If your wife cheated and got pregnant would you still raise the baby?

[CT_CD]

I would raise the baby

I wouldn't raise the baby

Something else

[Oigit]

If a dna test proved that it was indeed my child, I'd be quick to get a lawyer and push for custody. So I can raise the child as the primary parent and divorce my wife. Because I don't want my child to live in a house where trust will always be an issue. Also I would want the main parent of my child to be a person that clearly does not value trust. Because I wouldn't want my child to be taught not to value trust by its main parents actions.

If the child isn't mine, I will divorce my wife and have nothing to do with the child. Because I have no doubts that attempting to raise the child or be around it would cause some serious mental and emotional issues in me. I do not want want to have a child around me when I'm dealing with them.

[MrOracle]

Not a chance in hell! It would be much closer to this:

[AlienParasite]

I wouldn't be able to trust a person that has cheated on me. So I wouldn't forgive that woman and I couldn't keep in a relationship with her. We would have break up or I'd have to ask for divorce. As much as like children, mine or not, I don't have any legal responsibility or rights over this kid, plus helping to raise it means keep contact with a person I want out of my life. So I wouldn't help to raise it. At all.

Anyways that's me. If the guy on reddit is ok with all that, fine. It's his life. He's free to make his own choices, whether they are wise decisions or mistakes.

[Daniela1982]

I would think the guy would tell her to GTFO and go raise the little bastard with her new boyfriend. Of course the cunt would be back asking for forgiveness when her boyfriend dumps her.

[Daniela1982]

To down voters- what? why the down vote if you have the guts to tell me.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

@daniela1982 I’m with you on this one & I would tell her to GTFO too.

[TruthBringer]

@daniela1982 You tell them Daniela!

[AFellowWeeb]

A cuckold and a slut downvoted you, let them be, downvotes are better than upvotes in this website full of delusional people

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm 65 years old, almost 66. I'm not going to start raising someone else's baby! I'd be 84 years old when junior graduated from high school!

[Daniela1982]

You have your own passle of circumstances. I'm sure you would not find yourself in that situation.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is extremely unlikely that I would become married to a woman who was still in her child bearing years.

[Daniela1982]

You never know. The people in here say age is just a number as they lust after 16 year old girls.

[hi_it_is_me123]

You are really 65? So you was a young man in 80s? Man this is soo cool. I am sorry lol. I am so curious how the life in 80s

[OlderAndWiser]

@hi_it_is_me123 I was 25 years old on January 1, 1980.

[SavageGirl101]

If I was a Man I would abandon that baby cause it’s not mine and I’ll be damned if imma raise someone else’s son

[Unit1]

Would you raise it if it was someone else's daughter?

[SavageGirl101]

doesn’t matter the gender

[Anonymous]

Very difficult, depends on the circumstances.
In this case though, he'd been married for 10 years. Presumably reasonably successfully as they are still together now after 20 years. And now they have 4 kids together. Although we don't know when these appeared I'd suggest some were from before she went off and shagged someone else. Otherwise it would be easier to say bye bye.
He appears to be very committed to his kids so one more is not onerous.
I would have suggested he told the child from the start that he had a different dad ("we loved you so much we kept you to ourselves but you'll meet him some day").
So given the circumstances, I can understand why he wants to look passed her transgression and get on with raising his kids.

[Screenwriter]

Compassionate reply. I can see this happening. The quality of mercy is not strained, it falleth as the gentle rain from heaven. This is an extraordinary man. I hope she knows who she's married to and lives to work for his forgiveness in her actions.

[TruthBringer]

Ever heard of the term CUCK? Yeah. That's what any man would be if he takes back a cheating partner and raises a child not his own. So my answer is I kick her to the curb and she can go raise the bastard with the other dude. And if that guy ditches her, not my problem.

[AFellowWeeb]

Yup, you didn't made the baby, why bother with them?

[Agape93]

Nope. That’s her own damn fault, and she can get the fuck out of my house.

[Bananaman177]

The baby can stay, but the whore is going to have a tragic boating accident. Scott Peterson style.

If I get caught and go to prison, then the State can raise the baby and I'll finally be able to catch up on my reading list.

