What do you think of a protective boyfriend?

[Confused614]

Like for example say your walking down the street and some guy yells "nice ass" or something along those lines you don't think much of it besides being a little rude but you call your boyfriend and just let him in on it he drives down there and bits the crap out of the guy is this over protective. yes or no what do you consider over protective.

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I would also like to point out that this has nothing to do with me or any personal accounts just a general question. That is way to much trouble for me its much funnier to watch the girl kick him in the balls or verbally abuse him

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

If he's gonna beat the crap out of some guy for that, then yes too overprotective and I'd probably leave him in fear he'd end up being some controlling jerk later. I get looks, even comments, all the time (what girl doesn't) and my husband takes it as a compliment. He says "I know I have you and they don't, so I don't need to worry. I'm glad other guys want you". He will get overprotective if a guy touches me, or tries anything. But, if he didn't, I'd be worried. Other than that, he always lets looks and comments slide. I do the same with him.

[mountain-girl]

I agree that it would be funnier for the woman to turn around and kick him in the balls! Hahaha, then brush off her dress, fluff her hair and go on her way! That would be classic! It would be a bit extreme for your boyfriend to come down and beat the guy up and do guys really still yell that out to girls these days? I always think men have moved beyond that sort of thing.

[WeaponZero]

You'd think that, but no. It's insensitive definitely but the guy who reacts violently to it is even worse.

[shes-a-lady]

yea if he beat s him that's too much. he can get p*ssed if other guys hit on me in front of me, but no need to hit him. he's just a loser anyway?

if he hit him, I'd start wondering what would happen if he ever lost control like that with me..so yea, no violence please.

[ElementoP]

Here is the right amount of protection:
Dude yells nice ass- tell him to fuck off
Dude grabs or slaps her ass- shove him and say he better back off
Dude steals her purse- tackle him and lay a few hits on him
Dude hits grabs or attacks her- beat the ever living shit out of him until he's unconscious
Anything more warrants death/ a new boyfriend because a a capable man should never let anything happen to his lady.
Good day

[That-Guy]

If a guy yells out "nice ass."

i'd turn and give him a seductive *wink.

[Confused614]

Hahah funny you win best anwser

[AJtogo]

This isn't being protective; this is being an idiot.

I see two endings to this story. Firstly, guys who yell out "nice ass" are with their friends because this is a group behaviour. Your boyfriend would receive a multiple ass kicking if he attempted his protective behaviour. Or, secondly, he would be charged with assault.

Beating someone up over some verbal slur is nonsense.

[WeaponZero]

I don't get along with you and I don't really like you. but lately I've found myself agreeing with some of your answers more and more, including this one. what is the world coming to? =(

[laurami]

ive been in this situation before and my ex went up to the car of guys and offered to beat them up. I thought it was really sexy and cute. over protective is when he goes through your phone deleting every guy in there or answers the phone when a guy calls.

[pwl0lwp]

i'd call that scarily violent, actually. if he were with you & reacting at the time, that's one thing, but to take the effort to drive over and beat up on some guy is something else - overprotective and then some.

[Anonymous]

I want a boyfriend who can be my partner and companion, not my bodyguard. I'm quite capable of sticking up for myself thank you and if I don't see that it's worth causing a scene over then I wouldn't want my boyfriend doing it either. Yes I do think that is overprotective.

[shes-a-lady]

Try walking home alone at night and tell me you don't need one lol

[ctinaditty4]

It can be a definite turn off. The boyfriend really needs to be able to just console his girlfriend. Girls don't understand why guys like to solve everything with violence. If it bothers her, then just help her feel better about it. Maybe even make a joke like, "Well, he was right!" or something along those lines that helps her boost her confidence. Just, beating the crap out of a guy solves nothing.

[LoveStruck-Starship]

I wouldn't want him to beat the guy up, if anything just have you tell the guy to be a little more polite.

I wouldn't want him to beat up other guys, but stand up for me is a good thing.

Just don't be freaky jealous if other guys talk to me.

[WeaponZero]

Thats not protective, its stupid and its going to land him in jail. It means he's insecure and has an inferiority complex, and that he truly is something worthless and less than human. He deserves no respect from me. And you know what? All of that applies to the girl who is willing to put up with him too. They're perfect for each other, two worthless pieces of sh*t who are hopefully going to end up in a lot of trouble someday.

