If your wife cheated and got pregnant would you still raise the baby?

[CT_CD]

I would raise the baby

I wouldn't raise the baby

Something else

[Oigit]

If a dna test proved that it was indeed my child, I'd be quick to get a lawyer and push for custody. So I can raise the child as the primary parent and divorce my wife. Because I don't want my child to live in a house where trust will always be an issue. Also I would want the main parent of my child to be a person that clearly does not value trust. Because I wouldn't want my child to be taught not to value trust by its main parents actions.

If the child isn't mine, I will divorce my wife and have nothing to do with the child. Because I have no doubts that attempting to raise the child or be around it would cause some serious mental and emotional issues in me. I do not want want to have a child around me when I'm dealing with them.

[MrOracle]

Not a chance in hell! It would be much closer to this:

[AlienParasite]

I wouldn't be able to trust a person that has cheated on me. So I wouldn't forgive that woman and I couldn't keep in a relationship with her. We would have break up or I'd have to ask for divorce. As much as like children, mine or not, I don't have any legal responsibility or rights over this kid, plus helping to raise it means keep contact with a person I want out of my life. So I wouldn't help to raise it. At all.

Anyways that's me. If the guy on reddit is ok with all that, fine. It's his life. He's free to make his own choices, whether they are wise decisions or mistakes.

[Daniela1982]

I would think the guy would tell her to GTFO and go raise the little bastard with her new boyfriend. Of course the cunt would be back asking for forgiveness when her boyfriend dumps her.

[Daniela1982]

To down voters- what? why the down vote if you have the guts to tell me.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

@daniela1982 I’m with you on this one & I would tell her to GTFO too.

[TruthBringer]

@daniela1982 You tell them Daniela!

[AFellowWeeb]

A cuckold and a slut downvoted you, let them be, downvotes are better than upvotes in this website full of delusional people

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm 65 years old, almost 66. I'm not going to start raising someone else's baby! I'd be 84 years old when junior graduated from high school!

[Daniela1982]

You have your own passle of circumstances. I'm sure you would not find yourself in that situation.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is extremely unlikely that I would become married to a woman who was still in her child bearing years.

[Daniela1982]

You never know. The people in here say age is just a number as they lust after 16 year old girls.

[hi_it_is_me123]

You are really 65? So you was a young man in 80s? Man this is soo cool. I am sorry lol. I am so curious how the life in 80s

[OlderAndWiser]

@hi_it_is_me123 I was 25 years old on January 1, 1980.

[Anonymous]

Very difficult, depends on the circumstances.
In this case though, he'd been married for 10 years. Presumably reasonably successfully as they are still together now after 20 years. And now they have 4 kids together. Although we don't know when these appeared I'd suggest some were from before she went off and shagged someone else. Otherwise it would be easier to say bye bye.
He appears to be very committed to his kids so one more is not onerous.
I would have suggested he told the child from the start that he had a different dad ("we loved you so much we kept you to ourselves but you'll meet him some day").
So given the circumstances, I can understand why he wants to look passed her transgression and get on with raising his kids.

[Screenwriter]

Compassionate reply. I can see this happening. The quality of mercy is not strained, it falleth as the gentle rain from heaven. This is an extraordinary man. I hope she knows who she's married to and lives to work for his forgiveness in her actions.

[SavageGirl101]

If I was a Man I would abandon that baby cause it’s not mine and I’ll be damned if imma raise someone else’s son

[Unit1]

Would you raise it if it was someone else's daughter?

[SavageGirl101]

doesn’t matter the gender

[TruthBringer]

Ever heard of the term CUCK? Yeah. That's what any man would be if he takes back a cheating partner and raises a child not his own. So my answer is I kick her to the curb and she can go raise the bastard with the other dude. And if that guy ditches her, not my problem.

[AFellowWeeb]

Yup, you didn't made the baby, why bother with them?

[Agape93]

Nope. That’s her own damn fault, and she can get the fuck out of my house.

[Bananaman177]

The baby can stay, but the whore is going to have a tragic boating accident. Scott Peterson style.

If I get caught and go to prison, then the State can raise the baby and I'll finally be able to catch up on my reading list.

Everything is real fuckin' simple when you get right down to it.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I'd leave. Not because it was someone else's baby, I don't care about that. I don't stay with cheaters and I do not want to be a father. I wasn't sterilized just for kicks. I'm serious about never having kids. I wouldn't feel any obligation to my (soon to be ex) wife and her kid

[Shiver]

No, unless the kid's got no one else, I'm not taking care of him.
My girlfriend and I will probably end up adopting, so the kid not biologically being mine wouldn't matter to me, it would be the violation of, well, everything a marriage is supposed to stand for.

[AffectionKing]

Nope i wouldn't. Cheating is like attempted murder in a way. You could catch something that could kill you or make your life a living hell. But salute to who ever did stay. She couldn't love him when she had someone else's mushroom tip in her going balls deep. Maybe the guy have low self esteem. I don't know but i couldn't stay afyer 9 years together she cheated. That's a waste of time. Who says she stopped cheating or that was her first time.

[Drumlin2001]

What isn't explained in the article is which child out of the 5 kids this was, fist, last or in the middle. If you have a family with 4 kids it'ld be difficult to break that up.
Raising a child that wasn't biologically mine wouldn't be an issue to me, as long as i knew. Her betrayal would be the issue.

[Anonymous]

Under no circumstances I would raise the child, as I hate having responsibilities on my shoulders, let alone another man's responsibilities!

If it happened to me, it'd be a real tragedy because I'd 100% divorce her and I'm crazy enough to defraud my own to keep the money property or even burn it in order to impede her from taking any part of it.

[Opinion Owner]

Defraud my own property*

[AmeerX]

The guy seems pretty chill about the affair. If it was me I did totally be furious about it. Doing it with my knowledge is okay like some people can't have children and they need surrogate mother but doing it behind my back means it was wrong and trust is broken.
As for the child I think I would be conflicted. If it is still in pregnancy stage I might ask for abortion

[Vesuvius87]

Yes he seems strangely chilled. I'm wondering if he cheated too (since he still referred to the biological father as a good guy) and therefore found forgiveness easier.

[AmeerX]

@Vesuvius87 you really explained it. I had same doubt

[KyceG]

The only way I would, would be if I already had kids with my wife and the child’s dad was a dead beat. My dads baby momma got pregnant when he went to prison for 3months he got out and treats her son just like his own but she’s been wanting him back now for 10years she has been single and he bossed up on her. I definitely would never give her another chance, that would make you a sucker.

[spartan55]

Good lord, no way. She could raise the kid on her own.

[hahahmm]

Not in any normal scenarios. In a weird scenario like stranded in the mountains, 300 miles from civilization, sure. I will help keep the kid safe & fed because it will die without me.

[Miristheiss]

Hell no.
If my wife cheated.
Divorce she is dead to me.
If she got pregnant and the child was biologically the other mans?
That is his problem and her problem. I'm gone.

[Billlewis]

I absolutely would raise, nurture and provide financial support for the child my mistress had by another guy, and I actually view this scenario as the ideal arrangement for me.

[ShadezMcgee]

Fuck no. I would divorce her and kick her the hell out of the house. She wants to cheat and get knocked up by another guy, great. She can pack her her crap up and move in with him.

[Jjpayne]

I would help raise the baby but it just depends on her level of wanting to remain together and exclusive from here on and if she only wanted the person she had the baby with to help raise the child

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I think I would tell her to GTFO and go raise the baby with her new boyfriend & if the cunt comes back asking for forgiveness when her boyfriend dumps her oh well.