Everything is real fuckin' simple when you get right down to it.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I'd leave. Not because it was someone else's baby, I don't care about that. I don't stay with cheaters and I do not want to be a father. I wasn't sterilized just for kicks. I'm serious about never having kids. I wouldn't feel any obligation to my (soon to be ex) wife and her kid

[Shiver]

No, unless the kid's got no one else, I'm not taking care of him.
My girlfriend and I will probably end up adopting, so the kid not biologically being mine wouldn't matter to me, it would be the violation of, well, everything a marriage is supposed to stand for.

[AffectionKing]

Nope i wouldn't. Cheating is like attempted murder in a way. You could catch something that could kill you or make your life a living hell. But salute to who ever did stay. She couldn't love him when she had someone else's mushroom tip in her going balls deep. Maybe the guy have low self esteem. I don't know but i couldn't stay afyer 9 years together she cheated. That's a waste of time. Who says she stopped cheating or that was her first time.

[Drumlin2001]

What isn't explained in the article is which child out of the 5 kids this was, fist, last or in the middle. If you have a family with 4 kids it'ld be difficult to break that up.
Raising a child that wasn't biologically mine wouldn't be an issue to me, as long as i knew. Her betrayal would be the issue.

[Anonymous]

Under no circumstances I would raise the child, as I hate having responsibilities on my shoulders, let alone another man's responsibilities!

If it happened to me, it'd be a real tragedy because I'd 100% divorce her and I'm crazy enough to defraud my own to keep the money property or even burn it in order to impede her from taking any part of it.

[Opinion Owner]

Defraud my own property*

[AmeerX]

The guy seems pretty chill about the affair. If it was me I did totally be furious about it. Doing it with my knowledge is okay like some people can't have children and they need surrogate mother but doing it behind my back means it was wrong and trust is broken.
As for the child I think I would be conflicted. If it is still in pregnancy stage I might ask for abortion

[Vesuvius87]

Yes he seems strangely chilled. I'm wondering if he cheated too (since he still referred to the biological father as a good guy) and therefore found forgiveness easier.

[AmeerX]

@Vesuvius87 you really explained it. I had same doubt

[KyceG]

The only way I would, would be if I already had kids with my wife and the child’s dad was a dead beat. My dads baby momma got pregnant when he went to prison for 3months he got out and treats her son just like his own but she’s been wanting him back now for 10years she has been single and he bossed up on her. I definitely would never give her another chance, that would make you a sucker.

[spartan55]

Good lord, no way. She could raise the kid on her own.

[hahahmm]

Not in any normal scenarios. In a weird scenario like stranded in the mountains, 300 miles from civilization, sure. I will help keep the kid safe & fed because it will die without me.

[Anonymous]

NO, If this is the only child, we'd be divorced before the birth of the child I'd have no blood tie to it, it would be for Ex wife and AP to sort out.
If there are other children from the marriage I'd have them paternity tested if only to set my own mind at rest, as if the wife has done this once she may have done it previously

[Miristheiss]

Hell no.
If my wife cheated.
Divorce she is dead to me.
If she got pregnant and the child was biologically the other mans?
That is his problem and her problem. I'm gone.

[Billlewis]

I absolutely would raise, nurture and provide financial support for the child my mistress had by another guy, and I actually view this scenario as the ideal arrangement for me.

[ShadezMcgee]

Fuck no. I would divorce her and kick her the hell out of the house. She wants to cheat and get knocked up by another guy, great. She can pack her her crap up and move in with him.

[Jjpayne]

I would help raise the baby but it just depends on her level of wanting to remain together and exclusive from here on and if she only wanted the person she had the baby with to help raise the child

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I think I would tell her to GTFO and go raise the baby with her new boyfriend & if the cunt comes back asking for forgiveness when her boyfriend dumps her oh well.

[Mr_longLegz]

I'd be out of there. I'm generally an open minded person with relationships but my number 1 rule is, no kids. And thinking I would pause my life just to raises someone else's kid for them... absolutely not.

[OfMiceandMen]

I'm afraid she would be on her own if it was not my child. If it was mine, we'd likely still be apart and just raise a child together.

