My wife and i have been married for three years and have two kids, a boy (4) and a girl (6). We went through a rough patch In our marriage where we were barely communicating or having sex. I had a three month affair with a co-worker, aka my girlfriend which she found out about when she caught us in bed together. She kicked me out of the house for a few weeks (lived with my girlfriend during the time kicked out) but later let me back in and we've been in couples therapy. Our therapist stressed us to be honest in order to save our marriage and during a session, she confessed that while separated, she hooked up with her longtime friend from college (David). She and David (28 M) have been friends for 8 years now. She confided in me many years ago that David once confessed while in college that he liked her but she saw themselves as best friends. Another round of arguing came up. This man was at our wedding and is frequently around our family. Hell, our kids call him 'Uncle' and he and my wife are inseparable. He was the one 'comforting' her when i was out of the house. I absolutely cannot get over the fact that my wife slept with another guy, much less him of all people. The times we've talked about it, we yell the crazies things. The last time was the most brutal. My wife bragged that it was the best sex she ever had and that the only reasons she isn't with him now is because of our children. She says that he is better looking than me and earns more money than me.
We are really 28 years old each. GAG made an error.
She is planning to leave me, and will not apologize for breaking my heart.
I absolutely do not know what to do and fear that my marriage is over.
tl;dr: My wife slept with her bestfriend while I and wants to leave me for him. What the fuck do I do?
Most Helpful Girl
What on earth... why is it so common for guys to cheat on their girls and then act like they've been wronged more when the girl does it back and ends the relationship?
She absolutely shouldn't have cheated, no. But come on. You cheated on her. Sexually and emotionally. You're both wrong, and this marriage is probably over. I'm sorry, but maybe it's for the best.4
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Most Helpful Guy
Well what do you expect? You cheated on her first and broke her heart... it's doesn't matter what she did after that... you were the one who caused all this... you instead of having an affair should have just gone for the couples therapy...
And by the way she didn't cheat on you cause she was separated from you... so technically you are the only one who cheated... and the things so Said about that guy is because she is hurt and wants revenge and so wants to hurt you... and shy should she apologize? You are the one who should apologize
Now you dont have the right to complain. But you can solve your problem by divorcing her and finding a new one for yourself.. maybe get with the girl you cheated with...0