I really dig females who can take care of themselves (bonus points if you are into any type of martial art! =p) in their day to day lives. That being said, I'd still like her to respect some old school chivalry: holding open a door, pulling out a seat, and yes paying for dinner (at least for some of the nicer dates... if you want to pay for my movie ticket when we go to see Hunger Games and buy me a popcorn and soda, I won't complain ( ^_^ )
But don't get it twisted. I still want you to come and snuggle up to me at night while we watch t.v., ask me to take out the trash, and expect my help when dealing with heavy lifting. It's one thing to be able to do those things on your own. It's another to do those things just to prove a point. I can pick out a shirt and tie as easily as any monkey... I'm still sure as heck gonna ask my fiance if they look good together.
interesting question.
both have their upside.
Its really nice to feel needed. Guys love that. (even if they don't admit it)
And if she pays for everything? That's going to help convince she's not a gold digger.
So that's the upside. THe downside is that many guys are going to think she doesn't really like him. *typically that's friendship behavior*
I would say play a balance, show a guy that you really like him and that there's a place where you need him, but at the same time occasionally pay for things.
i prefer to use my own money , to me it is not right to ask the guys to pay for everything. this is going to be unfair and tough on him. but I do like to have handman :P
I like to make my own money, but handymen are nice :D.
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I prefer a balance.
I'd prefer a girl who isn't afraid to use a drill or pay for a meal once in a while, and isn't completely helpless on her own, but who at the same time appreciates it when I do those things for her, even though I know she is capable, and also doesn't resent it when I occasionally need her to pitch in.
I like taking care of my girl, but I'd rather it be because I WANT to, and not because I HAVE to.
I prefer a girl who is definitely self sufficient. I think it would build for an all around better relationship. She wouldn't always "need" me and so I could tell when she actually wants me rather than is just using me for stuff. Plus there are times where there is too much time together and breaks are needed. A self sufficient person would definitely fill those voids with things of her own to do.
I'm am much more interested in having a collaborator and a partner than someone who is reliant on me for most things. But I also don't want to be with someone who is too independent to accept help or doesn't respect my opinion enough to do things as a team. There has to be a balance.
Self sufficient is great. Guys going for the "needed" explanation you provide end up with mooching girlfriends who then drop the guy when they cannot benefit off of him.
The ones turned off by a self sufficient woman are ones who want what I just described.
However, if she is describing herself as self sufficient with the "I don't need a man" attitude then she is setting herself up for failure.
If she loves me and doesn't drain my happiness or wallet, she can be anything.
Feeling needed does boost my ego and make me feel manly while a self sufficient girl takes away a lot of stress and worry (it can also be a huge turn on). If I had to live with either of those types for the rest of my life, I'd be happy.
Of course the money issue is another thing
If I were to choose, it would be a girl who is self-sufficient. Most arguments are rooted because of financial conditions, so I'll just skip that part.
I prefer she self sufficient financially, meaning she has a job and can pay for her own stuff. but I don't mind if she needs me to do any handyman stuff for her.
Self-sufficient would be great. I pay everything from my gf's rent to other stuff.
I prefer women who are weak-willed and easily intimidated.
A girl that makes her own money is nice but id rather take care of things around the house. I like to pay for my girlfriend when we go out but not every time.
I wouldn't mind if she is open schedule to make time for me
Definitely a girl that is self sufficient. Hard to find girls like that
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