[FocusOfSuspicion]

If my husband had a child with another woman who didn’t want the child or who died/otherwise became incapacitated I’d raise the child.

[Anonymous]

No id dump her. Though its said that 1in3 men unknowingly raise kids that is not their own.
Imagine your a British soldier who's been away since 1939 fighting Germans and japanese then you come home in 1945to find you've a 3 year old.

[Avicenna]

No way. I’d divorce her and get a paternity test showing I’m not the father.

[Avicenna]

And I’d do my best to get custody of my kids.

[Eeyore18]

I would only raise the child if the biological father stepped out of the picture. Or if the guy was abusive.

[Dchrls78104]

No! I'd make her get out of my house and my life, and take her little bastard with her!

[Liam_Hayden]

Hell no. I'm already involuntarily cucked via high taxes by every freeloading welfare baby factory. I would never voluntarily do so.

[Unit1]

Which state charges higher taxes from childless citizens?

[Anonymous]

I have actually heard that in some states, under certain circumstances, the husband is legally required to support the baby. Even if the biological father is someone else. Weird I know.

[OmNomaly]

That's fucked up, if that's true.

[Avicenna]

@OmNomaly: Thats if he doesn’t contest it within the first few years of the child’s life. A child born to a married woman is presumed under law to be the husbands.

[msc545]

@Avicenna It is a rebuttable presumption, but in most states, there is a time limit such that if the husband doesn't discover it in X number of days, he is stuck with the bills including child support. So all the woman has to do is get away with her lie for a certain period of time, and she is rewarded with lots of money. Essentially this rewards FRAUD and its completely unfair and unjust. In California,

"You have 30 days to take a paternity test if you wish to dispute a summons from your local child support agency. If you miss this deadline, the courts will establish you as the legal parent even with evidence demonstrating otherwise. Always respond to a summons or complaint from a child support agency right away. Fill out the appropriate court forms, have a lawyer review your paperwork, take the necessary tests, and serve your papers to the child support agency. The agency may then dismiss your case if a paternity test shows you are not the father."

30 days to discover a lie. Great.

[Avicenna]

@msc545 äh: In what scenario would a child support agency be contacting a married father about a child born to his wife?

Paternity fraud is surprisingly common.

[msc545]

@Avicenna They contact fathers to extract child support from them, and to get them to admit paternity if the mother named them but there has been no DNA test.

[Avicenna]

@msc545: When they’re separated or still live together? This make no sense for a married couple otherwise. Unmarried, yes, although obviously 30 days is way too short.

[msc545]

@Avicenna I think this is done primarily with unmarried couples. Also with both married couples and unmarried couples, they send some to go to the hospital after the baby is born to get the man to sign papers admitting he is the father. They do this in front of the mother. When my daughter was born they came to our hospital room and tried to get me to sign such papers. I excused myself, called security, and had them thrown out. My ex-wife and I were VERY offended. I was doubly offended given that I am on staff at that hospital.

[Avicenna]

@msc545: Whoa. Remind me never to have a child in California.
Now, I've got something even worse to share with you. In Germany, unmarried mothers are urged by the person who issues the birth certificate to leave the father off of the birth certificate so they can disappear with the child if they wish. This apparently happens even when the father is present and the couple tells the registrar that they are engaged! This did not happen to me (presumably because I was married when all three of my children were born), but I've heard from a large number of reliable sources that it occurs regularly.

[msc545]

@Avicenna Wow. That is just awful. Actually, you should never come to the US at all. Totally corrupt shithole.

[msc545]

@OmNomaly Yes, it is true.

[Opinion Owner]

@msc545 I am the opinion owner, and I live in California. I didn't even know that it was this bad! LOL

[Avicenna]

@msc545: I'm in the US, but lived over half my adult life in Germany.

[msc545]

@Avicenna Lucky you! I would LOVE to live in Germany.

[msc545]

@OmNomaly it's true. :(

[Avicenna]

@msc545: Not right now you don't- it's Lockdown Central. My kids are bored out of their minds.
Even in the best of times, it's got its pluses and minuses. I'm actually glad to be back in the US.

[msc545]

@Avicenna It might be lockdown central, but compared to where I live (LA) I bet it's safer. Our hospital has NO ICU beds.

