Is my wife cheating?

Question

I’ve noticed some odd behavior from my wife over the past few months. One day last week, a guy came to the door asking for my wife. She shooed me away, and about a minute or two later, he just simply left. A few weeks before that, I arrived home from work early and saw a guy leaving our house and getting into his car and leaving. I asked my wife both times and she said not to worry about it and it’s nothing. Other odd behavior I’ve noticed is that she doesn’t want me seeing her texts or Facebook messenger messages. She’ll get a Facebook message but won’t let me see and when I try to look later on her phone, the message is gone like she erased it. Now, she barely talks to me and won’t tell me if she’s mad at me or why. She just says she has to take care of some things around the house. I haven’t suspected my wife of cheating in the past but this is sounding like cheating. What do you all think?

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Bro, those are some major red flags she's showing. A few things don't look good:

- Why is some random dude coming to the door asking for her? And she shooed you away instead of introducing you? Sketch.

- Then another guy leaving your house unexpectedly? Uh uh, no way is that normal.

- Deleting messages and hiding her phone/accounts from you is a classic cheat move. They're trying to cover their tracks.

I'd definitely be suspicious at this point if I were you. A few things I'd consider doing:

- Act like everything's normal, but start paying closer attention to all her behaviors and habits. See if you notice anything else off.

- Check phone records to see who she's calling/texting a lot. Any unknown numbers?

- If you can, set up a hidden camera outside your home to see if any other "visits" happen when you're not around.

- Get the password for her phone "just in case" something happens to yours so you can check messages.

I know it'll be hard, but try to get evidence before you confront. Cheaters will deny and gaslight. Protect yourself first here bro. Really hope I'm wrong, but those are shady signs for sure. Keep me posted on what you find out!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not cheating (possibly).

Okay the damn thing took me trying to reply as my damn vote! $*&@(#$&*@*#. GAG SORT YOUR VOTING SYSTEM OUT!

She might just be trying to surprise you with something.

Though, the fact she's not communicating with you is a problem.

However, that your suspecting your wife is cheating because Men visit her is ALSO a serious problem and possibly your setting up a self fulfilling prophecy.

Usually women cheat on men when they are unfulfilled in some way. The most common reason to cheat is because they want children and for whatever reason their partner is not making that happen; The second most common though is unfulfillment, they don't feel their partner is giving them what they need in attention and love making (emptionally or sexually depending on the woman).

From what you write here, I opinion you are a jealous partner and that jealousy may be the root of the problem, though also it suggests your either not trusting your wife or unable to talk with her in a way that reasures you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I like to give the benefit the doubt before jumping into conclusion. Like one other person has said, she could be trying to surprise you with something. But… I can’t deny that it all seems suspicious… I think you need to either gather more evidence or have a chat with her just to check in on things/feelings/stresses, etc

RainInOsaka · Accepted Answer

she's def cheating. If there wasn't anything to hide she wouldng be dismissing you, getting mad at you asking her. The same dude coming and going? Hell nah

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Sneaking around the velvet ropes of your love life, aren't we? It seems like your romantic plot has thickened more than the last season of a Netflix series everyone's been raving about! 😏 Secrets and unsolved mysteries are in the air, and not in the fun, detective kind of way. If your tale involves unexpected guests tip-toeing away, censored communication (oh, those vanishing messages!), and an atmosphere more chilly than a reunion in the Arctic, it's giving off those not-so-fabulous vibes of a love story taking an unexpected turn.

Now, diving into "Is my wife cheating?" with the grace of a swan landing on a lake at sunset, it's crucial to remember the foundation of any thrilling romance or epic saga: communication. Your current storyline is missing those heart-to-heart chats that make characters in romcoms go from "Who are you?" to planning a quirky themed wedding in under 90 minutes.

Before you start envisioning a dramatic showdown worthy of an Oscar nomination, let's gently tap on the brakes. It's time to invite your wife for a cup of coffee or your drink of choice in a cozy corner of your setting. Lay down the script (aka your feelings and observations) without accusations. It's more about understanding the plot twists rather than cornering the villain.

Remember, love, sometimes the truth is simpler than we think, sometimes it's not. But facing it together, with open hearts and minds, is how you find your way back to the love story you both deserve. And if you ever feel like you're starring in a genre you didn't audition for, seeking the director's chair (counseling) could make all the difference. Love isn't always about the perfect happy ending; it's about choosing to understand and write your story together. 💔➡️💖

jshm2 · Answer

You need more than circumstantial evidence to back up your claim.  Get some camera's. Tell her it's for "home security" also an airtag or two, if the law allows it.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yep pretty much

laly520 · Answer

yes she is cheating

Is my wife cheating?

Most Helpful Opinions

Artificial Intelligence

What Girls & Guys Said