[Anonymous]

Protective is good. But there comes a point where it's no longer protective but possessive, obsessive, and borderline psychopath. I would expect any man who tries to act as my protector to be able to assess whether or not there is a need for protection. If I am not in any sort of danger then there is no need for him to step in and try to assume his "protector" role.

[misha1992]

personally, I love a protective boyfriend. mine won't even let his friends hug me. I find it absoluely adorable!

[elegantprincess]

you're lucky. I need a man like this 😭

[amariekel]

a guy being protective is probably the sexiest thing a man can do, it makes us feel like we're something worth protecting ;P

[shes-a-lady]

Yea true. being protective is hot :) aggressive (anywhere outside the bedroom :)) is not.

[shes-a-lady]

Yea true. being protective is hot. aggressive (anywhere outside the bedroom :)) is not.

[Tiffany-in-okc]

thats over protective.and that's a major turn off. but a little bit of protectiveness is sexy

[Anonymous]

i like to have a guy, no wait, I would LOVE to have a protective boyfriend! I would feel safe in his arms and love to be with him more

[shes-a-lady]

Totally.

[elegantprincess]

oh yes same!!

[Anonymous]

Beating someone up over a remark is a little psycho.

[RyeLee]

No, that is my personal biggest turn on!

[Confused614]

So you would like him being that protective?

[RyeLee]

I would love him to be that protective. I absolutely hate when guys hit on me, and my boyfriend doesn't do anything about it. Its suchhhh a turn off. Its like he doesn't care enough to say anything.

[WeaponZero]

But it also shows insecurity of the guy is the thing. the way I see it, its ok for your guy to say something about it to the other guy but to get violent or even threaten violence because of it means that not only is he scum who is less than human, but so is the girl who is with him.

[WeaponZero]

And you know what? Guys like that are most likely to be abusive too, because a violent person is a violent person, period. I hope you like how you look with a black eye and some missing teeth.

[RyeLee]

It MIGHT show that he is insecure with our relationship and that he might feel threatened by the other guy. BUT my dad was that way. He was extremely protective of my mom, my sister, and I. My dad would never hurt any of us, but he would hurt anyone who messed with me in anyway. I would like a guy who can find a balance like my dad did. Not a guy who is abusive....a guy who is protective.

[RyeLee]

A violent guy has more characteristics than just violence. The guy I want needs to also be wise enough to decide when to use it. That is the kind of guy I am talking about. So that whole abusive thing does not pertain to me.

[RyeLee]

And why would that make the girl "scum" to be with a guy who thinks she's worth fighting for?

[WeaponZero]

Because fighting in and of itself is an act of self defense, or should be anyway. if you or he are not in danger then he should not fight, ever. and if he beats somebody up for hitting on you then he is a violent person, and that's all there is to it.

[RyeLee]

I still didn't get the part how it would make the girl scum...but yes, I agree with that. Violence shouldn't be the 1st answer. If a guy were just hitting on me, I would expect my boyfriend to tell him to back off. If he said something derogatory or touched me, my boyfriend better beat the crap out of him lol.

[Confused614]

Wow I had 10 new answers and didn't know y. Well I found them all right here! lol I do agree with Weapon zero on this I think some1 being

[Confused614]

That protective and physically he has some problems of his own. If it were me I would just tell him to watch his mouth if he was stupid enough to same something back then he would get smacked. Like you said RyeLee, violence shouldn't be the only way. I agree with you on the fact that it doesn't make a girl scum for being with a guy like that because most likely that's not the reason your attracted to him. I also think that that the middle thing might be ideal but its rare, but good luck finding him!!!!

[WeaponZero]

I have known enough women to know that when women are willing to put up with men who are violent, it means there is something wrong with those women themselves as well. Take my sister for instance. Her husband once got them both thrown out of a bar because he started a fight with a guy who offered to buy my sister a drink. He is a piece of sh*t and I know enough about her to know that, well, lets just say they were made for each other. That's what I meant.

[WeaponZero]

And also I'm sorry but unless your life is in danger or your boyfriend's is, he should never, ever, EVER get physical over anything. But I guess that is what sets modern, intelligent men apart from cavemen.

[kittycat12345]

It is sooo over protective!

[mscuriosity]

LOVE IT! :)