[Avicenna]

@msc545: Yeah, OK, well, LA is a pretty bad place for most people today. I've got some relatives in Cali, and I hear all the time from them what it's like.

[msc545]

@Avicenna It's far worse than I ever thought possible.

[Avicenna]

@msc545: Ugh!

[msc545]

@Avicenna I know :( :( :(

[Texaskid1]

Fuck no.

I would send her and the other guy' s kid packing.

[Unit1]

What a bloody cuckold. 🤦‍♀️
He should be ashamed of himself.

[JakeS00]

She chose to be unfaithful like that. She must deal with those consequences while she leaves my house.

[JCT666]

No. I would leave her and immediately get a paternity test so that she doesn't try to force me to pay for her bastard offspring.

[The_Outlaw]

FUCK no. She'd be my ex wife. Cheaters ARE SO out the door. See ya. Wouldn't want to be ya. Please forget to write. Good fucking riddance. Who in the hell would even want to do this?

[LEADFOOTboi]

right there... that's when you take hold of your self worth and respect...
and you divorce her for her crime... put her away for she has committed treason to you

[Don-__-Don]

Hate me if you must, but I'm not raising a child that's not mine.

[NarutoUzumaki007]

i might take the baby if it has no where to go but I will definitely kick the wife out of my life

[Anonymous]

I know about 5 guys that would punch her in the gut hard enough to abort the illegitimate bastard and possibly kill the mother. I would never do that or advocate that but that is the reality of how some men would view her cheating ass

[Daniela1982]

Who are these tards? I want to kick them in the nuts so hard that it ruptures them!

[Opinion Owner]

@Daniela1982 They are fellow nurses at a private obstetrics practice in Miami. Do you want their name and addresses or should I have them contact you here via DM?

[SomeBlondeChick]

Give me their names & addresses. I've relatives in Miami who been police would love to kick these worthless shits around a bit before dumping them in jail where their assholes will be used so much you can pass a train through it.

[SomeBlondeChick]

Or as women abusers are oftentimes at the bottom of the totem pole in jail... they may just be dead by the end of the week if such cowardly behavior became common knowledge to general pop.

[Daniela1982]

no doubt that some women who use abortion as their form of birth control need to have their tubes tied and their vaginas sewed shut.

[Opinion Owner]

@SomeBlondeChick How can we jail them for something that they would do but haven't done before. Should we set up a sting?

[Anonymous]

I would not raise another man's child and pay for it. That makes me a cuck - no thanks. The child is his problem. Additionally, my wife would very quickly be my ex-wife, and she could be his problem too. I won't live with a cheater.

[TheAfrikan]

I hate that Drama if she is pregnant it means that it was not a one time thing. So I just let her go and raise the kid with the guy who got her pregnant.

[loveslongnails]

Not me - that's their problem now. And I'm not paying her alimony either!

[locutus9999]

nope the baby have other father to make that, also I will end the relation and any contact for life, ASAP.

[ChefPapiChulo]

i would never get married. So wouldn't happen to me.

[TheFreakishGeek]

Ain’t my DNA & doesn’t look like me so HELL NO! I’d let the bitch an the other guy take care of the child

[shiril]

I will get divorced.
I have no role in her pregnancy

[Twalli]

I literally can't get a woman pregnant. So M if a girl is with me and gets pregnant I'm gone.

[JonAppstar]

The fact she cheated means she is responsible for her child and that man is responsible for that child. Not you. Dump scandalous hoes.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Let me think about it...

NO.

[Anonymous]

He just got trapped because he already had kids with his cheating wife.
Otherwise most guys would leave her.

[disgustingweebtrash]

I have self respect so I wouldn't.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

No. I would divorce and leave her with the baby.

[Trooper205]

Yes! I'll claim it as my own.

[Wewladdy]

She'd be divorced immediately

[Juxtapose]

No lol, I'm not a cuck.

[sp33d]

I can afford not to so I wouldn't.

[Dbach]

Hell no and I would divorce her.

[admles]

Hell no.

Divorce court here we come.

[bamesjond0069]

Wtf is wrong with this guy? Smh.

[SnackAttack7]

FUCK NO.