I want to be a tough guy. I want to look confident when I m with girls. I want them to feel secure when they r with me. but I m just the opposite. I have the anger but my hands n feet gets cold n weak when I start arguing with guys. I have been involved in 4 or 5 fights n most of the time I've got beaten up. I want to hit first but I can't do it as a result I will be the first one to receive it n as I receive the first blow I get down on the ground n get punched n kicked until someone intervenes. I have had my nose bled n eyes cut in most of the cases. it's so embarrassing. I feel like a pussy. Am i a pussy for always getting beaten up? what should I do?
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Do you train in boxing/muay thai/mma/krav maga? If not, do that. Learning how to hit hard is the most important thing.
As for not being able to throw the first punch, that's normal. When it's getting heated your body produces the "fight or flight" response and pumps you full of adrenaline. You'll probably feel weaker and start shaking a bit, and usually people mistake this for fear, but it's just the affects of adrenaline. Adrenaline makes you faster, stronger, and it numbs pain. It happens because back in caveman times there was a lot of danger from predators, the animals our ancestors hunted for food, or rival tribes. It's a performance enhancer. We feel the affects of it more today, and we become confused by the effects because there's little danger nowadays.
I used to be the same until I started boxing with some guys I knew. We'd do a lot of sparring, and they were twice my size so they'd beat the shit out of me twice a week every week at first, until I started getting better and better. When you do it every week it's no big deal, you don't get scared or intimidated by anybody. Just like I said, the reason you feel so nervous is because you don't face violence very often.0