
Quite frankly, it doesn't matter if you are a girl or a guy, its hard to talk to ANYONE about their weight. If I were dating a guy who started to get fat I wouldn't say much, other than "hey I want a running buddy, come with me," and going out and choosing healthier food.
When you get into a long term relationship and you love a person enough, gaining weight doesn't really change your perception of them or how you feel about them.
I didn't say anything when my boyfriend put on 20 pounds because I didn't care.
It's fine to bring up weight gain.
HOWEVER, there's a right way to bring it up & a wrong way to bring it up. Judging by your attitude, you'd more than likely take the wrong way of bringing it up & play victim when her feelings are hurt.
This is kind of off-topic, but just 3-4 days ago you were talking about the girl you like, and now you're talking about your girlfriend (who I assume you've been with for longer than a few days, if she's getting fat?).
I've mostly seen women accept their hubbys/bf's getting beer bellies than the other way around.
For real if your gonna be a jerk about it, why are you even with her? Your making such a big deal about her weight then why stay with her if it bothers you that much? Instead of complaing about it, for real.
Yeah, go for it. She's probably not going to be your girlfriend for much longer though.
Because they will eat your soul if you say something
You can't have your cake and eat it too...mind she'll probably eat yours.
go for it!
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