I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. And I want to ask her to marry me. But, I'm afraid it might be too soon. I've heard of people getting married after being together for this amount of time, but at the same time, I don't wanna freak her out by dropping the marriage bomb so soon. I'm afraid that if she does say no, simply because it's too soon, it might have a bad effect on the relationship.
Any opinions? I have had girlfriends in the past, but this relationship is different. I am genuinely in love with her, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. This is the only girl I have ever felt this way about. I don't want to screw this up.
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I've been in relationships where at five months I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this person, and then five months after that I realize that I was wrong and I actually didn't know a lot of stuff that this person was keeping from me. I'm not saying that you should wait, though, because it might be totally different in your case. Just personally, I have been through a lot of failed relationships that have lasted a long time, and then we just became very different people, or I found out things that were pretty essential that I hadn't been told previously. I know I have the pessimistic side of things, but this is how my life has gone.
I think a good question to ask is, what would she have to do to get you to break up with her, what could you forgive her for, do you want to live with her the rest of your life? Also, would she do those things, ever, does she understand what those things are? Also, are you going to have to move to another part of the country or the world? Do your life goals mix? Do you agree on children? Do you handle fights well (i.e. reasoning and making changes, as opposed to throwing fits or avoiding arguments)? How quickly do your lives and opinions change?0